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Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Things On My Mind.

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This post is about things on my mind.

And in my heart.

And while it may seem crazy to some to find it hard to be away from home when it is “only a dog” that has undergone surgery, I’m having a very difficult time being away right now.

This little girl has been such a huge part of our family over the past 10 years, I really don’t know what I would do without her.

I think I am feeling a bit out of sorts this morning because of this whole being away thing.  This is a LONG trip and there will only be a few days to get ready for another LONG TRIP in between this one and the next one.

Sadie will be fine.  The surgery went well, and since she was under anyway, she also got her teeth cleaned and her nails trimmed.  All shots are now up to date, which is good because my travel schedule put her a bit behind as it was hard to sync times to get that done.

It was kind of like forgetting that your drivers license had expired.


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This was Jeff’s message when he got her home.

This came at 6pm last night, just as I was arriving in Tifton, GA where I am teaching today.  I rested a lot easier knowing that she was home and being cared for.

Today she is in the care of The Hubster as sons Jeff and Jason are on their way to Colorado for a music festival.  Jeff just landed in Atlanta where he is meeting Jason and they will be on the same flight to Denver together. I love that my boys are close enough that they choose to do things like this together just the two of them.

I love that they are friends as well as brothers. Have an awesome time, boys!! Xoxoxox!

While I try to keep this blog mostly about quilting with some history stuff and travel stuff included, and while I try to make it as upbeat as possible I’m feeling that today I need to open journal just a bit because of where my heart is.

Sometimes when booking your life years in advance, things happen.  Remember yesterday’s Quote of the Day?

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I am getting WAY too many people’s opinions coming my way!

I have to live my life the way it works for me.  And this means, that unfortunately I have had to let a couple of guild visits go.  Some I was able to reschedule to make the time flow better for me, some I wasn’t able to reschedule because there was no where to put them until the calendar clears out a bit.  I am not opening 2019 to guild contracts yet because I want to work smarter not harder. 

I received an email  from someone who was so upset that I had to cancel their venue a year in advance.  The line that floored me went like this

“While everyone can understand a need or a desire to change a schedule under some circumstances, one would then logically expect a huge effort on your part to reschedule promptly, rather than expecting the Guild to wait another two years or longer for your appearance. “

Who says there was NOT a huge effort made to make things work?

There was NOWHERE on my calendar that I could put this one guild without it creating a hardship within my personal life.  This email made me feel like I was shirking my duties.  Yet the terms of my contract state that either party may cancel the contract within 6 months of the date of appearance because LIFE HAPPENS.

And then I sat there in my car with tears streaming down my face wondering why I have handed over the keys to my life and my future..more than a year in advance to people who don’t have to live my life.

I am ALMOST at the point of saying “I don’t want to do this anymore. I want to be home. I don't want to be in the public anymore.”

This morning I was faced with yet another complaint, this time on an email list I run about the ads on this blog.  And I once again have people telling me what I should or shouldn’t do with my life.

I wrote the following reply:

Dear Quiltvillians.
There is something I wish you to consider.
The ads on my blog pay for all of the free content you receive without having to pay for it yourself.
I spend HOURS a day writing and editing photos and always trying to come up with something interesting to post for you.
If I remove the ads I am forced to charge you for each and every pattern and mystery you once received for free.
I treat the ads like "bop a mole". Every one that you close by clicking the X keeps me writing.
Without the revenue from the ads, I would not be blogging or giving away free patterns at all.
It's funny how everyone wants everything for FREE....but they complain about the things that make FREE possible. 
When on travel trips like this I am up at 6am editing all of the photos from the workshop held the day before.  I spend at least 2 hours preparing a blog post before I go out and start my work day.
 
Oh, if I could only have those 2 hours back that I spend….how much quilting could I get done if I just kept that time for myself.
 
I don’t have to do a free mystery, I could charge for each and every clue like a block of the month program.
 
I don’t have to give up my free evening time to bring you into my studio for quilt-cam.
 
And please don’t mention AD-BLOCKER.  If you use ad-blocker, you are not helping me to continue writing this blog that you read for free that supplies all that it does for you.
 
j have spent more than 11 years of my life ELEVEN YEARS OF MY LIFE writing here.  For what?
 
Can you imagine? Have you considered what really goes on behind the scenes keeping this all going on a daily basis?
 
My fear – my BIGGEST fear…is that if I stop writing, I’ll never be able to get back started.
 
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Quiltville Quote of the Day!
 
Vintage drunkard's path variation found yesterday in Georgia!
 
I took over 60 photos of vintage quilts yesterday.  This morning I couldn’t make myself edit them or take the time it takes to turn them into a beautiful slide show.
 
I believe in right turns, left turns, and u-turns! If you don't like where your road is heading, change direction or build a new road!

Right now I feel I’m at a crossroads and not sure which way to go.  Or maybe I need a whole new road all together because I feel like I am completely losing myself to other people’s demands and expectations.

Please don't judge someone else's road or tell them how they should be walking it, or what would make THEIR road better for YOU.
 
Just some random REAL thoughts on a sunny Wednesday morning in Tifton, Georgia
 
Off to teach Smith Mountain Morning to the Wiregrass Quilters.


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395 comments:

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Sundae Quilter said...

You are a very giving person and unfortunately there are some who think the giving should never end.

Maybe it should. Be a designer, take care of yourself and your family.

Pleasing everyone all the time is not possible. Please yourself... that is what is important.

Mrs Christine Collins said...

Dear Sadie, be well soon

Dear Bonnie, please take care of YOU!!

Susan Kerr said...

Sounds like you need a big hug - consider yourself hugged!. Hope Sadie feels better soon and you get home to give her also a big hug. You will never please everyone so really you should be able to please yourself more and maybe take it easier from all those trip - I just dont know how you do it - you area amazing. You are more important and so are your supportive family than those guild groups.

Theresa Litz said...

I understand every single sincere word written. I appreciate you! Take care of yourself first. :)

Nancy P. said...

Please take care of YOU and your family! That is most important. People write things that they would be afraid to say personally. Don't let these statements block you from your ultimate goal of quilting and continuing to share all your knowledge. Just know that you have a lot of followers who love you and don't comment often!

Helen said...

Hi Bonnie

So sorry to hear you are having a hard time of it. It is 12.17am where I live and I have just snuggled into bed and was catching up on my yahoo lists. I just read that post about the ads and my first thought was "That is how you make some money." You deserve some reward for all the hours you put in to keeping us amused, entertained, occupied and educated that we get for absolutely free! You rock and you have my gratitude. Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Take care of you, take care of your family.
Sending hugs to you and Sadie. Being a dog person, I understand not wanting to be away from her.
If you need to adapt your travel schedule so you have more home time, then do it. The world will not come to an end.
Some people never get enough "freebies" in life. They are the same people that give very little back. They have no clue as to the "cost" to the giver.
Again, Hugs!

Rachael said...

You deserve to live like you did 11 years ago with joy in what you did. I am so sorry for all the negative types that have to tell you how to be you. I would be more than happy to pay for a mystery quilt because I value you and your time. I do hope you do what is best for you and your family. Hugs Nikki

Sue K said...

This post broke my heart. Now I'm sitting here with tears pouring down my face. Bonnie, you are THE most generous quilter/teacher/blogger and most importantly, PERSON I have ever come in contact with. Please follow your heart, wherever it might lead you!!!

dorothy said...

Bonnie you must do what you need to do for you and your family to make your life work. We thank you for all that you do for everyone and all that you give us for free ignore the people that want to bring you down hugs to you.

Peggy said...

Love you Bonnie. And I understand completely how your feel about not being with Sadie while she's recuperating. I don't know how you manage not to say the heck with everything, I'm headed home but you do. Please don't let a few buttheads ruin your day. No matter what profession you're in, you're going to run into a few of these people. Ignore them, walk away and keep doing the awesome job you are doing. Best of luck to Sadie.

Sheryll said...

Our dogs are our family members....nothing surer and dear Sadie loves what you do as she loves lying all over your quilts ...so she is happy when you're happy. So do what you love...please remember the negative out there is such a tiny part of your grateful followers and they'll always be there....it's a percentage thing....and when you're feeling so worried for Sadie and away from your home base, these things always hit harder. So seek out the laughter and the good people....they're all around you.

Rachael said...

You deserve to live like you did 11 years ago with joy in what you did. I am so sorry for all the negative types that have to tell you how to be you. I would be more than happy to pay for a mystery quilt because I value you and your time. I do hope you do what is best for you and your family. Hugs Nikki

Beth Brown said...

I was so happy to read last night that Sadie made it through her surgery just fine! It is funny how close internet can bring new friends together - to support each other, to commiserate, to celebrate - and unfortunately to complain.
Sorry that you have to deal with complainers. As my aunt used to say, if you can't lick 'em, bite 'em!

Love ya - OneOldGoat

Anonymous said...

Ah Bonnie... You do need to take care of yourself and family first. If you have to say no to some things... that is the healthy thing to do. It comes from trying to do everything. I hope you take more recharge time. I personally feel that you have changed my attitude about quilting... I enjoy using my scraps and doing your mysteries and patterns. You have built an amazing quilting community and I know thousands of us thank you for it.

Aileen said...

I Love you. Been following you since I found you by accident on a publishers website. Just a little link, but the best find ever! . Best wishes to Sadie.

Take whatever road suits you. I will follow. You bless me each morning with your adventures.

Love from Aileen in Florida

Anonymous said...

I also wanted to say that I can read your blog and I don't even see the ads!!!!

Mtntop Quilter said...

So sorry you are having a hard time. You are a very special person that the world has been lucky to get to know. I know I feel very fortunate. You have helped me get through some tough days just by having your blog to read daily. People can just be mean and selfish. I wish they weren't but they just are. In 3 weeks we will get to meet in MT and I am so excited, but if something came up it just IS. I know our paths will cross someday. Take care and try not to let the crap get to you, which is very hard I know. Do what is good for you. You are loved!!!

Linda Biondino said...

Huggs Bonnie. Sometimes we over stretch our lives and have a hard time juggling all the balls. You give so much of yourself to us quilters and are SO appreciated for everything you do. I for one, am so glad to have met you several years ago and have traipsed the world thru your eyes. Let the naysayers go... I have learned in our 'volunteer' guild that the biggest complainers are the last to volunteer. Don't let the nasty emails rattle you. Sometimes we need the recharge time.... hang in there, there will be Sadie and cabin time soon..... Linda B in sunny, hot SWFL.

Phyllis said...

Thanks for sharing the "real" you. The sick pup could be whati is tipping the amazing balancing act you do. You cannot make everyone happy, and most of us appreciate all you do. Take care of yourself. :).

sueandsew said...

You said it very well. Take care.

Kay Hanneman said...

Bless your heart Bonnie and hugs and prayers for your dear Sadie.

Tina in NJ said...

I don't know where you get the energy to do what you do. Please take care of yourself. I am not aware of any other quilt teacher with a schedule like yours. Friends who are semi-retired have blocked out September to accept no work and use that time to travel; fewer crowds and lovely weather. I'd miss you desperately if you stopped blogging, but perhaps you don't need to blog every day. Love to Sadie.

HoosierKitty said...

Dear Bonnie. Don't let the turkeys get you down!!! For every whiner and complainer there are dozens of us who love and enjoy what you do and appreciate your joyful generous spirit. I'm at a quilt retreat making wonky wishes and sending good wonky wishes to both you and Sadie!!! I'm sitting on the front porch of an old farmhouse listening to the birds and looking out over a lovely wheat field. I'd send you some of this serenity if I could

Sewgranny said...

Oh Bonnie, yes, live your life anyway you want and if there are those that don't understand so what? Those of us that truly understand will never judge....

Peggy L said...

Hi, Bonnie,
You are busy enough you probably won't have time to read our comments, but I'm going to post some anyway!

Bonnie, you are a DAILY inspiration to so many people around the world with all you do for quilters and fabric addicts! I am amazed that you can keep up this pace without folding. I have learned so much from you in the two times I got to see and hear you in person, your daily blogs, workshops, QuiltCams, tutorials and helps on your website, your books, and just from the generous way you live your life and run your business. I am beyond blessed at getting to be your driver in Iowa last summer---you were the rockstar in my car! I'll never forget that, ever! You are a wonderful blessing to all us quilters. THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU!

Please ignore those people who shoot their barbs and arrows at you. They are a minority up against the huge masses of people who love and support you! Don't listen to those negatives---they just need to rant. I'm just sorry they feel they have to rant at you! Theyll get over it. They'll get glad in the same clothes they got mad in! We can only hope that at some point they'll be on the receiving end of such comments and attitude, and learn never to do that again.

I wish you a happy, busy, productive day today and every day. I pray your day is full of happy, smiling faces eager to meet you and hear your pearls of wisdom. Stand tall and carry on. Don't let the turkeys drag you down! Soar with the eagles! And walk with Sadie😊

Peggy Lowe

D. Gill said...

I understand the disappointment of the groups you had to cancel, it's not easy making that decision. You did what was right for you and your family and that is what matters.
The people that pass through our lives are important but they are just passing through, family is for a lifetime. Love your family, love your work in that order. I hope you are always able to share yourself because you add dimension to many lives.

Thank you
D. Gill
35gill@bellsouth.net

Susan Hartley said...

Bonnie, you are such a giving, loving perrson in all you do. Please don't let the comments of thoughtless, unkind people get you down. We love you fir who you are and what you do. You are a true blessingbto all quilters. Stay strong and focus on all the positive feedback coming your way.

Sharon Andrews said...

Unfortunately many people are so self absorbed that they fail to see the big picture. I was just thinking to myself recently that you were pushing yourself pretty hard. It seems that a year or two ago, when I had just subscribed to your blog, that you were planning on cutting back...and was thinking that this didn't seem to be cutting back...you have been soooo busy. But you love it...and it is hard to say no. I learned long ago that when people get things for free...they oftentimes expect more. It takes volunteers to run things...yet those that don't volunteer are the first to complain about the volunteers. Basically...you will always have complainers...and sometimes you just have to address those complainers...which you just did in a very honest way. If they see it, it might open their eyes (and hearts) a bit...but often those people are too self absorbed to see the big picture. Hang in there! We appreciate you! But....really...you do need to slow down and smell the roses and give Sadie even MORE HUGS! :)

Terri in Texas said...

Bonnie-I appreciate everything you do. I'm sorry for the way you have been treated. I respect any decision you make concerning YOUR blog, business, or life. HUGS to you. If you stopped it all today, I would miss you!-BUT, it's your decision-not mine.

Sandy Lewis said...

I totally understand your feelings this morning. I can only imagine how I would feel if Izzy were to have surgery without me being there to comfort her. I know she misses you as much as you are missing being with her. Please don't let the negative comments deter your giving spirit. We appreciate everything you do for us.....every day.

Kay said...

I think you should take more time for yourself doing the things that make you happy instead of trying to please everybody else. Take more time for yourself even though it would mean less content for quiltville readers. Please don't burn yourself out.

Sandy Hardy said...

🙏🙏 for Sadie and you!!! Hugs !

Anonymous said...

Bonnie... you are an amazing person who gives so much to all the quilters. I do not mind your ads. Please know that there are more people that care about you and your family is number 1.

I was so glad to see family time on your calendar and you deserve it. I really enjoyed the class last Thursday in Marietta, Ga. I joined ECQG last year because I heard you were going to teach in 2016. So glad I joined ECQG as they are an amazing Quilt Guild.

Have a wonder 4th of July

Beth

terry said...

Oh my..... Have never understood people who are so contrary or down right mean. You are one of the most generous quilting teacher/author out there. Everyday you bring us (hundreds of us) into your world. Please know that the majority of your followers love you like a family member and when you hurt we hurt. Bonnie, know that we are feeling your pain about Sadie's ordeal. I can remember going to work when I should have been home with a sick child, and the guilt I felt. Don't fret, stay as you are and please put yourself and your family first. We in cyber-ville will be fine and those that think otherwise should be ashamed of themselves. Love you - hugs -Terry

Brandy said...

I wish I could give you a big hug! Sadie is lucky to have people who love her as much as you do. Some people can never understand the connection others have with their furbabies. I hope she recovers quickly.

As for the people who complain and demand more, they obviously haven't given much in their lives or they would understand how much of yourself you are sharing.

Live the life that makes you happy, not the life that makes others happy.

Linda M @ Pieceful Kingdom said...

Hugs to you and bless your heart, Bonnie. I have been following your blog for several years now and you give so much of yourself in it and it looks like your workshops are a blast for everyone involved. You have given so much and so many good memories. I totally get where you are coming from with Sadie...I'm so glad she is doing well. We lost one of our dogs and one of our cats in the past year (still have one of each) and it is heartbreaking. You need to tend to yourself and your family first and it boggles my mind when people don't get that. You have your schedule jam packed so far in advance, there is no telling what can happen in the meantime, and people just have to flow with it. Take care and I hope you can enjoy the rest of your trip.

quiltndj said...

In life there are givers and takers. We all know where you fall in that division. I hope this rough spot is a short one and you can return to your personal peace. My own selfish wish is that there is room for us to follow your path or at least look over your shoulder. You have given me so much. I could never repay you. DJ

Deanna W said...

Unfortunately one bad apple can do so much damage. It is my experience that one person speaking for a guild really isn't the voice of the whole guild.Travel your road and do what you have to for YOU! Cause if you aren't happy and healthy, you just can't do that for others. I think it would be a great disservice to the quilty community if you just stopped what you were doing. Besides...who would I have coffee with every morning if you stopped blogging!?!?
Take care of you and I hope Sadie bounces back from her surgery. She will be waiting at the door, tail wagging when you return.

Judy Lee said...

When your heart is torn and your mind is weary, please know we love you and will follow which ever path you take!

Eileen said...

I'm sorry some of humanity is so selfish. I love your patterns and have made a number of them I admire your energy and wonder how you keep up the pace. You need time to recharge and be with your loved ones even if they are four legged. Don't let the inconsideration of some spoil things for you. There are thousands how love you and your work.

Tina said...

So glad Sadie is doing well. I'm sure the men in her life are spoiling her greatly, but as a momma I understand you wanting to be there with her yourself.

On the other topic, YOU do YOU and we will gladly follow, if someone has a problem with that it's their problem not yours. I wish people would remember the saying "If you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all". You can't be the best Bonnie Hunter unless you're taking care of yourself and your family first. Every adventure in life has ups and downs, but people really need to learn to stop all the negativity and just encourage one another, a kind word goes a long way.
Bonnie let me thank you for all you do!!!!

P.S. Does anyone out there own a plane and want to become Bonnie's private pilot? After all don't all rock stars fly private?! 😉

Doris Evans said...

God sends us messages every day...I believe you are getting one. Life can get away from us without us even noticing. Your passion for quilting, your talent and your caring personality is what have brought you to this crossroad. And all those things will guide you back to where you need to be...what is the most important to you. I pray that you will follow your path and feel happy and at peace again.

Kitty Hettinger said...

Tears are streaming down my face as I sit here trying to understand how people can behave like that. I feel so bad that they are abusing your generosity by expecting more and more from you while at the same time aren't willing to make any concessions themselves. To the complainers I say: get over it! And to you Bonnie, I say Thank you! Thank you for being you, for the work you do and for sharing it all with us. Hugs to you and Sadie. Have a wonderful holiday weekend.

Jane McPhee said...

Oh Bonnie. Shut the front door! Girl you walk your path the way is most pleasing to YOU! I'm sad that people are so inconsiderate. I love all your work. You have kept me on track through my cancer journey. Little did you know!! A million hugs, prayers for Sadie and screw the witches.

Anonymous said...

Bonnie, I have been continually amazed at your very full schedule and how much you get accomplished in a year. Don't let the crabby people get you down, if you decide to change your schedule it is for you to decide not anyone else. I have a "friend" who is always trying to improve my life by telling me I do too much and work too hard, etc. I tell her I like it that way which doesn't make her happy. :) You need to do what makes you happy. By the way I love Quiltcam and am amazed that you are able to make the time to quilt with us. :)

Kimberly Norman said...

Hugs Bonnie. I love all your free patterns and blog. Thankful that Sadie is doing well. I like the ads they show me things I may not have used before

me said...

please take care of you first,I have enjoyed everyone of your blogs from day one I feel like your my sister,the small few ruin life for all!please enjoy your off time whenever possible.....

Connie Hernadi said...

Some people need to remember what their Mother taught them. If you can't say something nice you don't need to say anything. Glad Sadie is doing well, Have a wonderful day.

Vickie Blose said...

Understand your fork in the road. Your schedule is so busy. I'm the caregiver for my father and it is very difficult to schedule anything. It is important to take care of yourself and your family first. Without either of those you would not be Bonnie,the Scrappy Queen. Luv your posts.

deelynn51 said...

Bonnie,
Sending positive thoughts and warm hugs your way. I love all that you do for quilters and you are an inspiration to us.
Diane

Wendy Hickey said...

I have only been following you a couple months, but more than once I have wondered how you do it all...my conclusion was you must have a huge staff. I am amazed that you sacrifice so much for others, even in the name of your passion. Although it is all greatly appreciated, at the end of the road it is just you and your personal circle of love--which must be nourished! Please take care of yourself and cut back on the stress.

Tim Latimer said...

I totally understand how you feel
I don't know how you have been able to do all that you do without completely loosing your mind...you have my utmost respect

Laura said...

My husband the accountant would tell you to up your prices. That would drive down demand for your visits, but your revenue would remain the same. You are not running a charity for guilds.

I think you should do what makes you happy. If you want to take a year off to sew and recharge, do it! If you want to keep up the travel and teaching, do that! If you only want to teach in NC, I think many quilters would travel to you. You are so lucky to have options.

I hope your doggie is doing ok. My dog also has a heart murmur and had a tumor removed last January. He recovered well, but he is slower than he used to be. It is hard to see him getting old.

Right now I'm working on Jamestown Landing and Talkin' Turkey. Love those strip quilts!

Linda said...

Bonnie, God bless you today. I only discovered you less than a year ago and love to follow your blog everyday. You do so much to lift everyone else's day and today you are proving you need uplifting at times also. I am seeing signs of over working yourself. There is only one you, put things in proper order, family, God and then others. Ask me how I know this. Been there, done that. I am that little gray haired Grandmother that loves to quilt and serve others. Take a deep breath and remember, people are people where ever you go. I grown to love you.

Sandora Loo said...

Your dog looks like the sweetest animal! I'm happy for you that he is doing fine. God first, then family (including dogs). Quilt guilds and their demands are down the line a bit. It sounds kind of crazy to be booked out for the next two years without flexibility. Get your manager to do something about that! Life is too short to be under constant stress. I hope your day is fun and satisfying and I know you love your job but sometimes.... Love your quilts and all your scrappy ideas. Thanks for one of the most honesty things I will read all day.

cathy dale said...

As I sit here reading your blog I have tears. How dare people. You give so much to us and would just ignore them or block them. They do not deserve your time and effort. Enough said.

elively said...

OH Bonnie! You start my day off with your wonderful sunny blog posts. I hate to hear your hurting the way you are this morning. Having our pets whom we love having problems tears our heart out. Being away from them and unable to comfort them is a physical pain.

With respect to the guilds, some people have no idea what it means to be in someone else's shoes. All appointments come with cancelation provisions. How often do people have to reschedule things? And that's only for one hour appointments, not several days of commitment! You are doing an amazing job but you must take care of yourself so that you can give all the energy and enthusiasm to your students.

You sound a bit tired and I hope a good nights sleep and the energy you get from teaching and interacting with student revives you! I miss my sunny Bonnie this morning but I'm glad you feel you can "tell it like it is" . No one who really loves you will be put off. I hope your Fouth of July break helps you get your perspective back. Being with family and giving Sadie loving sounds like a prescription for you.

I hope all these comments this morning don't sound like more "telling you what to do". People are really saying " I love you"!

Ellie Lively

Anonymous said...

You sure travel a lot. I would think you would burn out. Maybe just write quilt books and stay home more in the future. I am glad Sadie is home and hope she gets well fast. As far as the ads...I don't mind looking. I just wish they wouldn't pulsate and travel down the page with the reader.....irritating. Get better Sadie. Both my pets passed away from old age and I enjoy visiting with blog friend's animals. She sure misses you when you are gone. Her eyes say it all. BTW....one of my granddaughter's is named Sadie. HA Love the name.

Susan said...

Dear Bonnie, I think we all reach the point you are at at some time in our life. Sometimes you wake up the next day after a good nights sleep and think "Boy, where did that come from".
Sometimes, it's your life telling you to slow down a bit and regroup.
I appreciate all your dedication to the job you do. And it is a big job. You bring happy times to all who follow your blog, quilt cam, books and designs.
So here is a BIG THANK YOU!
I also have 2 little fur babies and if they weren't feeling well while I was on the Alaska cruise I would want to turn the ship around even though I know my DH is home loving on them. Hugs to you!

Frieda said...

I am always amazed at what people think they have the right to say. What happened to if you don't have something nice to say, don't say any thing at all. You are the most generous person I know. You give your time, energy and talent to so many. I hope you know the people who love you far out number the naysayers. You and Sadie are in my prayers and I know you will choose the best road for you. xoxo

Ronna said...

Dear Bonnie~

My husband did alot of travel back and forth for work..there were long stretches of time where it was weeks home and then weeks gone. It was hard and weary. And we too had to deal with life long distance. He had a small tumor removed from his kidney without me there, I know exactly what you are feeling right now. Don't feel bad about loving Sadie as you do..dogs are family..or cats or chickens or horses..whatever.

My husband died the morning of February 9th. Life as I knew it changed forever and I can't get back all the time I needed him to be home. Don't let people's shallow comments get too far into your heart for you are right in thinking that its YOUR life and people forget that we only have one. The burnout is real. I love what you do and give...but all of that is going to be here whether you work yourself to the bone or not. You have changed my way of thinking about quilting and I'm better for it and at this time in my life I am grateful for it. Its something to focus on. Keep it up or slow down and regroup..do it for you and yours...everybody else will keep quilting. You know they have ways to do your groups via satellite..start yourself an ambassador program to give yourself some of your life back. Remember..even the energizer bunny has to recharge sometime. Good luck to you..and prayers for Sadie

TheEclecticAbuela said...

I'm glad of the good news about Sadie.

Truth be told, if you never gave another thing, you have already given more than most people do in a lifetime. Take care of you!

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Grammy Dwynn said...

It takes ONE NEGATIVE TO wipe out TEN POSITIVES!

Bonnie you are a wonderful giving person. We thank you!!!

Puppy prayers for Sadie's quick recovery.

Joanne said...

Bonnie, I just want to add my support to all the well said messages above. I get very annoyed when people feel "entitled" and it's not even my blog....or my facebook page...or anything. I have been following you for about 5 or 6 years and have recommended your blog and books to many. You have done so much for me quilt related and even personally as I try to embrace your usual sunny outlook on life. Try to let the negative people's comments go in one ear and out the other. I think you needed to respond so that maybe, just maybe, they can understand what it does to you but please don't dwell on the negativity. There are too many others of us who hurt with you and appreciate all you do. You need to make decisions for you and not others and while I would miss your daily presence, I would continue to follow your column in Quiltmaker, buy your books, etc. You are a kind, generous, talented woman and I applaud you for all you do. Sending hugs. I'd send virtual chocolate if I could. :-)

Joyce in PA said...

As a photographer's wife, I understand the time it takes to get the job done right. Sometimes it's so exhausting that we want to give up. The general public does not realize what goes into a finished produce in this age of cell phone cameras. A wedding edit takes weeks even though Uncle Joe shared his out of focus, bad lighting photos an hour later. Please don't give up. You may need to slow down a bit, as we did, but if you love what you are doing, then do it, slower. If that person from a quilt guild can't understand about "life happening," then they are too self centered, wanted "for me" too much. Did they never have to reschedule an appointment? We, your followers, love you and what you share with us. I had to stop when I came down with cancer. 4 yrs later, now, I'm finally back to my sewing, having just retired at age 67. I had to put off my things while still trying to work and just stay alive. Take care of yourself, your family, and those close to you.

Katrine Dukic said...

Bonnie,
I sincerely hope that for every negative person you encounter there are a thousand positive ones. I honestly cannot understand people sometimes, I am sure they speak or write without thinking about what or how they are saying. Think twice, speak once should be as important as measure twice, cut once.
You are an inspiration to me as well and I love your cheerful smile. It is sad to picture you crying in your car. As other commenters have said, we would miss you but you come first!
And there are no such things as 'just dogs or just cats'. They are our family, our confidants and our dependable, joyful companions.
Sending strength, happy thoughts and hugs to you and Sadie.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry that selfish people think they can dictate what you should do - you are one of the most giving people I have ever encountered. Your travel schedule is overwhelming. I thoroughly enjoyed the workshop I took from you (through our local guild) several years ago. However, if you decided to cut back on your travel teaching schedule or quit altogether, I would not fault you a bit. I'd say do whatever you need to do for your best life.
I love your blog and website, and direct people here for the helpful tips.
I also understand how important our pet pet family members are, so my best to Sadie.


Andrea Vaughan
alv@q.com

Margaret Hennessy said...

You need to do what is best for you! I loved being in your class and reading your blog everyday but I know how life can change in the blink of an eye and new decisions must be made. Be good to yourself.

Sally simplestitches said...

Bonnie please take care of yourself. Do not worry or give a second thought to those who attempt to run you down or make you feel bad. If you didn't care so much it wouldn't hurt as bad. You have one life to live and you need to live it the way that works for YOU not someone else. Those that have lashed out are disappointed and will regret the harsh words they have spoken(typed), and certainly wish there was a retract button on emails and such. Please Please Please do not let the curmudgeons ruin your day!!! Life happens Live it well!!

HelenMarie said...

Hugs and prayers for both Sadie and YOU.

It is an unfortunate sign of the times that people post whatever they want without thought for the feelings of others. The world of internet has made everyone anonymous and comments are made, unfiltered, that cause so much pain and self-doubt. Some words are better left unsaid. If you don't like it... leave! I saw those comments on group and just shook my head. I am part of the silent majority... posting occasionally and disregarding the negative. I understand you are conflicted with continuing on when you see so much negativity posted and I hope that you have the strength and fortitude to carry on sharing with those that appreciate you. I, for one, am grateful for all that you share. I have learned a lot from you and tried new things and new ways of doing them. Yes, pop up ads can be annoying but I'd rather have them, along with your words of wisdom, than nothing at all from you. A day without Bonnie is like a day without sunshine!

Myrna said...

Bonnie, you are such a giver in a world where the takers will suck the life out of you if allowed to. Some people are so mean spirited that whatever you (or anyone) do will never be enough. I hope you do whatever you think is best for you, your life, and your family. You've worked hard and you deserve to enjoy your life! (((HUGS)))

Myrna in KY

CountryGal said...

First of all - I am so glad that Sadie is doing well. I am sure it is breaking your heart being away from her at this time.
Secondly, I am so very sorry that you are being treated this way by someone who I am sure is very disappointed that you will not be visiting their guild but is so self-centered that cannot or will not understand how much time and effort you put in to your scheduling. I know you would visit each and every one if you could but as you say - life happens. A work/life balance is very important and people need to understand that. You give so much of yourself and you absolutely amaze me. Please know that the selfish ones are just a very small percentage of your fans. Sometimes, though, we need to sit in the car and cry to clear our "vision" of our path ahead. Take care and hugs!

Susan Hillock said...

Bonnie, I'm glad Sadie is on the mend. It is very difficult to see a part of your family hurting. You do too much for everyone else, and not enough for yourself. If your tank is empty you will have nothing left go give. Put you and your family first and the rest will fall into place. You can't make everyone happy, so they just need to put on their big girl panties and get on with their own life. We all enjoy the vast amounts of quilting that you share with us, and I think that most of us will understand if you have to slow things down. Hope your day gets better!!

Donna said...

I always tell my adult daughters, "For every decision you make, there are at least a dozen people waiting in the wings to tell you what you are doing wrong." It isn't easy to just ignore them, but there are so many hundreds of us who love you and what you are doing! Keep on, but do please take care of yourself first!

Brenda said...

Put your life on pause for awhile, spend more time at home with the people you love because you don't know how long you will have them or how long good health will last said the lady whose husband is in rehab with a stroke. Have some pajama days. We get sucked in to busyness to where we don't enjoy anything any more.

Cherie in St Louis said...

I have often wondered how you managed to keep up the schedule that you have. I certainly couldn't do it and am amazed that you do it, do it so well and so personally, so the real you. Do what you need to do for yourself and your family. You can't please everyone, especially those with unrealistic expectations.

Tammie i said...

To start, I'm so glad to her everything went well with Sadie. Although she's having to sport the 'cone of shame', she's now pretty and pampered and well, and will be happy to welcome momma home. But' while you're gone, I can see she has a special quilt to comfort her, showing her how special she is to you.

As far as those who can't understand you having to change your schedule, especially when it is because of your personally life, I say they probably have no personal life. Most people who try to make you feel miserable are miserable themselves. But keep this thought in mind.....in the
Bible at Proverbs 17:17 it reminds us ...."A true friend shows love all the time, and is a brother who is born for times of distress". Your true friends are always there with you, and love you no matter what. Even for those of us who have never met you, we have come to know you through the time we get to spend with you during quiltcam, and appreciate that you include us in your life. And that's something to think about...if life gets so hectic that you need to come off the road, those are hundreds of us who would love to attend a 'retreat' via Internet with you. Just an idea.... Keep the faith that there are more of us than there are of them....those who love you than those who just want to crtidize you, and count the days till you're home wth your family and your precious Sadie. Have a safe and wonderful holiday weekend!

Mary Kupcho said...

I am so happy to hear that your furbaby is doing well. We have 2 and when one isn't feeling well I'm always worried about them till they are better. I wish I belonged to either one of the guilds you visited this week here in Georgia but alas no :(. Hang in there you can't make everyone happy, all you can do at the end of the day is please yourself. I love your blog and wish I had time to make all the quilts your give us for free but I have 3 of your books to get through first :)

Suzanne Adler said...

I am very happy to hear that Sadie is doing so much better. For you it sounds like Sadie is like another child in the house. I feel the same about my dog, Fred, what would I do without him around! I can't imagine.
As for the mean and comments you have been receiving -- you have been posting for about the last two years that you need to change and slow down your schedule. You are trying to do that. So it isn't like you haven't "notified" the quilting public. You are human -- life happens.
You put your life into your blogs. Please don't stop. There are so many people who read it and love it (even if they don't comment all the time-like me), quilters who watch quilt cam later because they can't watch at the time (I love this by the way - I get to have a friend quilting along with me anytime I want). There are more people who love what you do than the comments/emails/phone calls that are rude and nasty. Please don't give up. So a very big thank you and lots of hugs for all you do.
Personally I am waiting until I can see you at the Vermont Quilt Festival again. Whenever you can fit it into your schedule - maybe in 5 years? Maybe more -- who knows -- but I will be there.

Build A Blanket said...

Dearest Bonnie,
I read the posting you put up and I can understand your frustration and feelings. First...Sadie is not "JUST a dog!" She is part of your FAMILY!!! It really bothers me when others say "it is JUST a cat or JUST a dog." NO! They are family! And they deserve all the love and compassion they give us..... Hope Sadie is on the road to recovery and wagging her tail for you soon! Not her time to leave, not yet. And I hate being away from my 4 legged kids anytime!
Second....anyone sending negative comments your way, about having to cancel a guild, or ads popping up for your wonderful and free patterns, should keep those comments to themselves! You do a WONDERFUL job on your site and I am amazed at all you do! Don't know when you have time to breathe! My goodness! You offer so much of yourself to all of us, and I challenge anyone out there sending negative vibs, to do what YOU do! You do a FANTASTIC JOB!! Your quilts, you quilt cam, your mystery quilts! ALL of it!!! You are so very special to SO many of us out here..... It never ceases to amaze me how people can find so much negativity and find it necessary to bash others. PLEASE look to all those people who enjoy your work and support you!
Your life is YOUR life! No one can walk in your shoes and understand why you do what you do and why you do it. Or why you may have to cancel a guild, or why those mystery clues are not coming out faster. You have a life, and yes, life HAPPENS!!! You have to take care of you, hubby, sons, and Sadie! ALL FAMILY! I LOVE what you provide, and my day is not complete without seeing what you do and what you post.
SO the long and short of it?! Take care of YOU and family! Throw the negative comments out and hand onto the positive! Stay as special as you are! LOVE what you do!! Take time for YOU!!!!! So many of us truly enjoy what you do, and have great respect and admiration for you and all you do!
HUGS and positive vibs for you and ALL your family!
Sue

Anonymous said...

Bonnie,
I am so sorry some people make you feel bad. You do so much for all of us Quilter's! You are a very giving person and I know I could never keep up with you. I felt honored to have met you whe you were in Kalamazoo, Mi. I hope you start taking more time for yourself and ignore those who are only interested in what they get for free. There are more of us that true.y appreciate all that you do!
Sharon
sdc4203@hotmail.com

Joann in PA said...

Deep breath Bonnie - you have done, and continue to do a terrific job! Please don't forget that YOU are number one - don't let the grumpy gus get you down! With heartfelt thanks for all you do, Joann

barbaradougherty126 said...

I am so happy for your family on the Sadie news! I can't imagine how you feel. Pets mean so much to us and are so special! Prayers are still coming for her to feel better soon!

You work so hard and I am so sorry about the unhappy people. I hope you find some peace and can make the right decision for YOU and your family. Personally, I would go nuts traveling as much as you do, but you do it and that is wonderful. Especially for all of us who get to see you and read your blog posts.

Just remember to enjoy whatever it is you choose to do. You only get one stab at it after all...

xoxo

Anonymous said...

Bonnie....as a person who did for others all the time until I was in my 50's I can say with experience.....you can only make yourself happy first before you can TRY to make anyone else happy. I say TRY because there will always be a "Debbie Downer" out there no matter what you do, no matter your career choice. Make yourself happy and happy people will follow, understand, and forgive when an event in THEIR life doesn't go their way.

Carrie Frees in Michigan
cl.frees@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

Bonnie....as a person who did for others all the time until I was in my 50's I can say with experience.....you can only make yourself happy first before you can TRY to make anyone else happy. I say TRY because there will always be a "Debbie Downer" out there no matter what you do, no matter your career choice. Make yourself happy and happy people will follow, understand, and forgive when an event in THEIR life doesn't go their way.

Carrie Frees in Michigan
cl.frees@yahoo.com

Kathryn DePauw said...

Oh Bonnie, Sorry to hear life is being difficult for you. I don't have any pets, yet my heart went out to you and Sadie, especially seeing her with that "collar of shame" on. I believe that for many their pets are their children and even when those children become adults we just want to make everything right.
And if your life is crazy now wait until grandchildren start filling the picture! Gaps are for us to fill as we need them. I can't imagine trying to plan my schedule 2 years down the road! You are very good at juggling all that life throws your way.
Thanks for all you do for us that don't belong to an active quilt guild and like the companionship of fellow quilters.
We love you Bonnie.
Kathy

cityquilter grace said...

lots of support here and probably much more from non-commenters...i would think having to cancel bookings now and then is a given for any quilt teacher/workshop leader....

Linda said...

I cannot even believe that people would write something mean if you had to cancel an event.....I think some people just like to spread their unhappiness to others....

I was in your Oelwein retreat last summer---you are the kindest most fab teacher....You give 100%....Please remember those of us who just love you...

I am praying for Sadie.....I have a little Cocker Spaniel....They are not "just a dog" are they....they are our little buddies...It would be hard for me to be away from my dog if she had just had surgery...

Merry Sagstetter said...

Bonnie, I apologize for all the unkind comments and lack of respect for your time, giving heart and your endless sacrifices for this group and the whole quilting community you diligently serve! Please know the majority of us love and respect and get it! Our heart breaks for you and Sadie, she is not just a dog to me and certainly not to you and your family! Please do what you need to be at peace in your mind and heart, go to family and embrace that time,life is too short! Much love and endless respect!!

Patricia DeVoe said...

So many comment so well said, the ones who do the least complain the loudest.
Words hurt, its a shame some people don't engaged their brain before opening there mouth.
So happy Sadie is doing better, Take care and you do whats best for you.

Cheryl in Friendsville said...

1) I'm so glad that Sadie is recovering well.
2) Don't let the "Negative Nancys" get you down.There are SO many more people that appreciate all you do. Unfortunately, it only takes one bad apple to spoil everything. Try not to let that happen.
3) I have no idea how you manage all that you do! I am so thankful that I found you. I visit your blog every day to see what is new. I've been to numerous classes. I have all your books. I watch Quilt Cam - live whenever I can and archived when my life gets too crazy and I can't catch it live. You do SO much and, if it's getting to be more than you can handle, you should slow down and adjust things so that it works for you. I'd miss you terribly, but I would understand. Nobody but you can live your life, so you have to live it the best way it works for you.

Sending you lots of positive energy and continued healing for Sadie.

Cheryl in Friendsivlle
katydidart60@yahoo.com

Anonymous said...

DEAR QUILTVILLE FOLKS
see below copied from bonnie's calendar

My calendar years of 2014 through 2018 are completely FULL and I am not adding new teaching dates to these years.

While I wish I could open a 2019 calendar, working this far out is just too much to handle.
I will be opening my 2019 Calendar on Jan 1, 2017.

From that point on I will only book 2 years in advance because any more than that is INSANE! :)

YES IT IS- quiltville folks-- chime on in

BONNIE YOU NEED TO SLOW DOWN- you need time to pet Sadie and get sloppy dog kisses from her and your family
you need time to pray and contemplate the colors of clouds
you need time to dream and create
you need time to take care of yourself

THEN you can give more abundantly to others

CLOSE down the travel after 2018 (yes I can hear screams now)
and follow you heart

much love and encouragement
melanie

Netti said...

Bonnie, there are so many of us who appreciate all that you do and I've wondered many times how you do it. Please remember to take care of yourself first. Sending hugs to you and Sadie.

Megan Peacock said...

Oh Bonnie- I know that it is easy for me to say and hard for you to do but do NOT let those grouchy negative comments get to you. You are so appreciated. All that you do for us Quiltvillians is absolutely EPIC. I appreciate all that you do so much. Can you schedule in a hiatus- where you can disconnect for a little while and recharge your batteries? I am so glad to hear that Sadie is doing well- our fur babies are such important parts of our families. Big hugs to you.

Sherry said...

Well said, dear Bonnie! I have been worried about you and your busy schedule for some time now. I know you love your job but you are so use and travel so much. Prayers for you and your family and Sadie. I enjoy everything you give us. Thank you, thank you!
Sherry in Southeast Texas

Maureen said...

Bonnie, so glad that Sadie is recovering, like you I would be struggling with not being there to "make it better" I've only been following you for a few months, but know that you feel like a friend.You cannot make everyone happy, that isn't your job. Do what brings you joy, if it doesn't feel good then don't go down that path. May the day be filled with joy and the time pass quickly until you're home again. Maureen

Lynn W. said...

Bonnie,
You are a person first, not your business. I appreciate all you do! I love your quote from yesterday, because I have to remind myself of that. I too am trying to reclaim my life and am learning you can't please or be everything to everyone.
Now selfishly I hope you keep your blog and quilt cam, even if my son can't drop me off at "mommydaycare" aka a Bonnie Hunter's workshop! Though I would love to attend more workshops! I understand there are many things pulling at you.
Have a great day sharing your knowledge! I know they'll have fun and love on you!
Lynn W

Diane Jarvis said...

Sadie is such a cutie! She is your furbaby and you love her like one of your children. So, of course it is hard to be away from her when she is hurting.

Second of all you work very hard. I know that you get criticized by some people for the ads or your fees, but this is what you do for a living. You deserve all of the compensation that you receive. Also people need to realize that you have extra taxes to pay because you are self employed. They need to look at their pay check and realize you pay twice that!

I just want to tell you how much I appreciate everything you do and that I am keeping Sadie in my prayers. Please keep posting and letting us know how Sadie is doing!

Diane Jarvis

Kate said...

Very real. Thank you for sharing. <3.

Julie Shipp said...

Bonnie, I have often shaken my head & wonder how you manage to do all that you manage to do. You seem like the energizer bunny quilter ... You keep going & going & going.

Please do not under estimate the value you provide in lives of so many of us out here in Internet land. You are a friend, an inspiration, a cheerful voice, an observer of life, a traveller, a historian & much more. And having taken some of your classes, I can attest that the cheerful get 'er done Bonnie we know from your blog & books & Facebook posts is indeed the real you. Many of us love sharing your experiences.

That being said, you need to do what is best for you. If you crash & burn under the weight of others' expectations & criticisms, your friends & fans will be the poorer for it. That sense of entitlement is not limited to the younger generation. Negative people suck up all the air around them. They must be unhappy in their own lives. All you can do is live up to your own expectations ... do your best as we always told our kids ... And try to let the BS land where it belongs.

Sending warm wishes for your Sadie-girl. Vet medicine has made great strides.
Julie Shipp

LaurenM said...

Hi Bonnie. I've not be fortunate enough to attend one of your workshops, but I have been following your blog for about 2 years. I am so amazed of the amount of time you take away from home and how far ahead you are booked. Just think of all those people that were so happy to see you at all your events. You are "AMAZING". I don't think I could do as much as you do, so if you need to slow down and take time for yourself, that's what you should do. That would make it even more special for the lucky ones that would get to see you in person....or read your new book.....or just see what you're up to every day.

I would find it impossible to be away from my sweet puppy if she were sick. I'm so happy you have a great support system that could be there for her too.

There are many more who are in your corner and understand. Let the negativity go. "Let it go....Let it go"

Have a great day!!

Wolfquilter said...

Dear Bonnie.

I know that it must have been a real hardship for you to keep yourself together and teach while Sadie was having her surgery. It is no fun to try to keep being jovial when your heart is somewhere else. Even though you know that other family members are taking care of things (with Sadie), it is the nurturing part of us that can't stop worrying.

I have only known your blog for a little over a year but I always marvel at how much you do for us in your teaching, traveling, and time spent on quilt cam. I love it but would not be upset if you felt you needed to take some time to take care of you and family. We all need to rest and take a wooosaw moment.

You cannot make everyone happy but you have brightened the lives of many. I know mine has been. Take time for yourself and family because we only go by here once.

God bless you and your family, including the furry family members. Prayers for Sadie's speedy recovery.

scf_farms said...

It makes me sad when you have to write these types of posts. It seems to be happening more often lately and makes me want to cry with you.

It makes me super mad at these other people who make you feel this way. I don't understand how they can't just sit back and be happy with all that you do for us.

I'm a late comer. I didn't learn about you until last year. I would be so sad if you quit doing what your doing. I don't have a guild. I live in an area where to shop, I have to drive a hr one way. Your my lifeline to all things quilting. I also get to enjoy all your trips through the posts you blog so I get to have mini adventures when you do. And their always a trip of a lifetime for a girl that lives on a farm and there is never a good time to get away.

I understand that life happens and if you said tomorrow that you were done, I'd understand and support you completely. But I sure would miss you.

I'm sorry for those that have made you doubt yourself and the road your on. We can never give back to you all the time you've committed to making quilting fun for us. What I can do is be extremely grateful for what you do. Thank you so much. You are an amazing woman and I appreciate all the knowledge you share with me.

Rosalie Sharps said...

Bonnie, Unfortunately, I'm sure there are plenty of times that you look up and see the wings of vultures flying overhead just looking for a chance to pick your bones clean with negativity and criticism! My advice to you is to turn your head the other way so that you can see the rainbow that the other true loyal fans and friends are seeing when they read your column and benefit from your patterns and talent. You have given so much already so follow your heart and we will live with your decision. I'm grateful to have been able to get to a weekend of your classes and will remain a Bonnie Hunter fan. Milk Bones and doggie treats to little Sadie as she recovers from her ordeal :)

Material Girl said...

Oh my goodness Bonnie, I'm so sorry to read that you are having to deal with people like this, you are a kind and caring person who takes time out of your own life to share what you and so many of us love doing. Sometimes you just can't please people, no matter how hard you try, I truly hope your week starts going better soon, and I'm happy to hear that Sadie made it through her surgery and is doing well, praying that she continues to get better and heal well. Take care and enjoy your day doing what you love to do. Thanks again for all your posts and time you share with us all.
Hugs.
GwenH

Sandy D'Angelo said...

Being a dog lover I know how worried you must be about Sadie. Wishing her a speedy recovery. Being a Bonnie lover and follower, I wish for you rest, peace, and fun times. I will happily enjoy bopping ads as long as you continue to write. Feel free to make life choices that will keep you happy and healthy and know I will still be here enjoying what I get.

Anonymous said...

Sadie's little eyes says it all! Our pets due become a part of our family and make us so much better for it. Bonnie, I hope you are feeling the love from all of the posts this morning. All of us Bonnie "wannabes" admire ALL that you do from the quilting, traveling, blogging, etc. Don't listen to inconsiderate people who are clueless and let them bring you down. I wholeheartedly agree with some of the other posts, only you will know when enough is enough and decide to slow down or cut back. We'll all survive and the world will not stop revolving. For most of us we truly know what the most important things in life really are: God, family, a few close friends, and our health. Oh! and if we're lucky enough, the time to quilt. xoxoxxo

dianak said...

My heart goes out to you. Your furbabies are just as much a part of our lives as our human members. I have no clue as to how you manage to do what u do, but u do it beautifully. Take care of yourself because no one else is going to. They will love u, and physically care for you, but u need to take care of yourself mentally.
Hugs from NM.

Norma May said...

Bonnie, I was a very lucky person to have enjoyed your trunk show in Sioux City, Iowa. You made it so worth our time listening and laughing with you. I've looked at your schedule and don't know how you do it. You have to enjoy your life too, so do what you can and some things have to go by the wayside. So glad to hear your dog is going to be okay. Our dogs are definitely a member of our family. Take care.
Norma J. May, Sioux City, IA

Kim LeMere said...

Dear Bonnie, Breathe! and follow your own path for it is your life and only you can drive the bus!! I'm fairly new to your blog and I feel so blessed that I'm going to take two classes from you in a few short days. I cant wait to see your trunk show and learn about your stash organizing way, everyone says its the best!
Life has its up and downs and it takes its own crazy path and if you don't make time for yourself then whats the point? Breath, and travel safe and know that many of us appreciate your blog, quilt cam, facebook postings and all those delicious patterns.
A new friend in TN, Kim

Linda Swanekamp said...

Thank you for all you do! Thank you for your help, graciousness, and warmth! You need to slow down, even though every class you do is great. When I met you, when you came to Buffalo (Amherst, NY), I told you that you need a manager/scheduler. When you get run down, every irritating person is a huge rock in your shoe.
When those naysayers are loud and obnoxious, you have to think about those many who love you and help you because they are the ones that matter and that you are working for. It takes an intentional mind set to do this- the default is the voices of the miserable. You need deep rest. Love you.

Unknown said...

I read your blog this morning with tears in my eyes, hard to hear you so upset. I understand Sadie is your main concern this morning and then your family You can only do so much. maybe a well deserved break is needed, you will not upset your followers, some just need more compassion for what you do for all of us. Thank you and you are in our hearts.

Anonymous said...

Dear Bonnie,
You cannot know how what you do impacts me. I start each day with your blog, I save reading it until last because it is by far my favourite. Not only do you provide me inspiration in quilting but you let me see parts of the world that I can't see due to illness. You also help me see the world differently with your always positive outlook on life and how you take the time to see the beauty around you. I admire you for so many reasons. As I sat reading your blog this morning, I actually cried. The world can be a very dark and mean place and I consider you a bright spot. No one has the right to criticize what you do, you give us so much each and every day. The people who make these nasty comments are rude and ignorant. They simply don't have the right, if they don't like what they see and read they can stop going to your blog. In all likelihood they are not only rude to you, but are angry, biter people who have chosen to live that way. Please don't let them spoil your day, they aren't worth it. I do hope that I can someday make my way down form Alberta, Canada to take one of your classes, it is at the top of my bucket list.
Conny Brusselers
Quiltpatchwork@hotmail.com

Anonymous said...

Bonnie:
Yesterday I paused to put myself in your place and thought how hard it would be if I was working out of town and something happened to my furbaby. How would I handle it? And then I thought: Wow I really respect Bonnie for staying the course and continuing her teaching for fear of disappointing her quilt fans and fulfilling her obligations. That is giving beyond. I can totally understand all your feelings which I think are very normal. I have set my intention forward to not judge! Peace joy and harmony Bonnie.

Andee said...

So sorry rude and demanding people exist. Do not let them make you feel bad for a minute. You do what you need to do. Also glad Sadie is on the mend. Wish you could be home with her cuz no one takes care of anyone better than Mama. Hugs, peace and lots of love coming your way. ;)

Lisa Malaniak said...

Can you afford even a part-time assistant to help manage the scheduling, do the mailing, and run interference in the email/mail you're getting? Seriously, you're kind of a big deal in the quilting world now and it might be worth your SANITY to have some logistical help. I fear you're headed down a path to truly burn out and one day you'll just decide you're done with the lot of us. The vast majority of us care about YOU as much as we care about the next pattern coming our way.

Lori K said...

Your is one of the few blogs that I follow religiously. Please don't let a few rude, haters ruin what others love and look forward to. I appreciate every post, quote and picture you post.

Sending you hugs from the West Coast!

Gretchen McRoberts said...

Bonnie you are such an amazing, driven person that has taken her love of quilting to the heights of a successful business woman, author and teacher. Eleven years go by quickly, but it has been 11 years of YOUR life you have devoted and given to your passion. I shake my head in amazement at all you accomplish in a day, week and year. Personally, I need my alone time to recharge my batteries and that is precious to me. You deserve to have off the grid times....teachers get three months vacation to recharge. If you are feeling stress and resentment of your passion, you need to listen to your mind, body and spirit. We will still be here for you! Take care of YOU!

Anonymous said...

Bonnie, Short and to the point - THANK YOU! You give us all so much and just like spoiled children some ask for more. I am over the top grateful for all you give. THANK YOU! Now take care of yourself and do what you need to do for you.

Sally: Starflash Quilts said...

Hear hear Bonnie. Some people need to trade in their high horse for a Shetland pony. If it isn't working for you, then put the brakes on. You owe us nothing. Your inspiration will keep me busy for the rest of my days if you never post another free pattern or blog post. As for 2 hours a day editing a post when you are on the road, that's crazy! Put yourself first and enjoy what you do and only do what you enjoy xxxx

Jobro said...

I recently took a look at your schedule and was glad to see there seemed to be more family time. People who haven't traveled as part of their job don't understand how exhausting it can be. Bad enough if you are single but immensely more so with family and furbabies. I used to worry that you would burn yourself out, your schedule was just crazy. Set your limits, fill your schedule with places and people you enjoy, and if some people don't like it, that's too bad. I love all you do for us. Please take care of yourself first, we can wait.

Bonnie Jo Berg said...

Bonnie;
"Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who mater don't mind." Love that Dr. Seuss. :) MOST of us love you and appreciate all you do for us! Personally, I have learned so much since discovering your blog, your enthusiasm encouraged me to start quilting again. I had stopped altogether after the loss of a dear quilty friend.
Follow your heart and do what is best for you and your family, leave those negative, petty people behind.
Glad to hear Sadie is on the mend. HUGS!!!
Bonnie B

QuiltinLibraryLady said...

I am always amazed at how inconsiderate people can be...the world is just supposed revolve around them. You give so much, how can anyone complain when you need to change the schedule. Sure, everyone wants you to come to their guild, but like you say, life happens & things change. I for one know that I could never do all you do...all the traveling, making the quilts & writing the books, keeping up on the blog, quilt-cam when you have a spare evening, family responsibilities, free patterns & mysteries. Maybe the self-centered ones will read your post and realize they are only making your life harder with their complaints. Lets hope so.

Sounds like Sadie is doing fine & is well cared for. Here's hoping she will be good a new by the time you get home & ready to go on a walk with her momma.

Alice Kane said...

I've watched "free" TV since my Dad built our first TV in 1949; most of it has been financed by ads, except for PBS, to which I have been donating money for the past 20 years. So, the idea that you should eliminate ads seems a bit uninformed. Your Quiltville blog gains you an audience, but is also part of your livelihood. Being financially secure allows you to pay for your supplies and equipment, as well as your home, and you've been gracious enough to share your creativity with the rest of us. We really look forward to our morning reads, because we find inspiration (as to work ethic and actual quilting) from your ideas. While I understand the disappointment that the one guild member exhibited, your contract was quite clear. (I add that I am sad that I was not able to attend any of the several workshops that you offered last year in the Ohio-Vermont areas fairly near to where I live in the Catskills, because I didn't know about them until it was too late to apply; life happens! At least I got to see the photos and participate from afar.) Along with all the readers who have already commented, I rejoice with you that Sadie will be OK. It's hard not to be able to be home when your loved ones need you.

pam said...

Just shaking my head. I have no idea how people can be so rude and self absorbed.
I hope you find some time for you and your family soon. Sounds like you need it. Take care.
I know how hard it would be for me to leave my family when I think they need me most. pam

Susan Hodges said...

Only you know what works for you. Don't let the complainers get under your skin (easier said than done, I know). You are a gift to all of us out here in quilt land, and whatever decision you make, know that there are so many who have benefitted over the years from all you have given. Big hugs to you and to Sadie. I had to say goodbye to my 17 year old dog last week, and I know your heart is heavy not being with Sadie right now. Take care of yourself, darling girl!

thagard7 said...

Dearest Bonnie - I completely understand all that you're feeling about Sadie. She is such a love bug that I love her only having seen her in pictures! She's in good hands with the Hubster and will be feeling so much better when you get home. As for the complainers, control freaks, and unloaders, put up your boundaries - and remember that the positive energy you receive from all of us who love, admire, and respect you far outweighs the negativity sent by a few. Healing vibes sent to sweet Sadie.

PeggyB said...

Dear Bonnie,

Design your life like you design quilts. Make it what you want. Scale it back anytime. No one has a right to question your decisions.

We will still enjoy your blog if you just post once a week. Naysayer's and those other pushy people will always make demands. Please ignore them.

Robby H. said...

First, I'm pretty sure that some of this grumbling and complaining will look smaller once you see Sadie and hug her, however gently is required. People who have never traveled for work tend to have a misconception that it is like vacation. That was not my experience at all, although it certainly has some perks when things go well. Please do what is best for you and your family, you're the only one that can decide what that is. Finally, the people that have a huge sense of entitlement to free internet content are the same ones that grumble about things like why newspapers and local bookstores don't have the same content that they used to have. You can get darn near everything somewhere on the net, but if you aren't willing to pay for it to be curated then you get to sift through it all yourself. Thanks for sifting through and bringing us a lot of enjoyable, interesting quiltiness!

Marjolein den Boer said...

Dear Bonnie, thank you so much for all you share of your life and yourself. I feel truly privileged that I get to read your stories and watch you quilt - doing what I love - and I totally respect that this is something that takes a lot of time and energy. Time and energy that you only have a limited amount of... You are an inspiration, and that includes the choices that you make.
Big hug for you and for your fur-baby...

Dinah said...

Thanking you for all that you have unselfishly given others!
Sending you prayers for a complete recovery for sweet Sadie!
Wishing you blessings, always, no matter what your future holds!

Jo said...

The comments say it all. Yes, you cancelled your trip to Australia and therefore our guild. But life goes on. We are big people and should appreciate what you do for us. Many of us have gone through life tragedies. This is an enjoyable Bobbie for most of us and it IS NOT an addiction. You have your life to live to... Keep up what you do and hope you get back into your happy place soon. Sadie will be okay...

Ameswf said...

Dear Bonnie, So glad to hear that Sadie is recovering. Our nation has way too many selfish people who take for granted the gifts and wisdom of others. Your blog transformed the way I quilt and I will be forever grateful to you. As a follower of yours for 9 years, and a career woman who chose to live on less and retire early, if you walked away from long-distance travel and teaching tomorrow I would rejoice with you in that decision. Just sayin'.

Danita Baylis said...

Oh Bonnie, I can't imagine how you continually do what you do and bring such joy to all of us while taking care of you and yours. I get guilty feelings if I snap at the hubs and kids too much with my relatively easy and stress free life, I can't imagine how it hurts you to have people criticize and berate you after all you do. I hope you know that the rest of us appreciate it all, and there are those of us who will still cheer for Bonnie the wife, mom and quilter if you need to take a step back from your very public role as Our favorite quilter. Please, take care of you and do what you need to do, critics be damned. And as for Sadie, I have a 12 year old girl who is slowly getting less and less mobile, I hate to leave her and I'd feel the same way about being away when something came up, they aren't just pets, they are furry family members. Big big hugs, prayers for peace and serenity, gentle hugs and pets for Sadie and huge thanks for every single thing you do, both in public and behind the scenes.

sew lucky said...

Dear Bonnie ,
You amaze and inspire me and thousands more ! Please know that you give more than we should expect . I for one am beyond thankful to have found "Quiltville" many years ago . It has made MY life richer and those who I love, have benefited from that .Thank you ! Thank you for all you do !and please ... You don't need to apologize . Do we apologize to you when our life gets in the way and we haven't checked in and read your daily post ? no! Do we feel the need to address why we weren't there for Quilt cam when you had taken the time to make it possible? Don't think so . (((hugs))) from Cape Breton !
- I too have done your mysteries and love them ! would pay for the privilege as everyone I have ever done have been my best work .
Beth MacDonald

Nancy W said...

I am grateful that you share your experience and expertise with us. It seems safe to say that for every critical comment you receive, there are a thousand blessing you. A fellow quilter and friend just lost her son in an auto accident and I know she wouldn't take back a minute spent with him to have a minute more to quilt. Take time for yourself and you family -furbaby included. We can survive without some of the things we "expect" you to do if that time is needed for YOU! If you burn out and quit we would all be sorry. But in the end,it is your life and you must choose to spend it as you want/need to. "Life goes by too fast to spend it worrying about others all the time" - I believe that paraphrases a Bonnie comment. Ti
me to live you words, dear - for yourself!!!!!

Emily Johnson said...

Having worked with the " general public " for 41 years, it does not surprise me that those self centered individuals who contacted you felt the need to unload a ton of guilt at your feet. You did what you had to do in a timely fashion and so be it. Those hurtful comments were undeserved as you are hugely generous with your time and talents in so many ways! Altho i will never be in a position to take a class with you, my quilting life has been revitalized and *revolutionized* thru your books and online presence. Never doubt that the vast majority of us out here value your presence every single day via the internet.
Reminds me of a quote by someone........ When they find the centre of the universe, a lot of people are going to be disappointed they are not it.......
Good for you venting your feelings. As is often the case, people will complain before they say thank you - so THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart ! Look after yourself. And really glad Sadie is on the mend :))
Lots of hugs from Canada.

Cats said...

Oh, dear me... well now, sounds like you are very close to over-whelm... whelm is hard. whelm is a sign to back off and take a look at when you started letting others dictate what makes your heart sing, and YOU know that's the wrong road. Being a people pleaser you probably allow people like me who beg, "When are you coming to SoCal?" make you feel driven to do more and more... the plea is intended to make you feel wanted and loved, not harried and hassled. Remember the old saying, "For those who understand, no explanation is necessary, for those who don't, none is possible." No more reasons or excuses... guess what, I think you've temporarily forgotten YOU are entitled to feel the way you feel, about Sadie (who, btw is MUCH more than 'just a dog') about the kids, about traveling and NOT traveling... it's very clear to me... you need more time at home... what Bonnie needs feeds her creative child and the very core of her being... sigh... if it means less time out and about holding seminars and workshops? oh well, we are the loser if you have a complete and utter meltdown and so is your family and most important YOU... it appears to me your latest (?) 3, 4 months? little quotes are begging for some kind of relief to the assault on your person... you must take that relief, make time for what Bonnie really needs and wants... it's wonderful to be in demand and loved and welcomed and wanted... don't you think your family need and wants you too? Of course they do... and you need them! Enough said, my stream of consciousness writing gets long sometime, I hope you read and absorb and that in some small way it is beneficial to you. I love you Bonnie Hunter, take care... MomCats... cwhitcher@roadrunner.com

jmurty said...

Bonnie, I certainly can sympathize with you worrying about your pup and being away from her. It would tear me up as well.
I do admire your work as a quilter, but I must say I think you are very fortunate to be able to work and earn a living at something you love. Not everyone has that opportunity and must hold down full time jobs they might not like, but do so out of the necessity to earn a living, finding fleeting minutes to do something they love like quilting after kids are taken care of and housework done. I appreciate the efforts you make yo bring us a quality blog, free patterns etc. But I do think you are blessed to be able to do that.
I hope your lovely pup is better soon.

Lori said...

I am sorry that you are feeling this way. I am always amazed by the amount of blood, sweat, and tears that you put into your work. You seem to have boundless energy and enthusiasm and, yet, I know that everyone has their limits. I feel that this community has two sides--one is very supportive and giving while the other is shockingly demanding (always wanting more and more and more of you). Being self employed is hard and, unless you have done it, you don't have an appreciation for all of the non-customer facing stuff that the owner and operator goes through. Thank you for all you do. You are such a talented and generous teacher. First and foremost, take care of you and your family.

Anonymous said...

HUGS TO YOU BONNIE,
Traveling to work does take its toll physically and emotionally, especially when a family member has health issues.
Glad to hear Sadie is doing well and has loving people to care for her.
I am so amazed at what you do for all of us. Thank you.
Please know I will be thinking of you and Sadie and keeping you both in my prayers.
Yours in quilting,
Mary Ellen
In New Mexico

Patti said...

I always marvel at how hard you work and how much you travel. And you're very good and making it sounds so fun on your blog. You're completely right though. Life does happen and sometimes you have to save yourself for all of the demands coming at you. The world is full of people living for themselves. Some to the point of being selfish and rude evidently. So you should feel within your rights to live your life for you. Whatever it takes. Sending you cyber hugs and pats for Sadie. Difficult moments often bring things into perspective.

Kathleen said...

Bonnie, hun, you just need a reboot - and you don't need anyone's permission. Go to the mountains, spend some time redesigning - you have the answers within you. Or, hire a small business consultant, and analyze your ROI on various activities - that will make your head spin ! Glad Sadie is well.

Cheryl's Teapots2Quilting said...

Only YOU can walk in your shoes. Only YOU know how much effort you put into everything. Be true to YOURSELF and your family first. There will always be those who complain. They'd complain if you gave them $$$ tax free (probably wouldn't be enough $$$ for them). Don't let the 'few' complainers bring you down. Remember, most of us are just quiet, but, not complainers. Here is hoping you get some quality time with Sadie very soon. Glad she came thru well, and is on the road to recovery. Glad your boys are getting time to enjoy being together, too. Hang in there.

Marsha Smith said...

Bonnie, I so enjoy reading your blog. You are kind, generous and a lot of fun. Through you I see places and things I would never have the opportunity to see. And I have learned so much about quilting from you.
I wish you could be home with Sadie, but I know you take comfort in knowing she is in good hands.
Bless you.
Marsha

Terrie said...

Bonnie,You amaze and inspire me every day and I am just one of MANY. I am so sorry that the "squeaky wheels" have gotten to you, but please know that there are so many more of us that truly appreciate and look forward to every single thing that you do here. I have absolutely no complaint, Hope that you are able to get back to Sadie soon....the 4th is right around the corner. Here's hoping you see the light at the end of the tunnel soon !!!
Quilty hugs to you!!! Can't wait for your next book !!! :)

Nancy said...

I know you will figure it all out, one step at a time, just like when you gave up blogging twice a day. You are pulled in so many directions with all your projects and the expections that, to me, only a superwoman could do. Change is good .... and can be extremely freeing!! Hugs from Ct.

Becki @ the beach said...

Bonnie, hugs to you...ignore the haters, there are those who can never be satisfied or happy. Don't let them rain on your rainbow! You are the best...I so appreciate what you do
Thank~b

Angela said...

A few things:

1. I don't trust people who don't understand the relationship that happens between companion animals and families. My animals are all part of my family and we suffer with each and every sickness and death.

2. I love free things. I'd have a hard time accepting something for free (or even for money) if I believed that the person providing it did not enjoy the process. I teach, so I understand burnout is a very real thing. If you decide to step back or change the way you do you, then those who enjoy all you do will still be here. Those who want free things just because they are free will move on to the next thing. I'm not seeing that as a big loss.

3. I'd very much prefer a no-ad site. I can't afford to pay for one though and after your post, I'm sure you can't afford to provide one. So, I'll keep coming back here and reading and even occasionally clicking on some ads that I find interesting.

Love what you do and love your constant enthusiasm!

Jane Peck said...

Dear Bonnie, THANK YOU!The naysayers are few. Those of us who appreciate who you are and what you do are very happy. Need to scale it back, we understand and support you completely. You are in my heart today, HUGS for you and speedy recovery for Sadie.

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Glenda White said...

From Iowa, I would start deleting (removing ftom pages & blogs) anyone who post a negative comment or sends a negative email or private message. Make your own road is very clever and polite way to suggest they find someone else to police.

Lydia Newman said...

Bonnie, I was fortunate to be able to attend your workshop here in Granbury Texas a few years ago. I enjoy your patterns and books so much and my quilt stash is much easier to work with because of your tips.

It is amazing that you have continued to work so hard for the quilting world as you have. My prayer for you is this.... In your heart, if you no longer feel the joy and happiness needed to continue this, CUT BACK to the level that brings joy.

You are not married to the quilters out there.... You have one husband. These quilters are not your children or your parents. And there is ONLY one YOU.....

Praying for PEACE in your heart.

Susan Hayes said...

Hi Bonnie, I know there is a lot to read here today. So many of us genuinely care about you, your family and Sadie. At the end of the day it's your life. Do what makes you happy. If my Rosie ( she's 10 also ) were sick, and I were away, I'd be miserable too. I quit longarm quilting mostly because after 15 years there wasnt much appreciation for all the work. Hours of standing, caring worrying about everything from thread color to proper stitching and there's no way you get paid for all of those things. People have no clue of what goes into your work when you care about what you do. I hear more quilters saying the same thing. So, at the end of the day, it's your life.....take charge. I'm praying for you. Love, -Susan

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Karen Kluwin said...

Miss Bonnie....
First, let me say how glad I am that Sadie is doing well and being well cared for by the hubster. Our family has always had pets..they are an important part of our lives.
All these negative comments you've gotten are not worth a spit compared to the many more positive, upbeat ones. How you do what you do every day is amazing, I don't think people realize the time and effort it takes for it all. To be even more naive, I never realized why those little ads popped up at the bottom of a photo; thank you for explaining it. Hope it makes more people aware that seeing those are a small price to pay for all that you do in the way of blogs, photos, free patterns, mysteries, etc.
Your sons being friends as well as brothers speaks volumes as to the way you and the hubster raised them. Be proud!!!
I thank you for all you do and the time you give to us out here in quilt-land. Take time for you, your family, your furbaby.

Lisa in Port Hope said...

Bonnie, unfortunately it is true that there are people who are negative and self centred, please don't let them get to you! You have built an amazing brand and career with your teaching and designs and you should be proud of it! You run your schedule the way it works for you, and if that means you have vacations scheduled and have to turn down an invitation, so be it. Hugs to you and your family
Lisa
ljridge4511@gmail (dot) com

Janet Eidem said...

Thank you for being real with us, for your generosity, your creativity, your honesty. I doubt you have the time to read all that is in this comment file, but I just want to say that you are appreciated and loved by the vast majority of people who follow and participate. I write here therefore more as prayer for you. God bless Bonnie and Hubby and sons and Sadie. May the sun come out on your day, always.

Mary Fons said...

Bonnie, I stand in solidarity to you. Things that people have said to me and about me have been so wretched and cruel, they have taken my breath away. You are doing the right thing, undeniably, by pulling back. We all want to sometimes, and you do more than most. Countless people, including me, appreciate your work. With Love, Mary.

Anonymous said...

Please "Be kind to yourself". For every crabby person who complains to you, there are thousands of us out here that appreciate and love you for who you are. You are amazing, kind and generous. Raspberries to those who don't understand and can not accept that we are human and stuff happens. I can understand how you must feel right now, tired and frustrated. Again as my very wise uncle use to say to me "Be kind to yourself".
Most Sincerely,
Sharon
smbvenus1@windstream.net

Dale McMasters said...

Oh Bonnie, I'm so sorry some totally selfish person rained on your day. That person was thinking of no one else but herself when she wrote those words. That is something I've never seen or heard you do so flick her off, think of Sadie and how much she loves and misses you, go teach what you have to teach and get on with your life. It is YOUR life and you deserve to live it as you choose. Hundreds of thousands of us are grateful for all you share with us and for the awesome patterns and books you produce that we use to make outstanding quilts that earn us so many oohs and ahs. You are my favorite pattern maker quilter because your instructions are so clear and easy to follow. Do what is best for Bonnie and know that you are loved and appreciated by hordes of us.

susan Taylor said...

We are so used to seeing you all happy and upbeat that we forget that you have your limits. SO sorry about Sadie and I totally understand why you are so upset even if it is "Only" a dog. Our pets become part of us and we don't think we can go on with out them. It sounds like she is on the mend.
Some people are just rude and forget that you are giving up time with your family for every trip you make, and even some of the time when you are home. Thank you for your work on the blog with the slide show and for quiltcam They are a key part of my day.
We can always click the X on ads if that makes it possible for you to keep them up. Don't think people understand that you receive money from them (I didn't until my daughter started a blog)
Hope your day gets better,
Susan from OK

catsm103 said...

Dear Bonnie,
Your generosity with your time, talents, and thoughts is so very much appreciated by the majority of us. You continue to amaze me with your positive outlook on life, and I can certainly understand your frustration. You have given so much, and still there are those who will never be satisfied. Please don't allow the toxic naysayers' remarks penetrate your good-hearted disposition; you continue to inspire me with all you do. Follow your heart and listen to those little inner voices and do what is right for you. After all, nobody can make a better decision about what is best than YOU.
I am relieved that Sadie is on her way to a full recovery. As a dog mom myself, I can relate. They really play a big part in our lives with their nonjudgmental ways and their joyful greetings when we come home! My goal in life is to be as good a person as my dogs think I am!
Love, prayers, and peace to you.

Yumm yumz by patticakes said...

Forget all the trolls and get home soon to hug your puppy. All things look better when reflected from an animal's loving eyes!!!

Karen said...

When I first started reading your blog, Bonnie, I thought you had a crew of people working for you. Then after awhile, I realized, gosh, she does this all by herself! I honestly am in awe of all you accomplish and give of yourself to others. I hope you can strike a balance between work and home, that works for you, and not others! Sending big hugs from Canada, Karen

the ark said...

I'm sorry that angry/nasty people are coming at you from every direction! I, for one, appreciate all that you do for us nameless, faceless quilters out here in Blogland. I'm always surprised and amazed at the crazy-busy schedule you keep and wish that you had more down-time. I know that you enjoy a fast-paced life, but you really do go full-speed ahead. Time to re-schedule MORE quilt guilds, I say! Get your OWN quilt-groove on, Baby!

From one dog and cat lover to another, I'm sending you and Sadie good wishes and peace.

Margo's Musings said...

Hi,

I think you are very generous with your time and creativity! I look forward to your mystery projects each year. None of us have enough hours in the day to do everything we want and need to do -so each of us must set some priorities. I know that people are disappointed when you cannot find the time to participate in their event - but that doesn't give them the license to be rude.

I agree with a previous commenter - go hug your puppy, and don't give the totally selfish people another thought!

Anonymous said...

I can't find the words to comment on the negativity you have had to endure. Society can be judged by how they treat their animals. Sadie is so fortunate to have found such a great family. Take care of you and yours.
Bev in NS

ria vogelzang said...

Dear Bonnie, you are such a "giving" person!
Do what YOU love and take care of yourself and your family FIRST! (pets included; as they are family also!!!)
Thats what counts most in the end...
We LOVE you!
(There will always be complaints etc...; let them go.. You can't be everyones friend. .)
I will keep praying for Sadie's recovery and for you!
Love from that little orange country across the big pond... ;)
<3

ria vogelzang said...

Dear Bonnie, you are such a "giving" person!
Do what YOU love and take care of yourself and your family FIRST! (pets included; as they are family also!!!)
Thats what counts most in the end...
We LOVE you!
(There will always be complaints etc...; let them go.. You can't be everyones friend. .)
I will keep praying for Sadie's recovery and for you!
Love from that little orange country across the big pond... ;)
<3

Jillsknit said...

Back in the 1990s I had a machine knitting business and as part of it went around the country teaching workshops. It was much less travel than you do but I remember how drained I would feel and how disconnected I'd get from my home life because of all the time spent on the road. I also remember how expensive it was to travel and back then didn't get full compensation for my expenses unless I could sell a good amount of my patterns. I ended up having to leave the industry because machine knitting declined in general and people were photo copying my patterns instead of buying them. Being self employed in the craft/arts industry is tough and you don't get near the income someone else in corporate America does but you do get the love of what you do.(but that doesn't pay the bills!) I admire you for the time and efforts you put into all the travel, blogging, writing and all parts of your business. It takes a person with a lot of energy and love of her craft to do what you do. Thank you for having a blog I can enjoy every day and thank you for inspiring me.

Sharon Britt said...

The comment made by the Guild person is the reason why I don't join Guilds anymore. Kiss Sadie for me and never feel bad about taking care of yourself and your family. The person writing the rotten things won't take care of you when you're down or sick. Do what's best for you.

ellen terry said...

Dear Bonnie, I spend a lot of time at home by myself due to illness. I look forward to traveling and sewing vicariously through your blogs, leader ender challenges, mystery quilts and I even check out some of the ads. Most websites have ads AND they charge for almost every little bit of content too. When people send complaints just hit the delete button and keep on doing what you want to. I garantee that complainer didn't spend any of her time thinking about what you told her. She just moved on to her next victim.
Take time for yourself and every body you love. Including your fur babies. If you need income and think you can't cut back consider a voluntary fee for your content. People might surprise you. They pay for other content that isn't nearly as good as yours. Or make it mandatory fee. I will be follower no matter what. Keep up the good work but most importantly take care of you and yours. Nobody else will.
Ellen in Arkansas

Jami Harwood said...

As you can see by all the positive responses, there are more of us who truly care about you as a person. You are in charge of your life and the time you give to others. Take care of yourself first so you can continue to enjoy doing what you love! And just remember, there's always one or two in every bunch who try to ruin things for others. Keep smiling, Bonnie, you got this!!! :)

Kelly said...

Wow. I don't want to sound like the trolls who complain, they need to get life. These people are just plain mean. I've just recently discovered your blog and quiltcam and so appreciate what you do! I look forward to your blog posts and Youtube videos; I check everyday! Please accept my thanks and Rock On Bonnie, Rock On!!

Jayne Jacobson said...

Bonnie, you are the most amazing, giving, caring person I have ever known. Take care of you and your family and don't let the negatives try to run your life. I love all the knowledge that you have so willingly shared with all us quilters. Follow your heart and do what is best for you!

La Tea Dah said...

Hang in there, Bonnie. You do a terrific job and the majority of us appreciate you SO much! I don't know how you do it all. Many times I've thought that you need a full-time, personal assistant! One step at a time --- life will unfold according to the best plan for YOU!

Praying for Sadie, that she recovers quickly and well. And praying for you as well.

From Tri-Cities

PalmerGal said...

Wow! So many comments, most saying what I would say, so I won't repeat it all. Justz want to say, I love your blog - i read it first in my after breakfast reading. All the blogs i read have ads and while a few are annoying, i certainly understand why they are there. I hope that you can book more free time in 2019. First, though be sure you and your mom and aunt(s) have lots of time together on your cruise. I have been fortunate enough to have had 2 workshops and one trip with you, and ienjoyed them all. If there are no more, so be it. My cats send get well wishes to Sadie, and i know you can't wait to get home to her. Take care of yourself.!

Pat Kilmain

Peggy said...

Bonnie,

Glad Sadie is doing fine, it is tough when our pets need us and schedules make things difficult. Life has a way of leveling things. I can understand being at a crossroad, I have followed you for years when things were much simpler and the scale was much smaller. With growth and change comes challenges to retaining things you consider your essence. You are in one of those places now.

You are so beloved and loved and the disappointment at losing your visit must have been hard on that guild representative. If they were the ones that initiated and made the contract then they are the ones that have to disappoint that group. They took their frustration out on you as unfair as it is. They too are letting people down and desperately wanted to find a way to save face. It is one of those things that happens and it is far enough out that it will get righted. The way she expressed her disappointment to you was unfair and I'm sure when reading through things will feel badly.

At the end of it all stay true to you, vent when you need to, take a break if you need to, unplug deliberately for a bit if you need to. In order to fulfill your future you need to be able to recharge and renew. If you continue to let people take what you so generously give without renewing what you have it will be hard to continue what you love.

Maybe consider adding a new dimension to your existence and have "guest blogs" written from your class attendees and take some pressure off yourself or other favorites that could fill in for a few posts here and there or maybe recycle and do some "throw back" days when you just need a break. Memory lane days can be a good thing. It would also give you chance to just breathe. You are such a giving and generous person but there are times you just need to be within your own space. Take it and be well. Those that don't like it can find what suits them. You can't make all the people happy all the time.

Anonymous said...

Bonnie, I cried over your post today. I don't know how you keep up with all you do. You are a wonderful person and you do not need negative comments. You do so much for us and I for one look forward to your posts every day. Love to you and sweet Sadie. I hope your day gets better. Take care of yourself!!
Louise

Sheppard Morrison said...

Love and get well to Sadie, my favorite e-dog!! Love and support to you as you choose your next turn. I treasure all that you have given me.

Pattygogoz said...

Thank you for everything you do. You are an amazing talent, and I appreciate your time, your sewing hints, patterns, books, Quilt am and everything else you share with us. Sadie is a cutie and I wish her a speedy recovery. Whatever your future holds, I wish you the best.

Christy said...

So sorry that some people are not understanding of what you need. I and many others appreciate you and all you give to us. I am encouraged by your posts both as a quilter and person. Thank you for all you do. I fully support your choices to make your life livable! God bless you.

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Bonnie said...

Bonnie the first thing you need to do is take care of yourself. Please don't let a couple of people change you. I find when people are unhappy they would like to make other people unhappy also. Take time with your husband and decide what you want to do. Whatever the outcome you have given us a lot of happy quilting time. Life changes every day. Only you know what is best for you. You will never make everyone happy don't try. You are the queen of your universe no one else.

God bless and be happy

Melissa said...

I don't know how you do it all, but as a human, you do have limits and sometimes people will display their disappointment in catty ways. As a designer, you are very close to those you design for--there is no level removed so you don't see negative comments. For myself, I have a hard time shrugging off negative comments... I can imagine you may feel the same. Find your rhythm that suits you. Disappointments will happen, but it will all be ok. Sending you many hugs.

Barbara Sindlinger said...

So sorry people are making you feel the way you are feeling now. I'm glad you feel comfortable telling us how you feel. It reminds us that you are not a machine and that you have a life outside of the blog. I love and appreciate all that you do. Ignore the haters. There are enough of us out here who get where you are coming from and will support you no matter what you decide to do.

And I get how hard it is to be away from a sick fur baby. I'm glad she will be okay - they are such a big part of our lives.

cegs said...

Please know that your quotes and blogs have brightened many of my days, peace to you and so glad Sadie is on the mend. Hopefully the flood of positive messages will help heal the hurt caused by others, we love you.

Unknown said...

You are having a dark day, and I'm so sorry. Remember all the sunshine in your life. For every whiner there are hundreds of happy, grateful fans. Tomorrow is another day, and we'll be here cheering you on, girl.
If you do decide to change your 'route' a bit, wait until you are in a better frame of mind before you even think of it.
love ya lots.
carolyn
mylady@nbnet.nb.ca

Pamela Rapp said...

Bonnie, 99% of us appreciate & understand everything you do for us & all the effort that goes into that! Unfortunately, you will never be able to satisfy that other 1%. Just know that we all realize you are doing a wonderful thing for us - and giving 200% of yourself all the time!! You do a great job & you are a kind & generous person! Hugs to you!!

P.S. There are very few teachers who offer so many free patterns & I know that most of those who do a mystery quilt CHARGE a considerable fee to participate. So the whiners just need to hush & consider that!! :>)

Rachel Cold said...

Bonnie, remember family comes FIRST


Thank you for all you do for us. rachel.jane.cold@gmail.com

Claudia said...

I have been so lucky to take a class from you and have you at our Walnut Valley Quilters Guild in Kansas twice to do programs. I don't know how you keep up. I am so sorry for all the negative comments you are having to endure. I love your blog and all the free patterns and give-a-ways you offer. I have 3 of your books. If you decide to make changes your loyal fans and readers will understand and support you. It's your life and your health. Take care. Sending you much love.

Barbara Mead said...

I have been reading your post for a few years now and the thought has struck me.....How on earth do you do all those guilds without burning out. The traveling to and fro and finding time to decompress and just be with family. It seems so overwhelming to me and I must admit it felt that you were doing way too much. We all love you and I would love to come to one of your workshops but that hasn't been in the works for me at all. I think that you should do what is best for you. Cut back on doing some of the workshops. Maybe plan to be gone only one week a month and the rest of the time you are home. I think that you would be surprised how guilds will accommodate your scheduling to have you. I know right now you are stressed over sweet Sadie. My goodness what if it was a family member like the hubsters or the boys. You would be home in a nanosecond. People do have to understand that life does happen and we can't predict when God interrupts our plans. I don't understand why some people feel they own the teacher when they schedule a workshop. Take care my friend and try not to take too much of the whiners and complainers to heart. Just look at dear sweet Sadie's face and know that is where you heart is. All those crabapples can just take a flying leap.

Nancy Heffner Jacobson said...

Entitled children grow up to be entitled adults. Noone gives more than YOU. F'm and file 'em. We love you.

slrquilts said...

Sorry you're taking so much grief. I have taken classes with you at my guild and at large quilt shows. If you had cancelled I think my life would have gone on. When what you're doing stops being fun it's time to rethink things. It would be a huge loss to the quilt world if you stopped creating and sharing but it might be best for you to cut back on all the travel. You can always try doing less for a bit then get back in if you miss it. In the meantime don't let the "little quilters" get you down.

Anonymous said...

Bonnie,

Please know that what you give of yourself is enormously heartfelt and so uplifting to those of us who love and appreciate all that you do. My heart cries for you today. I am saying a prayer that you find a place where you are comforted and that it guides you to where you need to be.
A perfect work/life balance is necessary for all of us and the complainers obviously don't have that (they should spend more time fixing their own faults).
Hugs to Sadie girl. I know how much a pet can be a necessary part of your family.

Take care of YOU Bonnie...

Carolyn (ckobasher@yahoo.com)

Joye with an e said...

Please don't be upset by comments of insensitive people. You are fearing burnout, I'm sure, and that is completely understandable when you give so much of yourself to so many other people. It is your life, your business, your work and you can run it for your best interests, for your convenience, and keep yourself sane in the process. I hope that you can get the rest and down time you deserve, soon, even if it takes re-scheduling. I would feel lucky to take a workshop or see your trunk show anytime, and know that your visit would be well worth the wait. You are appreciated by far more people that those who criticize. Thank you for giving so freely of your time and talents. God bless you, and Sadie, too.

Wendy Caton Reed said...

Well, I'm guessing by all the comments I have read, you realize that 90% of us feel your pain and wish you the very best whatever decisions you make. You are one inspiring woman! You deserve all the rest and relaxation you can get. And, I'm with you, there is no such thing as "just a dog". I'm so happy to hear she is on the mend. Enjoy the day!

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