tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post7466348906313432750..comments2024-03-28T18:45:45.374-04:00Comments on Quiltville's Quips & Snips!!: Pulling hair out...Bonnie K. Hunterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16377635115790685301noreply@blogger.comBlogger51125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-26266533791907252502015-05-06T21:24:24.013-04:002015-05-06T21:24:24.013-04:00My son did the same thing and we ended up telling ...My son did the same thing and we ended up telling him that if he quit school he would have to get a job and find a place to live. We set him up with an apartment and then let him live with the adult responsibilities he seemed to want! It was a hard couple of tough love years but we all got through it. He eventually went back to school and became a master electrician! And he did it on his own and his own time. I am so proud of him! Have faith! Sandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09468911459526909106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-80548828284706533662009-06-26T19:13:21.083-04:002009-06-26T19:13:21.083-04:00Hi Bonnie, I am sorry to hear about your son but I...Hi Bonnie, I am sorry to hear about your son but I can truly relate. My youngest son went to college right after high school because "that was what we expected". However a year later after losing 12 credits because he never took the final exams, he announced that school was not for him. He decided he would rather work full-time. He did that for about 7 months and realized that he needed to get an education to get anywhere in life. That was a year ago. He now has 30 college credits and is registering for 15 more credits in the fall. Sometimes it just takes them a little time to find 'their way' in life. I pray everything works out for the best. MaryMaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11243996140837619690noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-41500964793915515792009-06-23T18:13:52.356-04:002009-06-23T18:13:52.356-04:00Bonnie: I am adding my hugs and prayers to all th...Bonnie: I am adding my hugs and prayers to all the rest being offered to you! You must be feeling all these hugs squeezing you tight! Hang in there....it may take some time, but there will be a time when things come together and lessons are learned...parenting sure is tougher than you think when you bring a cute bouncing baby home from the hospital!Darlene Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06765261971908794837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-76037357780776117172009-06-23T10:55:22.953-04:002009-06-23T10:55:22.953-04:00sorry you are going thru this....I have been there...sorry you are going thru this....I have been there with 2 out of my 4....found that cutting off absolutely all money worked .... took awhile but they are hard workers now and the youngest is back in college full time and still working....It really hurts a mama's heart but just know there is hope!!Annahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04318704598427907038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-62856274660049727602009-06-23T09:56:09.271-04:002009-06-23T09:56:09.271-04:00My heart goes out to you . . . parenting is never ...My heart goes out to you . . . parenting is never easy, and especially challenging in a situation like yours. The hardest lesson I had to learn was that I couldn't "fix" everything, no matter how much I wanted to. <br /><br />I feel your "all cried out" pain ~ all I can offer is that we (our marriage, DH and I as individuals, and our younger son) would not have survived without our family therapist. His skills and compassionate care made all the difference. <br /><br />Was it easy? No. <br /><br />Was it worth the struggle? Yes.<br /><br />Take care!Quiltdivajuliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15593385265961892847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-14237207113321352852009-06-23T09:30:23.848-04:002009-06-23T09:30:23.848-04:00I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. M...I'll keep you and your family in my prayers. My oldest graduated but it was a hard haul to motivate him. The rest did just fine on their own. I wish kids came with instruction manuals! Cindyonlymeherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08880378084448908090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-53286483164665414702009-06-23T09:28:02.853-04:002009-06-23T09:28:02.853-04:00Just want you to know I'm praying for ya....it...Just want you to know I'm praying for ya....it is a tough road.YankeeQuilterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03324287185970922332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-11609686030387572332009-06-23T08:51:48.754-04:002009-06-23T08:51:48.754-04:00It's YOUR job to provide for him until ???, bu...It's YOUR job to provide for him until ???, but it's HIS job to accept it. You're doing your job - he has to figure that out. Hang in there and don't burn any bridges. Maybe some girl will get him straightened out - it would not be the first time a girl had more influence than a Mom .. or another person might get through to him. He probably doesn't hear you.Elaine Adairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14664504842156046995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-42488838945366029002009-06-23T07:50:30.421-04:002009-06-23T07:50:30.421-04:00Hi Bonnie....
Just wanted to say it's a whole ...Hi Bonnie....<br />Just wanted to say it's a whole new day! Hope you are feeling better about things today and know that many of us are keeping you in our thoughts and prayers.BitnByAQuiltingBughttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04340944871743610239noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-19158121271413022452009-06-23T07:20:18.182-04:002009-06-23T07:20:18.182-04:00I am so sorry that you're going through this r...I am so sorry that you're going through this right now. Take the time you need, we're not going anywhere. Sending you a great big hug.Mrs. Goodneedlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07453388163219666450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-33207025849145163832009-06-23T07:14:43.260-04:002009-06-23T07:14:43.260-04:00Bonnie,
Sometimes we just have to watch from the s...Bonnie,<br />Sometimes we just have to watch from the sidelines when our kids live their lives. <br />Maybe he'll get a big dose of reality and become the man you know he can be. <br />I'll be keeping good thoughts for you.Eileenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11791592886458322904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-35988294823334537242009-06-23T03:14:15.213-04:002009-06-23T03:14:15.213-04:00Not much I can add, but my thoughts are with you.Not much I can add, but my thoughts are with you.QuiltSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18121195815836334067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-9147740956204079632009-06-23T03:10:57.444-04:002009-06-23T03:10:57.444-04:00I'm so sorry you're going through all this...I'm so sorry you're going through all this heartbreak, kids really know how to put us through the wringer don't they?<br />Just know that we're all here for you, and ready to lend an understanding ear.<br />*big hugs*<br />Tazzie<br />:-)Tazziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11872390174069150617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-75647902543771940592009-06-23T00:22:53.551-04:002009-06-23T00:22:53.551-04:00Bonnie, just remember to BREATHE...oh and that mal...Bonnie, just remember to BREATHE...oh and that male children take EVER so much longer to mature than the girl children! Hang in there!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18228272999302748449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-43108134418137938182009-06-23T00:20:36.620-04:002009-06-23T00:20:36.620-04:00Bonnie,
I think all your quilt friends have said i...Bonnie,<br />I think all your quilt friends have said it all, I just want to add my thinking about you and praying for you! I think it was easier when they were all home and under foot....Parenting isn't for the faint of heart<br />quilt hugs<br />triciaPattie Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05885847219749843301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-29548990040913560252009-06-22T23:50:50.551-04:002009-06-22T23:50:50.551-04:00Oh Bonnie I can certainly appreciate where you'...Oh Bonnie I can certainly appreciate where you're at right now. Just know that in the not too distant future our kids do see the error of their ways and get back on track. Someimes their decisions are just to challenge their boundries. Hang in there!Wanda Sotkowyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08678943664011577881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-10034198362385347012009-06-22T23:34:21.159-04:002009-06-22T23:34:21.159-04:00My 21yo son is starting on a better path (and atti...My 21yo son is starting on a better path (and attitude improving) and my 18yo dd is scaring the bejibbers out of me with her decisions. She moved out yesterday. I still have 16yob, 14yob, 12yog, 10yog, 7yob, 5yog and my sweet little 3yog. If I'd known what this stage was like... <br />O-:<br /><br />Lucy (in IN)qltmom9https://www.blogger.com/profile/00891119764581754368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-63489746936721545632009-06-22T23:00:24.101-04:002009-06-22T23:00:24.101-04:00Bonnie, I'm sending you as many cyberhugs as a...Bonnie, I'm sending you as many cyberhugs as are technologically possible. I've raised two wonderful sons and they've turned out great despite the times I wanted to wring their necks. The hardest part of being a parent is stepping back and allowing them to make their own decisions, knowing that our wisdom and experience can save them from making mistakes. <br /><br />If I can be so presumptuous as to offer any advice at all, it's to love him through this at the same time you don't enable him. (OMG...that is SO hard!) This is his decision. Love him anyway and give him a safe, warm place to fall, without supporting him financially. Adult decisions call for adult consequences. <br /><br />No matter what you do, I am sending love and prayers your way. Trust that everything you have modeled for him thus far will play out in its own time and way. Give thanks in all circumstances.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02999956275808214429noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-57474894383496656662009-06-22T22:29:32.667-04:002009-06-22T22:29:32.667-04:00I was the one who gave my parents grief, but event...I was the one who gave my parents grief, but eventually got my head on straight. Our own kids were not all that hard, but now our oldest daughter is having the exact same troubles with her youngest son that you are with yours. We pray for both boys, and for you and our daughter too. It's a hard time, and only prayers and love can get you through it, so we're here praying for you and sending our love and support. Bless you!grammilouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04764567967851741490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-8077393011689474742009-06-22T22:27:34.289-04:002009-06-22T22:27:34.289-04:00Hugs Hugs Hugs to you... trust that you've don...Hugs Hugs Hugs to you... trust that you've done a good job and he will see this period through...Sharihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18308423156191499365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-53977392592829506622009-06-22T22:21:11.746-04:002009-06-22T22:21:11.746-04:00I remember this very problem. Our second son deci...I remember this very problem. Our second son decided to give up his full scholership and join the Air Force. In the long run it worked out for him but when he decided to return to school he was working full time, was married and had two children. He has admitted that it was much harder than it would have been if he had stayed in school.Gari in ALhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07695711731891676422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-51621579574369129082009-06-22T21:56:08.988-04:002009-06-22T21:56:08.988-04:00We can only help them so much and then it's ti...We can only help them so much and then it's time for us to cut the apron strings. I have the same issues with my oldest son. After bailing him out of prediciments too many times, we have decided that we are not going to help him any more. He's a smart man, maybe too smart for his own good. He threw away 2 yrs of college at our expense and thinks he wants to go to university. Only if he pays for it because I'm not. It's very sad the way it all turns out. You just want to shake some sense in to them. I'm sure it will get better. Have faith.Mary-Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10939245117285165710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-17011643354427842442009-06-22T21:53:01.973-04:002009-06-22T21:53:01.973-04:00Just want to add my moral support.Just want to add my moral support.Julie in the Barnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18147114606468287519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-35773047937880396592009-06-22T21:52:31.303-04:002009-06-22T21:52:31.303-04:00Take good care of yourself.
It sure is hard raisin...Take good care of yourself.<br />It sure is hard raising children. I wish I could make it easier for you but you know that isn't gonna happen....hang in there and you will get through it. Keep praying for him.<br /><br />Happy sewing.....its good therapyKimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05430521425239584348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13569819.post-39220880284026484142009-06-22T21:45:10.142-04:002009-06-22T21:45:10.142-04:00Well, nothing to do but sit down and sew. Take ca...Well, nothing to do but sit down and sew. Take care of yourself.woolywomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14798060848062776281noreply@blogger.com