Memorial Day is one of those holidays that sets my own cognitive dissonance into overdrive within my soul.
I always had a hard time as a child understanding why BBQs and picnics and long holiday weekends to head to the nearest amusement park could happen alongside holding space for family and friends who had lost loved ones in war.
"We celebrate their sacrifice for our freedoms" I was told as a child.
Okay - but isn't there a solemnity to that?
"But they'd want us to be happy and not mourn and enjoy our lives - that's what they fought and gave their lives for."
Okay.
But in my young mind it always felt like I was dancing on someone's grief.
I'm grateful for those who have their all. I just want to make space for that gratitude. And I'll be doing that today.
I'm sharing at the top of this post my Ohio Stars and Rails quilt that I started in the aftermath of 9/11/2001. It's an oldie but a goodie. And yes, the pattern is still found under the Free Patterns tab.
I moved things I had placed on my website to the blog tab in June of 2005 when the blog was started. We are coming up on that 20 year blog-iversary, and that freaks me out to no end.
At any rate - there is no PDF copy for Ohio Stars & Rails - it was the old format before PDFs were a thing. It's a print friendly html page. Not accessible by mobile device. My, has technology changed.
It has standard rotary cutting instructions, no specialty rulers and I think you can tell from the not-high-res-24-year-old photo that I hand quilted it with Baptist Fans.
It just felt like "Memorial Day" to me, so I thought I'd put it here.
20 years of blogging as of next week? I have no words (Except that here I am being wordy.)

And as this is Memorial Day, I thought I'd share a bit of where I've walked with my thoughts over the weekend.
I wish I could share the babbling of this creek. This place centers my soul. This place listens to my heart.
The wild roses have burst into bloom and they are cascading everywehre.
And they have the most delicious fragrance -
The heart shaped petals are so lovely.
I was surrounded by the headiness of nature.
They are blooming everywhere along both sides of the holler.
Right on time. Almost June.
Over the fence along this side of the winding creek.
And up against the fence as I said hello to the lazy cows.
Rain started in the wee small hours last night - it's going to continue through the next couple of days.
A soft drenching kind of late spring/early summer rain. I love to listen to it drip off of the tree leaves and eaves, and work its way down the rain chains at the corners of the cabin's front porch.
There will be no hikes for at least a couple of days. Too wet. Too muddy.
This was my weekend focus.
I'm up to somewhere between 150 -160 but need many, many more.
This will continue today.
And it has made such a dent in my shirt strings that I've had to dig in and cut more neutral shirt parts into strings to complete the neutral side. And that's okay - we do what we have to do to get the job done.
I'm even throwing in some "regular" off-the-bolt neutral strings in if they blend well with the others. Things like plaids, dots, stripes and some shirting type prints.
It's FABRIC. So in it goes.
Evening Stitching continues.
This project feels endless, but I keep stitching. I added all of these neutrals last night over the span of about 3 hours.
There is likely one more evening session of neutral hexies to surround the center motif, and then it will be surrounded by aqua hexies to finish it off, set it aside and start the next one.
Adding the aqua hexies is likely to take another two evenings.
I look at this as an exercise in patience. And I'm thinking of all of those other Grandmother's Flower Garden quilts that were made during the 1920's - 1940s. I'm wondering if those makers felt the same way I did. That they have just this amount of evening time to unwind and get some stitches in after the busyness of the day.
Of all of those quiltmakers who didn't make "That Many" quilts in rapid-fire fashion the way we tend to church them out today because it just "TOOK THAT LONG" to make ONE.
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On this Memorial Day: It's the last day for the Quilter's of the Night retreat. They are making beautiful things!
With the constant rain we may not get over-the-porch-rail photos accomplished, but I'll have more design wall photos to share tomorrow.
And today will just be a slower-paced day here as we hold reverence for those who gave their ultimate sacrifice not even realizing just who they were making this sacrifice for.
They had no idea of the things we would be facing today at this period in time. They just gave their all without question.
Quiltville Quote of the Day -
In memory of those who gave their all and died for our freedoms.
We thank you with all of our hearts.
Happy Memorial Day, everyone -

I have also always had a bit of a disconnect with Memorial Day. My birthday is May 25th so it is often during Memorial Day weekend. It has always been rather odd, I am happy that I’m alive but I’m also honoring those that died for us. I’ve never really known what to do with that. I was on vacation to a state park this past two weeks and stitched 10 flowers for my grandmother’s flower garden quilt. I seam them with a running stitch instead of English paper piecing.
ReplyDeleteI'm old enough to remember when Memorial Day was called Decoration Day. Families would go to cemeteries to decorate the graves of those who died in service to the country. After paying respects, a picnic lunch or dinner would often follow, sometimes right at the cemetery. As a child, that's how I understood why Memorial Day became associated with picnics, and why it was not disrespectful. But I get what you're saying. Most people skip the cemetery part these days and go straight for the picnic.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the Ohio Stars and Rails quilt. I have roamed your free patterns many times but never paid any particular attention to this quilt until this morning. Your thoughtful reflection on how you came to design and create this quilt was quietly moving and much appreciated this morning. Now that I have "seen" the Ohio Stars and Rails, I am thinking this might be a good graduation quilt for one of my grandsons. Enjoy your day of stitching and the scent of the wild roses when you can wander past them after the rain has ended. L. Dove
ReplyDelete...Meanwhile, our Commander In Cheat (or his A-I bot) went on a caps-lock rant this morning about "scum" running the country the last 4 years and "monsters" in the courts. Not a word about the military members who sacrificed their lives defending freedom. But he did wish everyone a "happy" Memorial Day twice, so there's that...
ReplyDeleteI saw that. It was a horrendous rant - so totally inappropriate.
DeleteNature speaks to my soul too! I love the pics of your beautiful surroundings. Carolyn
ReplyDeleteA wonderful blog post today. Your comment is right on too. I have no relatives who died in war, but my hubby has many who fought for us. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your comments about Memorial Day. As the aunt of a soldier who gave his all, it is hard to know how to respond when some says happy Memorial Day. Yes, I am happy to have the freedoms that he fought for, but I am not happy that he and many others had to give their life for those freedoms.
ReplyDeleteMemorial Day is a day to remember those who have been lost in service to our country. Yesterday is the anniversary of my cousin's death in Vietnam, 1967. He was only 19 and had been in country for a very short time before he was lost. He was more like a big brother and I still miss him.
ReplyDeleteIt has always bothered me that Memorial Day has become a time for sales of cars, furniture and all sorts of stuff. For some it has lost all meaning.
God bless all who gave their lives for our freedoms.
My daughter is currently serving in the AF. This Mom has watched her daughter mourn in the death of her friends in the military. She has listened to the voice as one’s plane crashed. Held close a military member who lost their spouse who was a military member. The families and friends go thru a lot as they serve. God Bless those that service and those family members who serve along side of them.
ReplyDeleteWar — the price is too high. We can do better. It would be a service to those we remember and honor this Memorial Day if we made a good effort in that direction. (Quaker pacifist here)
ReplyDeleteI have many military family members. A great uncle that never came home. An uncle, son in law, and cousin that came home but the reminders of war are always there. We buried my cousin yesterday from suicide at 42. Not much celebrating today it hurts too much.
ReplyDeleteBonnie, thank you for your thoughtful words today, I really appreciate your heartfelt reflection. It means a lot.
ReplyDeleteAmen.
ReplyDeleteThank you for your thoughtful remembrance. I, too, have often felt that disconnect. I worked in retail for many years and many felt that Memorial Day sales and a day off from work were the best thing about this holiday weekend. Since retiring, I've enjoyed the opportunity to remember quietly the sacrifice so many have made.
ReplyDeleteWow!! 20 years already!! I have followed almost as long as I have been quilting, Celtic Solstice was my 4th quilt ever! I love the Ohio Stars pattern, no matter which pattern you follow. I cringe when people say " Happy" Memorial Day... it's not happy. I tried not cry when they played Taps at the memorial service today, but it happens. I'm worse when I hear it live! Back to the grind tomorrow. 2 more weeks... UGH!! Then summer vacation & time to breathe. Happy stitching!! :-)
ReplyDeleteI agree that Memorial Day has been diminished. Not to get political, but especially these days, it feels as if our democracy is going backwards. It's hard to wrap our heads around those who fought and died for our freedoms seeing where things are today. What would they think? We will never know. .
ReplyDeleteThank you, Bonnie. I couldn't agree more.
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