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Thursday, January 30, 2020

Leaving a Lot of Love with Dad -


I gave dad his quilt!

Before coming to Arizona, I walked through the closet (aka the Quilt Vault) to choose something that would look great at Dad’s place.

Criss-Cross Applesauce is found my my book Scraps & Shirttails ii, and has been a favorite for a long time.  It not only includes some of my OWN shirts in the mix, but many of my grandfather’s as well.

The repeat of simple blocks with random value placement throughout makes me happy..  the size of the blocks – not too big, not too small – also make this a fun project to work on.

And it’s just the right size to fit a queen sized guest bed – so guess who slept under it the entire time I was in Arizona?


Over the wall photo shoot!

I realized as I was packing up this morning, and unmaking the bed that I had not taken any outdoor photos.  Dad’s back yard was close at hand and I went out this morning for a couple of quickies.  Yes, I love this quilt!  it sparkles!


Trying not to wake the neighbors!


Close up of fun fabrics.

The bright green with blue 3rd block from the right, top row. That was one of my line dancing shirts from when I lived in Idaho!  go down one row and count 2 to the left and that olive green paisley looking fabric was also one of mine.

When I stopped line dancing and the shirts languished, they got cut up into quilting fabric and the shirts live on.

Now the quilt will live on at dad’s house so I can come and visit it from time to time.  I love knowing I’m leaving a little bit of myself here with him.


Yesterday’s movie matinee -

JoJo Rabbit.

I had heard this movie was up for several awards – the critics liked it, the public liked it (according to my Flixster app anyway) and off we went to see it.

I knew part of it was to be satirical.  But I still found the subject matter hard to swallow.  I know I would not see it again.  There were charming and funny bits, but the whole subject matter (exterminating those of Jewish descent and everything pro Hitler) was disturbing even in a satirical sense.

I loved Scarlett Johannson’s character, but even that well – spoiler, spoiler.  It left me feeling so sad.

Dinner at Oregano’s saved the day!  It’s become our tradition to share a birthday Pizzookie (Peanut butter topped with chocolate chips and ice cream!) to celebrate our time together.


From a bad movie to a really good read!

My dad knows the most interesting of folks! I joined him for lunch with his friend Vy whom he met playing Pickleball- and it turns out she is a mystery writer!



Her latest novel is 'A Mah Jongg Mystery.' And I have been pulled in from the start. What's not to like about the discovery of murder and foul play in the first sentence?



You can find
Violetta Armour on Amazon. Enjoy!

(The above link takes you to her author page where all of her books are.)

You will like them A LOT!

And yes, the TWO words A LOT, also written in our post title above are the lead in to this next thing -


Let's face it - We are here in social media world communicating through the written word.

There are folks out there tripping over their (Not they're or there) grammar, unaware that it's like fingernails down the chalkboard in some people's brains. (Yes, that would include mine.) If you want to get your point across, and have people take you seriously in whatever your (Not you're) chosen field is, grammar matters.⁣

There are some things that are just painful to read! And while my life holds a constant battle between wanting to read things correctly, and still wanting to have friends (HA!) - Let this little meme fix ONE little thing that may make the internet a better place to read!

I like you A LOT. Not alot. Two words. As in - I like you a little. A little bit more when you don't write alot.

You're welcome! (Not YOUR welcome, and never should OF, could OF, may OF, mayn't OF - it's SHOULD HAVE or at least should've, folks!)

Yes, I know English is a second language to many. But I am generally reading English speakers with at least a high school education. Some who consider themselves to be authors.

Do I say this or continue to let folks look less than stellar in the eyes of others? Is ignorance really bliss if it still leaves folks looking ignorant?

I'm not perfect either. Far from it. But this is like toilet paper stuck to a friend's shoe. Do you tell them or not?  Why do I care? Because I care that it makes people appear less intelligent than I know they are.

I have been extremely grateful to those folks that have sent me private messages of “Did you know – it’s this, not that?!” over the years. 

The key is to not be offended if someone says “Hey, I know it sounds like SHOULD OF, but it is spelled SHOULD’VE which is short for SHOULD HAVE.”  And if you are unsure – research it before you think they are full of a lot (Equal to a load, not aload) of crap.  LOL.

(But then again, if you want to continue to appear uneducated....ignore this completely.)

(Even voice-to-text will not make the mistake of alot. or SHOULD OF.)

Okay, I’ve seriously been on the road too long and am ready to get home.  The busy bag is packed, the suitcase is in the car. We will grab brunch on our way to the airport and I’ll be North Carolina bound arriving late tonight.

I’ll head up to Virginia tomorrow and start to put my life back together after 10 days on the road.


Quiltville Quote of the Day -

Vintage goose in the pond quilt from my collection.

We tend to forget that mistakes are a part of being human.

We need to appreciate our mistakes for what they are, precious life lessons that can sometimes only be learned the hard way.

Each day is a new day to choose another way!

(And it starts with how we spell A LOT!)

Have a terrific Thursday, everyone!


60 comments:

SandyPA said...

Loved your proper English rant! I find myself correcting country singers when certain songs play on the radio. LOL Sandy at sewhigh.blogspot.com

Jacqueline said...

My Mom was a stickler regarding correct grammar, and I guess I am carrying on her pet peeve. You can correct me all you want, I will appreciate it.

Mary said...

Oh yes, Grammer and misspelling bug me too. There, Their, They're are the worst. I had an Elementary teacher who drilled us on 'I Saw' not seen! Fingernails on the chalkboard, ewww. So happy you could give your father the Crisscross Applesauce Quilt. You will visit it often. Safe travels today. Between storms, we are going to see the Quilt Museum in Lincoln Nebraska.

Marsha B said...

I know what you mean about grammar. I never thought I paid a lot of attention in English class when we had to study grammar and diagram all those sentences but when I see or hear how people write and talk now, I guess I did. Watching our local news reports has become a game of find the error. These reporters have college degrees and have terrible grammar. It can be funny and irritating at the same time! Safe travels Bonnie!

Stlkeeler said...

Thank you for the grammar lesson! One of mine is when people say, "I could care less." Thid implies they care somewhat. What they really mean is they couldn't care less.

Diane Evans said...

We love you more than a lot. Absolutely sure that this is the first time I have ever used the expression "a lot"......giggle

Susan said...

My sentiments exactly. I am also bothered by the use of its and it's. Usually everyone uses it's for everything. I also say, if you want to use "alot" it is spelled with two lls (allot) and doesn't mean the same thing as a lot.

Sue said...

You are fighting a losing battle in a world where periods have become dots. Periods go on the line, dots go half-way up over a letter i.

Connie said...

I had to laugh at your (not you're) rant on grammar. Just yesterday at our quilt guild we discussed the same thing. Two of the ladies are retired English teachers and they're (not their or there) amazed at how the wrong word is used a lot. I saw an ad in a newspaper for a Dotsun for sale - listed in the pets for sale section!! Another topic was misuse or overuse of apostrophes and commas. I saw a sign "Horse's for Sale" and wondered what it was that belonged to the horses that they were selling - LOL! "Let's eat Grandma!" is very different from "Let's eat, Grandma!"

jennieb said...

Oh, Bonnie, I am so with you . My biggest one is people who was 'pitcher' for 'picture'. Yi-yi-yi. I've tried to say pitchers are in ball games and something to pour from, but.................... nails on the chalkboard.

marcille said...

Thank you so much for the rant - I wish it were mandatory reading for all.

Sara said...

Loved this post. It made me chuckle because I always struggle with the same grammar fixation. To correct or not to correct?

WeedyMama said...

"Anyways". "These ones". Look them up. Are they in the dictionary?

Sew nice to know that other people grind their teeth over spelling errors.

Lindah said...

Bravo, Bonnie, on your proper English observations. I don't think it is being taught much in schools these days.
How neat to leave the pretty quilt with your dad. Your description of your shirts in the mix reminds me of my current project using thrifted shirts. I pulled out a chunk and found darts in "just the right places," but I surely don't remember wearing it. (smile) Needless to say, this pile of pieces has been around for awhile. Time to get them moving.
The quote from Eleanor Roosevelt makes me smile. The very best way to learn is from OTHER's mistakes. Y'know: better she/he than me. :-)
Have a very restful and rejuvenating weekend!

Judy in Michigan said...

I'm glad you spoke about grammar. It drives me crazy too. (I am being so careful to spell each word correctly to or too? LOL) Anyway, here's one..."it toke me awhile to fix the..." or "It took me a while to fix the..." That one I don't know for sure. Btw, I got the Mah Jongg book from Amazon - it's available as a Kindle Unlimited if you have that service. It's a fun book and it is hard to put down. Thanks for the recommendation.

Jill Stiger said...

Correct grammar and punctuation (apostrophes!) are a big thing to me. When I taught elementary school I would write a response on the child's paper using the correct spelling etc. so as not to hurt feelings but to gently correct mistakes. I try to do that with adults too.

Shonnie said...

Thank you for your grammar rant! You've said what many of us are thinking. My particular pet peeves are apostrophes (NOT to be used for plurals, ONLY for possessives and contractions!) and poor grammar in the news media. If someone makes their living with words, they should know how to use and spell them!

Cats said...

I try not to be the grammar police, AND I agree with your rant! A LOT! Love and happy safe trip "home" -- you are at home so many places. Cats in Carlsbad CA

Rosemarie said...

bonnie, if you look at JoJoRabbit as a lesson in how indoctrination can lead to utter disaster, this movie serves as a warning to all of us that what happened before can happen again. We must guard against it! How strong that little boy was to survive, with the help of his hidden friend.

Joye with an e said...

Amen Sister! And I would like to add the misspelling of the word its to your rant. It's is a contraction for it is. Its is a possessive just like his or hers or yours (no apostrophe).

Tammie said...

I have to give you a “here, here” for the vocabulary lesson! I too am a grammar snob. But, I have to say...living in Texas my entire life has made it difficult not to fall into the trap...we have our own language down here, and it so often involves butchered grammar..😂. But, I try to avoid appearing less than educated when I write or speak. The accent...now that’s a whole different ballgame!! Have a safe trip home. I think you chose the perfect quilt for your dad...it looks manly because of the greens, but the pinks are a reminder it’s from his little girl!

MissPat said...

Oh, I'm with you on the grammar thing. One error I constantly see, while technically not grammar, is writing wa-la instead of voila. Probably the result of people having heard the word, but not seen it spelled. Glad you had a nice visit with family while you were in AZ.

Nancy said...

Although I have on occasion been guilty of 'alot', I try not too! My pet peeves are to, too and two. Along with there, their and they're.

Podunk Pretties said...

Yep, and when to and when not to start a new paragraph is also a major blunder. But life is short and people are human. I can overlook their mistakes when they have good content and good intentions. I hope they extend me the same courtesy.

Joan E said...

My major gripe is when people say "acrosst" when talking about quilting. I usually listen to two books a week at least, and out of all the books I heard last year only one did not have a quilt in the story. These are often mysteries, so I am not listening to stories about quilts, (just my thought today.) I'm glad you had a memorable time, safe travels on your return.

Lisa said...

I liked your English lesson. Though English is my only language, I'm not very good at it for reasons I won't bore you with. If I can catch an error it's going to be pretty blatant. I usually give the benefit of the doubt to the bloggers I follow and figure that it is due to spell check or not caught if they do a quick review of their post for the day. Rarely do I see the odd word on your blog. Glad you got to spend quality time with your dad. And see some sun!

Sherrill said...

I'm the same way. Even when I'm reading a book from the library and I stumble across something that doesn't sound quite right, I have to stop and re-read the sentence two or three times until I decide ok, that's right or no, that's NOT right (and have a strong urge to correct it over the typed word!! HA). I love your dad's new quilt. May have to make one one of these days (but I have to find the book first; it's here somewhere).

HospiceNP said...

You must be related to me! My whole family, and it's big, has the same pet peeve. We send each other things about it on FB and rant on and on. One of mine is "I could care less". Well that means you care some, and I don't think that's what you meant. Anyway! Enjoy your trip home, maybe use your busy bag LOL.

Denise Patterson said...

I agree! Grammar matters. I go over the appropriate spelling and use of many of these words with my students in my upper division college courses. They look at me like I've lost my mind. Even if it doesn't stick with them, I've at least made the effort to properly educate them. I really don't want them to appear uneducated once they obtain their "real" jobs!!

cityquilter grace said...

i am an english major and cringe every day at something....the worst is 'you guys' said by professionals on the news even....sheesh! horrible!

Lakegaldonna said...

Oh I'm so much the same way.
I was not an English major but those things really bug me through and through.
We did raise a daughter who is a high school Honors English Teacher so I guess the apple does not fall far from the tree!

Loving 'Criss-Cross Apple sauce.'
Ha ha. The laptop does not like 'Criss'. It underlined it and had other suggestions. I scrolled up to where you typed it and added a hyphen like you did. Laptop still doesn't like it but it's what you named it so it stays!

Gayle from MI said...

I love that quilt! I have seen pictures of it before but in the first picture here today, the red parts of the nine patches, look like they are floating above the surface of the quilt. So much sparkle!

Barbara said...

I just grit my teeth and move on. How about all the quilters who sew boarders (should be borders) on the quilt. NO! Irritates the heck out of me.

Then there are those in genealogy who talk about sir names when they mean surname. Fortunately that's not common. But a lot of people can't/don't correctly spell genealogy.

datarhill said...

I really enjoyed this rant about poor grammar! This past weekend I found a golly whopper of a mistake on a tombstone: “Heaven gained IT’S angel.” Yikes! Can you imagine having that over your final resting place?

Ladydukes said...

Bonnie, I am WITH YOU! Another pet peeve is when someone (commentators, pastors on tv or radio, announcers (or anyone) uses "that" when it should be "WHO." A PERSON is a WHO. AN OBJECT OR PLACE is a THAT. It seems VERY FEW know how to use those two words. "The woman who traveled." "A dog that traveled."

Sue Green said...

It seems like all I hear or read anymore is "lay" instead of "lie". It drives me nuts. I love your quilt!

Sharon said...

You said it! It's hard to believe some people have gotten as far in life as they have, not knowing how to spell or use correct grammar.

Unknown said...

I do genealogy, and I hate reading message boards where people Do Not put capitals in for names and places.

Nitkymehozivota said...

Bonnie, you made a great quilt for your dad! Expecially when it includes a part of him and you…. Picture of quilt remainds me strawberries ;-) A cousine of mine, Alenka, will be 70 this year. A long time ago she gave me a bag with my uncle(her father) shirts. So I decided to make similar quilt. My uncle loved his garden, she spents a lot of time on it now. I hope that quilt bring my uncle back to his garden and Alenka will have a rest with my quilt in the middle of the garden which her father cultivated.
I saw Jo Jo Rabbit trailer last month and I know I will not see it in cinema. The theme is not funny. There was an anniversary of Osvetim - Treblinka death camp, I listened to the survivers, feel sad. I do not feel like seeing such film.
Sorry for such a long comment, I hope I did not make a lot of mistakes. If so, excuse me…. Eva

Anne Hayward said...

I’m sure your dad enjoyed your visit immensely, so nice you were able to add the extra time on to visit with family. Hope you have a safe journey home.
Love and quilty hugs
Anne xx

Kerry said...

Happy days with your dad. How I miss mine now - which are happy memories instead.
Oh yes spellings and the spoken words drive me bonkers! You highlighted the "should have" so that's one of my pet frustrations. Just recently the word is "acrost" or is it "acrossed" - I keep talking to the screen going "across - it's ACROSS!" LOL! Although my husband ends thing with a "k" - somethink, everythink etc. Despair!!! I used to repeat the word the moment he uttered it, but now I say "what do some think then?" I'm scuppered for the others - ideas in my direction welcome! So resort to the correcting. This has gone on for 35 years now and I haven't had any success! Maybe that'll be one of my bucket list entries! LOL!

Tracy J in Michigan said...

Amen to the grammar rant (comments, corrections, etc)! I feel the same way. So glad you were able to spend time with family and friends on this trip. Save travels home!

Linda K. said...

Love it! So sick of people just typing and not paying any attention to what they wrote! I agree with the person above who mentioned the news media. It drives me crazy when people who live in Illinois can't even pronounce it correctly.

Janet of MN said...

You and all who commented have made a wonderful point. Hopefully, when people read the proper words and punctuation, they will pick it up.

Unknown said...

I love your grammar rant!!! I am a retired accounting professor. I hated (HATED) students who told me I wasn't able to correct their grammar because I wasn't an English professor!

Judy said...

Fingernails on the chalkboard is right! I think some "authors" on social media might run a spell check, but it doesn't work for words like your and you're. I'm with you, Bonnie. It irritates my senses A LOT!

Tina K said...

Not only that, but many (if not most) public schools around here no longer teach cursive writing, only printing. I have had times when my grandchildren could not read my handwriting, not because it was messy but because it was in cursive. They tell me that the good old Palmer Method of teaching cursive is coming back, and I am eager for that to happen.

It's tough being an English major with an Art minor. But, I usually just keep my opinions to myself.

Unknown said...

As a former English teacher, I cringe when people use the "self" pronouns incorrectly - on the news, at speeches, conferences, etc. Please don't give it to "myself" or "herself", give it to me or her.

elincp said...

How fun! I'm starting a line dancing class today. Following the advice that "seniors" need to be social and active. :)

lil said...

Thank you.

Lilac Joan said...

My pet peeve is: What is it at. We have a local news person that uses at a the end of a sentence. He has be called on it several times, but he has said that he will not change.

P.S. I hope I did not make any grammatical errors or misspellings.

yquiltsalot said...

I have a "Let's eat, Grandma...Let's eat Grandma. Commas save lives!" t-shirt. lol The one that really drives me crazy, though is when folks say "these ones" and "those ones." Just say "these" or "those!"

Denise Patterson said...

I feel your pain! Some of my accounting students have made the same comment to me. However, I can now respond that because spelling and grammar is graded on the CPA exam, I can and will grade their grammar! I feel vindicated!!!

Ramonasct said...

Years ago we never saw words misspelled (or bad grammar) in legal documents or published in the newspaper or shown on TV. Now it's (not ITS) everywhere. Thanks for the rant!
One admission, I have often wondered whether A LOT was one word or two! Now I know thanks to you!!

Kathy said...

love your comment!

Kathy said...

Love your quilt! Love your rant! I also go a bit nuts when people say, "waiting on someone/something". It is waiting "for".

Unknown said...

While I agree with the English rant, I want to say how much I love the way the quilt you gave your Dad turned out! My favorite part is how the plaid centers are turned just a little to contrast with the corners. Love reading your blog.

Unknown said...

https://quiltinggail.com/tutorials/ Found this cute game called "Strip Quilting" thought it might be fun at your retreats. :)

JudyT said...

The one thing that is like nails on a chalkboard to me is when someone sings "banner" incorrectly when performing the national anthem.

Susie H said...

Love everything about post!

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