This post is about things on my mind.
And in my heart.
And while it may seem crazy to some to find it hard to be away from home when it is “only a dog” that has undergone surgery, I’m having a very difficult time being away right now.
This little girl has been such a huge part of our family over the past 10 years, I really don’t know what I would do without her.
I think I am feeling a bit out of sorts this morning because of this whole being away thing. This is a LONG trip and there will only be a few days to get ready for another LONG TRIP in between this one and the next one.
Sadie will be fine. The surgery went well, and since she was under anyway, she also got her teeth cleaned and her nails trimmed. All shots are now up to date, which is good because my travel schedule put her a bit behind as it was hard to sync times to get that done.
It was kind of like forgetting that your drivers license had expired.
This was Jeff’s message when he got her home.
This came at 6pm last night, just as I was arriving in Tifton, GA where I am teaching today. I rested a lot easier knowing that she was home and being cared for.
Today she is in the care of The Hubster as sons Jeff and Jason are on their way to Colorado for a music festival. Jeff just landed in Atlanta where he is meeting Jason and they will be on the same flight to Denver together. I love that my boys are close enough that they choose to do things like this together just the two of them.
I love that they are friends as well as brothers. Have an awesome time, boys!! Xoxoxox!
While I try to keep this blog mostly about quilting with some history stuff and travel stuff included, and while I try to make it as upbeat as possible I’m feeling that today I need to open journal just a bit because of where my heart is.
Sometimes when booking your life years in advance, things happen. Remember yesterday’s Quote of the Day?
I am getting WAY too many people’s opinions coming my way!
I have to live my life the way it works for me. And this means, that unfortunately I have had to let a couple of guild visits go. Some I was able to reschedule to make the time flow better for me, some I wasn’t able to reschedule because there was no where to put them until the calendar clears out a bit. I am not opening 2019 to guild contracts yet because I want to work smarter not harder.
I received an email from someone who was so upset that I had to cancel their venue a year in advance. The line that floored me went like this
“While everyone can understand a need or a desire to change a schedule under some circumstances, one would then logically expect a huge effort on your part to reschedule promptly, rather than expecting the Guild to wait another two years or longer for your appearance. “
Who says there was NOT a huge effort made to make things work?
There was NOWHERE on my calendar that I could put this one guild without it creating a hardship within my personal life. This email made me feel like I was shirking my duties. Yet the terms of my contract state that either party may cancel the contract within 6 months of the date of appearance because LIFE HAPPENS.
And then I sat there in my car with tears streaming down my face wondering why I have handed over the keys to my life and my future..more than a year in advance to people who don’t have to live my life.
I am ALMOST at the point of saying “I don’t want to do this anymore. I want to be home. I don't want to be in the public anymore.”
This morning I was faced with yet another complaint, this time on an email list I run about the ads on this blog. And I once again have people telling me what I should or shouldn’t do with my life.
I wrote the following reply:
Dear Quiltvillians.
There is something I wish you to consider.
The ads on my blog pay for all of the free content you receive without having to pay for it yourself.
I spend HOURS a day writing and editing photos and always trying to come up with something interesting to post for you.
If I remove the ads I am forced to charge you for each and every pattern and mystery you once received for free.
I treat the ads like "bop a mole". Every one that you close by clicking the X keeps me writing.
Without the revenue from the ads, I would not be blogging or giving away free patterns at all.
It's funny how everyone wants everything for FREE....but they complain about the things that make FREE possible.When on travel trips like this I am up at 6am editing all of the photos from the workshop held the day before. I spend at least 2 hours preparing a blog post before I go out and start my work day.
Oh, if I could only have those 2 hours back that I spend….how much quilting could I get done if I just kept that time for myself.
I don’t have to do a free mystery, I could charge for each and every clue like a block of the month program.
I don’t have to give up my free evening time to bring you into my studio for quilt-cam.
And please don’t mention AD-BLOCKER. If you use ad-blocker, you are not helping me to continue writing this blog that you read for free that supplies all that it does for you.
j have spent more than 11 years of my life ELEVEN YEARS OF MY LIFE writing here. For what?
Can you imagine? Have you considered what really goes on behind the scenes keeping this all going on a daily basis?
My fear – my BIGGEST fear…is that if I stop writing, I’ll never be able to get back started.
Quiltville Quote of the Day!
Vintage drunkard's path variation found yesterday in Georgia!
I took over 60 photos of vintage quilts yesterday. This morning I couldn’t make myself edit them or take the time it takes to turn them into a beautiful slide show.
I believe in right turns, left turns, and u-turns! If you don't like where your road is heading, change direction or build a new road!
Right now I feel I’m at a crossroads and not sure which way to go. Or maybe I need a whole new road all together because I feel like I am completely losing myself to other people’s demands and expectations.
Please don't judge someone else's road or tell them how they should be walking it, or what would make THEIR road better for YOU.
Just some random REAL thoughts on a sunny Wednesday morning in Tifton, Georgia
Off to teach Smith Mountain Morning to the Wiregrass Quilters.
394 comments:
«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 394 of 394Simply put, YOU live YOUR life how it works for YOU! For those who don't understand this, too bad, maybe someday they will learn what is really important. Thank you so much for all you do. I am a big fan of your quilting. And I am also a big animal lover and I am pretty sure I would have been on the first bus home, cause that is my priority. I say you did great by sticking to your schedule. God bless and remember to be YOU. That is who we love to follow ☺
WE love you, Bonnie!! Sadie feels your love even if you are not next to her. THANK YOU for sharing so much with us. Actually meeting you in Spokane was wonderful. Your friendship in your blogs is cherished my many, I know.
Theresa
Prayers that Sadie continues to heal, for family first, and for those that don't understand you are ONE PERSON! I enjoy everything you do for us, and wish I was there to give you a big hug and tell you how much you mean to each of us. Ignore those that don't get it, selfishness runs too prevalent in today's society. God Bless you and keep you in his hands as you travel, and peace for you when you get home to relax. xoxo
I hope Sadie continues to do well and you are home soon to give her a hug. Just remember, it's not your job to please all of the people all of the time. You do a great job providing all sorts of inspiration and direction to most of us, all of the time. But, there are always a few people that can't be satisfied in every group - even a group of quilters. I feel your pain for Sadie, my dog is also very important to me. It's tough when they get older, I'm not sure why God decided parrots should live for 75 years and dogs are lucky to get 15. It sounds like Sadie is being well cared for by the rest of your family. I'm sure they love her as much as you do. Lois
I am grateful for all the time and effort you put in for us out here in blog land. When I see your smile my day immediately gets sunnier. I should tell you that more often. I am glad Sadie is doing ok and I hope you take more "me" time in the future.
Bonnie:
I have often wondered where you find the energy to do all the things you do. You travel and teach and talk - all of which take planning and energy. You quilt and design at home - all of which take a lot of time, planning, and energy. Please take care of yourself - mind, body, & soul. Take care of your family - and that includes the furry members. Ignore the "Takers" and their "give me" requests. You give more than enough and I thank you for it. Hugs & Blessings!!
Dear Bonnie,
Oh my heart goes out to your right now. You are an amazing woman and I have had the pleasure of stumbling onto your blog,, which made me fall in love with you and everything that you have shared with me/us just within a couple of years!!! You have given me SO MUCH for nothing at all, and my greatest joy was last year when I got to take a class from you, but had to leave early because my grandson had his graduation party that day....Family first!!!! Thats what I say. You know that your Sadie will be fine, but I know your heart is wanting to be where she is, just to give her mommy cuddles. Breathe, have a cup of tea, take care of you, and tell those nasty people to "Sit on it!" Please know that you are an amazing person, and 99% of all of us quilters love you and UNDERSTAND that life happens! That other 1% dont deserve to be called quilters....quilters share love, not opinions!
Take care of you! Sending a big virtual HUG!
Carol
As attributed to Abraham Lincoln - You can please some of the people all of the time and you can please all of the people some of the time. However, you can not please all of the people all of the time.
You should do exactly what is right for you. Do not let other people dictate how you live your life. You are in control of your own happiness.
And as Eleanor Roosevelt said - People can only make you unhappy if you let them.
Take care of yourself first, then your family and Sadie and the rest will just fall into place as it will.
God bless!
Diann Jones
Come over here and let me hug you Bonnie! Thank you for being so open and upfront in this post.
You have just been thrown life-loops with Sadie's health, learning of your own eye situation and all that. Top it off with emails etc. that are nothing less than mean-spirited, it is no wonder you are feeling overwhelmed.
You have a warm sharing friendly nature. Whatever you choose to do, make it the best for you and your family. I am praying for you (and Sadie who I would adopt in a heartbeat :) ).
God bless you,
JulieinTN
You have my admiration because I couldn't do what you do. I'm someone who wants to be alone with a book, a sewing machine and a stove. The public life would devastate me.
Oh my goodness, the things you have to deal with! Your commitment to your career is way beyond what most would do. So many benefit by it but apparently not all are appreciative of all that entails. I'm so sorry you have to be away from Sadie at all much less with while she is going through this surgery business. I hope you can feel enough comfort knowing your family is keeping her close. I'm so glad she has done so well and will be ready for more walks in the woods when you return. She is such a sweetheart!
Hang in there, Bonnie and feel encouraged to make the decisions and changes you need to make. This is your career and your life. People who love you will support you.
Bonnie, excuse me for a moment:
#79 Anonymous. Me thinks your jealousy and bitterness are showing. Perhaps your time might be spent consuming someone else's work. Even if you have to pay.
Bonnie, your gifts of yourself are welcomed and greatly appreciated.
I am continually amazed by how rude some people are. They're not worth your time.
Go back to enjoying your life, your family, and your quilting. Time to shed some deadlines.
Much love to Sadie.
For every complainer that is out there there are at least 2000 who love and appreciate every thing you do! I am most appreciative of how following your blog and the mystery quilt in November has shaped my quilting life. I made my 6th mystery quilt this year and right now have "Razzle Dazzle" in progress as well as a couple other patterns from your designs! I have the Scrap User's System set up in my sewing room, and love to collect scraps from other quilters. I attended a class when you were in the Spokane area a couple years ago. I'm just saying there is so much of your influence in my quilting! If you need to go home and be with your family, you should do it. People just need to be more understanding!!! Ads? What ads? Who cares!!! I always knew they were there for a reason!Bonnie...Here's another heart felt {{HUG}} for you!!! Hope Sadie recovers well. She is sure a wonderful part of your life!
Hugs.
Bonnie,
Thank you for all you do for us quilters in the world. I'm glad that Sadie's surgery went well and is on the road to mending. Being here in Hawaii doesn't allow us to attend the many classes you hold on the mainland...and following your blog every morning is how I start my day! Keep up the good work. We definitely appreciate all you do for us! Safe travels, and keep on blogging and quilting!
Carla
Bonnie, NEVER, NEVER, NEVER let others direct your life...like you said, it is YOUR life. I always told my daughter's - you can't let other people make your life decisions for you, because once they are made, YOU are the one who has to live with it not them. They walk away and never give another thought to it.
You have given so much of your time and talents for others to enjoy. Do what makes you happy. Free yourself of these guilty thoughts and decide what is best for you and your family right now. One day when your road has taken you closer to life's "heavenly on-ramp" will you look back and wish you had taken on teaching more guild classes or will you wish you had spent more time with your family? I think we all know the answer to that one. Today may just be a bad day and you may decide you enjoy your traveling work too much to give it up for a few bad eggs, but whatever you decide, we have all been blessed and enriched from all that you have already shared with us! You are AWESOME - never forget that! I hope someday our paths will cross in a NC quilt or antique shop :-) Yevonne C. Sewfaithfully at hotmail dot com
Hugs, and don't listen to others who complain. You have every right to do what you want and be where you want to teach, and cancel classes. It's your life, and as much as you do to support all the quilters who adore you, you can't pander to everyone. They can whine, but that doesn't mean you need to change anything you do. I, for one, am thrilled and completely happy with how you present your quilts, and the inspiration you share, and that you are so giving and supportive of us. Sadie will be happy to see you for the time you get to be with her now, and she'll be thrilled to spend time at the cabin with you. Don't worry about us. Your real fans are still here (and the majority rules. 2 or 3 grumps are nothing compared to the curently over 200 supporters).
I don't know how you do what you do in the first place! And that "life" hasn't interfered MORE! I thought you were very lucky nothing happened to the kids or to you or the hubby! Seems like everyone has something bad going on! You could cancel halff of your trips, and have more time at home, and still do your "thing". I live in MN, and don't see you coming here anytime soon, and even tho I would love to see you, I am ok with reading about your adventures! FAMILY FIRST, plain and simple, and if people don't get that well then I feel sorry for their family! What you SHOULD DO, is find a venue close to home, and make people come to YOU for a weekend! That's what an X boyfriend always said was the perfect job, like hardware or groceries. (He is a carpenter) build it and they will come! I think you have enough of a following that it could work, and we would still all be scrambling to get a spot! Don't let those negative people get to you! There are enough of us that will still make it work for you no matter WHAT you decide! Do what makes your heart happy, and if it doesn't, or becomes too much, cut back or STOP! It is not about us...
Hope Sadie does well!
Take care of yourself and screw everyone else!
Deb
Hi Bonnie - I love that you share your personal feelings about these things. People do not have a clue what it takes to run a business, and to run all over the country teaching. Yes there are fun parts and yes, I know you are happy doing what you love. But, you are gone from home all of the time. I don't know how you do it. It's so easy for people to sit behind their computer and make snarky comments without having any idea at all what they are talking about. Don't spend a minute worrying about the nasty comments. You just keep on doing YOU!
Bonnie,
I can understand your frustrations. Some people are never satisfied. Please don't let it stop you from doing what you do. I appreciate everything you do for us and for free too. It sounds to me like you need some time at the cabin to recharge. After looking at your schedule over the past years, it appears you are taking more family time now which should help. I have often wondered how much longer you can continue to be a one-women show. If I lived closer to you, I would be offering to do some of the grunt work for you. I know you pride yourself on your work, but can you get someone to come in and help package your books after you sign them, make the post office runs, do the grocery shopping, do the housework? When I was working full-time, I had a cleaning lady, which helped me to have time with my family instead of spending my off time doing the housework. Keeping you and Sadie in my prayers.
Bonnie,
In a small way you remind me of me. My first born(daughter) was muti-haddycaped.
All her life I had to fight doctors.lawyers.teachers and even family. She passed 7 years ago but today in my heart of souls I know I did what My head and heart said.
I feel peacefull today because of it. Be a duck and let the water slide off your back.
I paryed for Sadie and know how you feel having 2 small SPOILED furbabys.
Ginny Bohall
bohall@fairpoint.net
I am so glad little Sadie came through her surgery alright. I know how much pets mean to us. they are family. Her little face looked so sad. I enjoy your blog so much. I never miss reading it. You are a ray of sunshine. I learn so much from you and just put a quilt from your pattern in a quilt show for the 4th of July. Please don't let those mean and nasty people get to you. The rest of your loyal followers love you and understand that you need some down-time too.
I often wonder how you manage your schedule Bonnie - you're like Wonder Woman, no kidding. There are depths to your energy and joy of life that never fail to astonish me. Hopefully for all of us who love to listen and learn from you, you will be able to find ways to protect yourself from the soul-snatchers and continue touring. You have to make the choices that bring good things and good people into your life, and keep it vibrant and joy-filled and ever growing more creative and expressive of the true YOU. People are going to be nasty and self-involved, but you are the best I've ever seen at keeping them in their places.
I suppose that some people feel that by commenting they are providing constructive criticism because they do not understand what goes into your blog. So I appreciate the explanation in today's blog. Others are only thinking of themselves and what you can do for them. As Taylor Swift wrote, "the haters gonna hate, hate, hate..... So shake it off". As for myself, I enjoy your quilts, patterns and your words. Be who you want to be! Life is short! Another quote (or as close as I can remember) that comes to mind: Be who you are and say what you feel because those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter! This is from Dr. Seuss who always gave good advice. Take care of you!
Bonnie, I am sending a great big "quilter thank you hug"! And a temple rub for Miss Sadie- hope she feels better soon. Unfortunately, today many folks think it's all about them. I sometimes think I was born 125-150 years too late. Now don't get me wrong, I like the conveniences of today but not the selfish attitudes. We have lost the art of being gracious, giving and forgiving.I appreciate beyond words your work ethic and business values that work for you. So if you need less travel time, then do it. My husband travelled for years and people thought he was on vacation considering the places he went. Thanks for doing the mystery quilts. I confess I have one full container full of fabric with the pattern printed out and it still sits. And a handful printed but waiting to germinate-if only I had more time in each day. Thank you for your continued daily postings and for the added quotes this year at the bottom of the posts. Sometimes that quote really speaks to me. You give many the courage and permission to quilt their own way. I especially enjoyed your posting about not being affiliated with just one fabric company- way to go! Do it your way, Bonnie! You are so giving of your designs, tips, and of yourself and your time. We love you and if you need time to recharge, we will keep trying to catch up with all the Quiltville quilts we haven't started or finished!
I kow whe our lives have sorrows we are less a le to deal with other issues,please rememer t0 take more time for YOU, perhaps whe you are doig future scheduli g you will rememer YOU come first, ext family & others. Rememer those who love what you do & what you do for us will always appreciate you & your prolems & give support from afar.
Love you ad all you do
Oh Bonnie -- so so sorry you were hurt. Hugs and more coming your way and for Sadie too. People can be so thoughtless and uncaring its amazing to me. I have learned more from you in the past few years than anyone else. And I haven't even taken one of your classes yet!! I am amazed at the amount of work you do and the travels you take. Please slow down and enjoy yourself for a change. Thank you for all you do!!
I agree with comment 136: If you were to retire and walk away from traveling and teaching, I would support you 100%. You deserve Quilt Villa and family time, the leisure of home life, time to write and create, and days without end of scratching furry ears. You reach more people through your blog than you can ever reach traveling, and it would be so much easier on your body and psyche. There is so much content in your blog, it is the one I would be willing to pay for; you deserve an income from your talents. I know you love teaching and travel, but set the pace at what is enjoyable for YOU. Most of us would consider it insanity to be booked out for 2 years.
To those who think you need to do more to meet their selfish needs, I say, "walk a mile in Bonnie's shoes". Bet they'd be screaming, "I can't do this" after one month's time.
As for those who think "it's just a dog"... write the word dog on a piece of paper and look at it in the mirror. Dog is a reflection of GOD and we have no better role model of unconditional love here on Earth. Why would anyone want to separate themselves from that?!
Bless your heart! I say press on and do what's best for you.
I have never read your blog, but I do read Marys. I am sorry to say I don't know who you are. I am also sorry for the pain you are feeling now. Please listen to your heart and do whats best for you and your family. We are not the property of other peoples expectations and never should be! I have given my entire life to my daughter and her family because I love them and now, because I cannot go to concerts because of a back injury that will only be tortured by benches and bleachers she has completely dumped me! I have learned that I need to give what I can and expect nothing. At a time in my life when having the quilt of family wrapped around me I am tortured by judgement and very distant granchildren. Torture. Please take my advice and give yourself permission to live your life doing what makes you happy. I am sorry for your pain, but it will some day improve!
Praise God Sadie had all her work done at once! Our 4 legged babies are just as precious to us now as empty nesters! Who knew? �� My heart goes out with love and empathy for you daily. Travel is hard, and I knew with Sadie having medical issues and surgery, you'd be torn. Forget the complainers in your life! Those of us that have followed you for years, will continue to do so no matter what. Pray and ask for guidance in what you SHOULD do! That always brings me a much clearer picture. It may mean scaling down, grouping it differently or better yet......how about running away, quilt supplies for life in hand, and finding a 75 degree year round breezy island to live! �� I'm ready for that! Lol
My heart breaks for you......please take care of yourself, your family, and your own personal sewing time FIRST......those awful comments....please remember that " hurt people, hurt people ".....we the sewers from your Quiltville family love you, appreciate ALL you do for us for free, and would willingly PAY for your patterns if that is what YOU needed. REMEMBER, QUILTVILLIANS LOVE YOU!!!!!
Laurie
Laurieb1025@gmail.com
Bonnie, I met you once and was thrilled. I have been looking for a place to spend time with you again. I look at the calendar and coordinated with my calendar and thus far when you are near I am travelling, but that is the way of life. The fact that you had to cancel some commitments isn't any one else's issue. If they have followed you or read your blog they know you take all of the people who you touch seriously. After the workshop I attended, you went out to dinner and tried to share your life and asked about our lives and made me feel special and that takes time, energy and a part of yourself. Your calendar requires being away from your home and your family and pushes you to do so many things while you are home that again your family doesn't get just time to be alone with you. I can't believe that some one can't understand that life isn't as easy as looking at a page and picking a date. Your calendar shows that you attempt to combine your trips and to use your time wisely while also minimizing expenses which all the guilds you visit share. This person was hurt, but needs to spend a few hours thinking about what effect her words would have on you and what possible reasons you may have had to cancel your visit before sending the email.
I appreciate everything you do and I am amazed by how giving of your time and energy you are. Take care of you and do not let anyone bring you down.
Some people just have no idea how much time or energy go into making blogs, slide shows, webcams,lectures, mystery quilts, trips. Wow, I am tired just typing that and i know I missed a lot of what you do.
Take care of you and I sure hope Sadie is walking in the woods with you soon Bonnie.
Hugs to you and your family,
Patty
Many hugs to you and Sadie. You do so much for quilters! Don't let the nay sayers get you down. Chances are no one can please them anyway and you do have a life of your own that you deserve to enjoy.
Jane
edwardarthur29@gmail.com
So sorry for the negative critics you have had to endure. Not warranted in any way. You have the right to determine your priorities and others need to respect your decisions. I for one think you are amazing and am so grateful for everything you do, your free patterns, the mysteries, the leader/ender challenges, all your knowledge imparted via the blog and quiltcam, your great books, your timesaving and scrap usinge techniques. Love them all and hugs to you today and every day.
Bonnie,
I met you for the first time in Sioux City this spring (as a part of the Pink Ladies from Nebraska) and was struck by how genuine and caring you were. Please don't let the selfish and insensitive people get you down. You deserve to put yourself and your family first in your life! You have worked so hard for so many years, and have made a huge impact on the quilting world. No one can ever take that away from you, no matter what you decide to do going forward. I will pray for wisdom in your decision, and peace once it is made!
I just scrolled thru over 200 comments - from people who appreciate all you do. Including me - 'nough said.
"AMEN"
At 70+ years of age I have learned some valuable lessons. Sadly some were learned just the way you are now learning. Things that made us happy and we found fulfilling can no longer hold that magical spell over our lives. At some point you will realize that changes we view as earth shattering can be more than an earthquake. It can be the opening of a whole new vista that fills your heart with joy and peace. Be with those you love and who love you back just as much. There will never be a good time to make hard decisions but it sounds like you are at the top of that mountain you needed to climb "for you". Now is a good time to look back and see if all those who have acted like anchors holding you back and are critical of the path you chose for that climb are worth the efforts you expended. Trust me Bonnie, there are more mountains out there to climb but sometimes a stroll in the woods with your Sadie can bring much more happiness to life. Pick and choose the battles you want to participate in and do what makes you happy.
I try to put myself in someone else's shoes before commenting. I am in awe of all that you do and could not keep up the pace. I was in a very hectic job with a lot of traveling for many years until one day my body just said "enough is enough." You keep up until your body or your mind (or both) say "enough is enough." You are a very giving person, enthusiastic about quilting and wanting to share that enthusiasm with us. We are so grateful for that. I read your blog every day and it cheers me up. I loved reading Helen Kelley's column in Quilters Newsletter for many years. You are who I read now since Helen went to the great quilt shop in the sky. Take care of yourself and your "real" life for us and you. I'm sure Sadie is on your mind a lot. She will be happy to see you whenever you get there.
Everything that can be said about you has been done eloquently already. I just want to add my support of you for all of the wonderful things you do for the quilting community. You have inspired a generation of quilters. Take time for yourself to "replenish and nourish" your spirit. Complainers will always complain, no matter what, but I bet they wouldn't even try to keep up with your schedule, and if they did, they wouldn't be able to do what you do. Love and prayers to you!!
You made your own schedule, said yes to guilds, signed contracts.
Yes YOU overbooked yourself.
To act upset over someone else's ire when in the long run you brought it on yourself I'd truly selfish.
You cancelled many engagements only to fill the space with other events/trips. When people see that they are hurt/upset.
How would you feel of the cancellations came from guilds.
Again you said YES. they just asked.
I'm in awe of your many talents, energy, enthusiasm and the way you share your love of quilting and all aspects of it. You have thousands of blog followers all over this world who start their day by reading your blog. Bonnie you have a gift that set you and path that you are currently on, don't let naysayers put you on a detour.
Bonnie, you are a true blessing to so many people with your kindness, generosity and friendships. I have found through out my years that people who tend to complain and try to "control" others are not very happy with their own lives. I want to thank you for all that you do and share with us. I found your blog and Facebook page at a time when I had just lost my Mom after being her caregiver for over 5 years. While I was trying to deal with my grief and the long process of dealing with her estate, your pages gave me something else to focus on, a "safe" place where I could get lost in the creativity of others and find my own creative spirit which had been put aside. In the past 2 years I have made 6 quilts and 4 tops, something that I never thought I would accomplish. I appreciate the fact that you have provided a community that has helped me through much own journey. Once again, Bonnie, I thank you! Cindy cbthomas3@yahoo.com
I think you're fabulous. Most of us will cheer you on whatever your path may bring--you've brought SO much to US already. You just go on and do whatever it is you need to do, lady. We'll lay down our jackets over that puddle to help you across.... xoxo
Bonnie, you are an inspiration and are so giving of your ideas and patterns. Please, please take care of you and your family first. If that means reviewing the calendar and cutting it by half (or more), then do it with NO REGRETS. Your family and your life should ALWAYS come first and that includes your well being. Big hugs to you and Sadie. I hope you are able to fondle some fabrics and relax soon.
Dear Bonnie--Sending a big hug to you and Sadie. I was saddened to hear that you are going through such a tough time, when you are the source of so many others' happiness. Take care! Linda from IL
Dearest Bonnie, life sure does take its toll from time to time, doesn't it?!? I have always used to think I could do it all....well guess what....I couldn't. As I looked back on those times and then looked at my family I knew my only option was putting my family #1!!
Do not feel guilty for one second about your decisions to cut back on what you offer for others! I know without a question of a doubt your schedule and deadlines make me what to hide out....I could NEVER keep that schedule. I understand this is your livelihood, but....schedule less and charge a little more for your workshops, etc. Trust me quilters will pay a little extra to be part of one of your events.
If you don't take care of you....no one benefits....and I know how much you value your family!
Everyone is entitled to their opinions....but like the old saying goes "until you've walked in my shoes, keep quiet!" Take your needed breaks...I love your posts from the cabin and it refreshes me too!
Travel safe on your way home and give a toot hello when you pass through Charlotte!
Speedy recovery, Sadie!
Phyllis Scutt
pscutt33@gmail.com
Bonnie,
Please know that there are so many of us out here that truly enjoy each post, picture, Sadie update, Daily Quote, etc. from you. I'm sorry that there are those out there that don't understand the effort that you put forth for US!
I do hope you know that you have a HUGE number of fans and we love you!
See you next week on the Cruise to Alaska. I can't tell you how excited I am to meet you and learn from you!
Hugs,
Leah Kuyava
I have been here with you for some time - 8 or 9 years. Not from the begining, but close. My life took a drastic turn a couple of years ago and I feel some of what your feeling. I would like to say I'm surprised by the rudness of people, but sadly it seem to be the norm these days. There are still great people, giving people, but too people think the world owes them something.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart - I have quilted with you when no one else was around.
I read where you are and many times piece on the pattern from your travels some times for a day - or maybe a week - makes be feel like Im doing something with a group. Because life happens I have not done the mystery quilt for 2 years but this year will be different!
I'm not going to pretend that I have the answers - but whatever you do I hope you enjoy life and do whats right for you and your family.
Deb Brown (djbrown)
Bonnie, I wish I could give you a hug right now. Though I have never met you, I feel as though we are friends. It hurts me to hear that you are hurting. It's easy to say to not pay attention to what people say, but I know that is hard to do. Remember there are a lot more people who love you than those who find fault. Thank you for everything!!!!!!!!!!
I look forward to reading your blog everyday and appreciate all the time it takes for the blogs, patterns, and everything else you do for your fans.
Dear Bonnie,
And you are a dear... Someone once said that for every bad message someone says to you, you need nine good ones to counter act it. Your work is beautiful, your caring is awesome and you are LOVED. Please,,, Bonnie,,, Please find a way you can continue to inspire us by your personality and your creativeness and not let it take a way from the things you love nor damage your eyes. You are a treasure and we don't want to lose you, but understand you must look after yourself first.
Love
Pat Hume
paattt@live.ca
Do what makes you happy Bonnie, its your life! Sure we all want a piece of you, but you have already given us so much, that if you retired tomorrow your services to our industry would still be impressive! Who else has given away so many free patterns? People would not be cranky if you told them you had to cancel because you had a life threatening disease. Go figure, because your mental health is just as important.
Oh My!!! The nerve of the trolls always amazes me! As one who has a full time job and teaches at my local shops almost every weekend, it always amazes me when people think things "just happen", samples magically make themselves and flyers and blog posts just appear! All of those things take time, lots of it. Only someone completely dedicated to their students and their craft would put in all of the hours that you put in. Your teaching schedule alone is a full time job, not to mention the travel time to get there, and all of the prep to really be prepared to teach. And that doesn't include the writing books, or patterns, or making samples, or all the bloody paperwork behind the scenes.
So, do what you need to do for you. Seriously, your true fans will be here supporting you. We love your work, and we love you! We can wait. I'd rather have Bonnie less frequently this week, and have you around for many years, than use up all my Bonnie time right now!!!
So cuddle Sadie, and take a vacation with your husband (you totally deserve it)!!!
Love, Catherine and Penny the Goldendoodle
You are the most gracious hostess ever. Thank you for all you do! Take care of your self, Many hugs to you! I do hope the guild you were presenting at today showed you just how much they appreciate you!
Bonnie my heart broke reading your message today. There is know such thing as just a dog. These are our fur babies, they fill the empty nest our children leave when they grow up and become the young adults we worked so hard to raise. They always stay a baby to us as they need us so much and love us without reservation. And I also understand the demand the public makes of you when you work in the public, some just plain old feel like they own you, that is not so, please never give anyone the power to steal your peace. Your peace keeps you healthy, took me years to realize this. I am not bothered by your ad's on the page it is a click to close them big deal, just like on face book if something bothers you or you don't agree, scroll past it, never feed the trolls. I talk about you to my friends and family all the time, they know you by name and ask after you all the time. I love the snippets of your family life and your hopes and dreams, they make you a friend even though we never met. I pray for you and yours daily as you being in my life in anyway is important to me, following you and getting to know you on line has changed my life for the better. That being said I always tell my family and friends that I have no idea how you do it, too much on your plate is not good. I was glad to read that you took some trips off your calendar as I fear for your health as busy as you are. I sure understand your feelings of needing to pull back, it is a shame that a few who were raised selfish just can't see the big picture. Thank you for all you do, and know that no matter what changes you make or how you need to change things in the future that I will continue to support and be here praying for you and yours and waiting to see where life takes you. Hugs to you as I know not being with Sadie is breaking your heart, mine is breaking for you as I can only imagine how your mind it running. Jean Hudson UP of MI
I am so thankful that Sadie is recovering and doing well. I am so sad that people have to give you a difficult time.
Your blog has helped me in my life in so many ways. I was not a person who would travel by myself at all until I read your blog and saw that you flew and drove all over the country and more by yourself. You gave me the courage to fly to Houston to the quilt show a few years ago. Since then I now know I can travel by myself because Bonnie does it! I have enjoyed quilt shows in Houston and Paducah and I look forward to going to more!
Do what you want to do Bonnie and we will all follow whatever you choose to do. If you want to charge for the mystery, I would gladly pay and I'm sure others would too. Do what you want to do and don't listen to the grumpy people.
I am so sorry people do not respond to you in the positive helpful way you communicate with all of us. I appreciate all you do, but maybe it is time to change course. I could never do what you do, but then - you probably would not want to live my life either. Follow what is right for you. The sad fact is some people will never be satisfied no matter what you do or how much you give. There are limited days for each one of us. Use yours wisely. And know that you are dearly loved by many people.
Dear Bonnie, it is not crazy to hold Sadie in your heart and be concerned for her well being; our 4 legged friends offer love and companionship with out strings or any demands of us other then our presence and affection. Unfortunately that is not the case with a lot of the 2 legged variety. Seems to me that your heart and spirit are telling you it is time to make a change; that does not mean you stop doing what you love it simply means you find a different, most of the time, better way to make your heart and soul happy. As for the demands and opinions of others, you have no obligation to honor them at the price of yourself. If you do, you will become someone that neither yourself or most of those around you will wish to be connected to which ultimately will result in worse circumstances then those caused by the change or changes you may make. Too many of us today are full of self importance and a sense of entitlement we have no right to; talking to, catering to or transforming yourself into someone other then your true self will never change them. If I recall correctly, not that long ago you stressed in a similar manner when you made the decision to cut back on your booking and travel to have more family time and I say you came out of that just fine and the world did not come to an end. Do want your heart is telling you and things will work out as they should be. Hugs to you and Sadie! Diana G. diviolet@verizon.net
Bonnie, for years most of us have wondered how in the world you do all that you do and still have time for your husband, kids, pets, and self. Wonder Woman was a cartoon character, you are real. Please do what you have to do, do what is right for you and your family. We are all so appreciative of your wit, energy, creativity and how much fun you have making us have fun...from quiltcam to guild meetings to books ... all of it. So take a deep breath, talk with your hubby, and come back when you can! We are with you on this time in your life!!!
First, best wishes to Sadie for her continued recovery. I'm nursing my own dog through a surgery, with one more to go, and I understand how you feel. I couldn't leave her for longer than my day job takes, and I'm thinking about her all day while I'm gone.
Second, I'm constantly amazed that people feel they have the right to interfere with your life. This is not the first time I've seen this, but I'm always in hope that it will be the last. I can only offer you this: Do what makes you happy. Other people may join in and be happy with and/or for you. Others will not, and that's okay, because they don't matter anyway. Letting negativity from a nameless faceless person who wouldn't say it to you in personal face-to-face conversation affect you is giving your power away. I strongly encourage you to take it back.
People can be so hurtful and you of all people don't deserve it. You have enriched so many lives including mine and I appreciate it more than you can imagine. Having a sick puppy can be very stressful and being away from her doesn't help but your family is there and will take care of her until you can make it home. I was happy to hear she will be okay so that is one big relief. I know Sadie knows you will get home as soon as possible and she knows you love her with all your heart. I am hoping you take a few days for yourself when you get home. We all will understand that sometimes you need a break. Thank you Bonnie for all that you do and I am so thankful that you are a part of my quilting life.
Bonnie, Those not actively engaged in a business often have no concept of what has to go on behind the scenes and, unfortunately, some don't care. Their selfishness rules their world. Everything you plan, do, or hope to do should be - first and foremost - predicated on your needs and desires and those of your family -- including those loving pets. I have run businesses in the past. I am often amazed at your schedule and how far you reach into many areas to give guidance, support, laughs, and encouragement. Few could live up to your schedule and it may, indeed, be time to rethink your priorities and time allocations. Whatever you decide, always put YOU first. . . all the rest will take care of itself and simply turn off any time spent on negative comments -- they do not provide value to you, your family, your business or your life. They are destructive, not constructive and not worth time and energy when you know (and we all know) you act with the highest levels of professionalism and courtesy, in addition to your generosity. margegammon@yahoo.com.
Hello Bonnie. Post #79 just got me ...... well, I wish you could/would just delete it. I am so happy Sadie is doing well, and love the cone of shame she is wearing - I had never heard that phrase till I read your posts and it is another thing to make a person smile. Which is what your post usually do for me, your books to. Make me happy and give me joy. And joy is what I want to give you, and wish I did have that private jet for you to use like some one mentioned earlier - you would have it anytime you needed it. Lady, you are a rock star, and like the many posts above, you are very much loved. Appreciated and needed. But we all also want you to be happy. And right now, with all that is going on, I completely get the feelings of being out of sorts. (this was supposed to be a short ((hugs)) post...) I personally love to go through your books, patterns, see the how's and why's of the ways you do things, and I have learned so much from you - thank you for being my teacher and my inspiration. And as has been said above, you will never loose this fan!! You couldn't! No matter what happens, I support you and will always defend you - let those 'haters' try to get to you through me!!! ((hugs))
Bonnie, I've read through these comments, and SOOO many people think you're awesome! And so do I! Please believe it, remember it, and never forget it!
Not alot to say other then you cant please everybody... And being in the limelight you need to shake this off and make yourself happy Ps have a cup of coffee enjoy your family ...We are only on this earth for short time...Love your work ....happyness04431@yahoo.com
Bonnie,
I am so happy to hear that Sadie is doing well and my thoughts are with her and you.
I have only been reading your blog for a year or so (I was away from quilting for 20 years) and I am amazed with all you do and what to offer to everyone on your website. I appreciate your writing and sharing your life with us all. I hope that reading all the positive comments will let you see that the vast majority of your readers love you and appreciate what you do.
Take care of yourself, we care about you.
As I read your post my heart aches for you. I am glad that Sadie's appointment went well and that she is recovering. Everyone that has had a pet understands your angst. I would like to share with you what I continually tell myself and have shared with others around me: Everyone has an opinion on just about anything. If one of those people gives you their opinion (or even worse their advice) you need to ask yourself if you had asked for them to do so. If their 'contribution' is unsolicited, then it carries no weight in your life. You can discharge their remarks as quickly as they have overstepped their boundaries. Please be kind to yourself. You are a generous, talented, upbeat, selfless lady. I know no one else that holds a candle to you.
Everybody who feels sorry for Bonnie should order a copy of her new book! This will allow her to stay home and take care of her dog and her family.
Bonnie,
I for one appreciate everything that you do and the hard work that goes into it. The times away from family must be hard on you and your family. Family always comes first.
It makes me so angry when people are negative, and it makes me even angrier when they try to change what is given freely, I love your free patterns and your talent.
We were taught never to say anything if you can't be nice.
I appreciate you. So from the bottom of my heart thank you for all you do.
Donna
I love reading your posts about the walks you and Sadie take. I was so glad to see your post that she came through surgery ok. It has to be awful being away from home right now. Like everyone else that has been posting I hope you will take care of yourself and your family first. You give so much to the quilting world and I don't know how you do it all. I hope you won't let some ungrateful people get you down for too long. I know it hurts though when you put your heart and soul into helping us quilters. Thank you for all you do!
Bonnie,
Such good news that Sadie is on the mend. Praying that you will also be comforted as you read all these great, positive comments. You are so deserving of all the goodness and happiness in life. Thank you for all that you've done for new quilters. I know that my quilting skills are 100 times better because of your blog, quilt cam, your patterns, and books. I am grateful.
Praying you find some rest in the next few weeks to fuel yourself.
Barb @ lahr web dot com
Bonnie, please ignore the negative AHs. You do a wonderful job teaching your techniques, your knowledge, and your personal time. I look so forward to your blog, your mysteries, quilt cam, and leader enders. I know you are up early getting ready for your post, I saw it in Rangeley, Maine in October. Please don't let some disgruntled AH get to you. Most of us really appreciate what you do. Sorry about Sadie and her ills. Take a deep breath and enjoy life. Have a good 4th at the mountain cabin
Dear Bonnie,
As I write this comment I notice that there are already 272 comments in support of YOU! By the time I finish there will be a few more. I want to thank you for the several years of pure joy I have experienced since the time I stumbled upon your blog. I also want you to know I only wish I had found you sooner. I follow several quilt blogs on the Internet and none of them come close to what you offer. Yours is the only one that is a daily must read for me, and I am constantly going back to the blog for references; you have packed so much information in there! Those who feel the need to complain should be reminded that it is their choice to come to your site, it is also their choice to stay away if they find it does not suite their needs. Please do not change your way of business except for what works for you and your family. Take time to take care of yourself and stay healthy. It will be a sad day for your many fans when you decide it is time to retire. Fond Regards, Mary
There will always be negative people in the world. Don't let them bring you down. By all of the positive responses, you should take pride in all of the people that ADORE YOU and appreciate EVERYTHING YOU DO FOR US!!! I am amazed at all that you do and wonder how you get it all done. YOU ARE WONDERFUL, AND DON'T FORGET IT!!! HUGS!!!
Bonnie
I feel like your friend and as a friend I want you to know that you have been a blessing to me ..you inspire and encourage me every day to do a little bit more ...
(never can do as much as you but you have set a high goal!)
Sadie is your blessing and I am so glad she came through the surgery ... give her a big hug from me and my greyhound Bella... they are so special aren't they?
Slow down just a little and do something for yourself.. yes for YOU!
It is okay...
God Bless you and your family
Hugs
Vicki
It has always amazed me how some people turn into tyrants as soon as you offer to do something for them. Life is too short to include them in yours. You always have 'the right to refuse service to anyone', especially the rude ones!
I can sympathize with you with Sadie. I had a sweet baby boy (terrier-poo)that was bitten by a much larger dog when he was seven, puncturing his lung. Surgery was touch-and-go, but he recovered from that surgery very well and lived to age 15, even though he was deaf and blind by then. That has been over 10 years ago, and I still miss him and think of him often. They are family.
You might not read this because of so many comments. But really if you read those comments, people love you and mostly appreciate everything you bring to our life. Quilting but also so much more...
I hope one day to be able to meet you in person. I do understand how busy you are and am happy to follow you on this blog. Generous people will sometime be slammed by certain greedy people,please do not let this bother you.
I love all of your stories. Sade is dear to my heart as you and hope she will recover completely.
I never leave comments on blogs but felt your sadness and you give so much I wish I could give you something in return. I bought all of your books and wonky wishes pattern that I love but most of all I want to let you know YOU ARE APPRECIATED BY THOUSANDS OF FOLLOWERS.
Take care of YOU. Take care of your family. Take care of Sadie. Hugs.
You have a lot of comment to read! But I'm going to be out of the box and address the dog. I'm not sure what the surgery was for but at her age I would seriously consider doing research on why not to vaccinate - I won't go into detail here but if you have any questions regarding your dogs health I invite you to join my FB group called WESTIES HEALTH -- FROM EARS TO TAIL. We cover everything and have 7,000 members. I'm also alway here to help if you have any questions - you can private message me thru FB which you will see me as the Admin of this group. All the best - and happy quilting - love your work! Katie Wyatt
I prayed for you today, and will continue to do so. It's hard to take a stand and refuse to accept people's behavior. I applaud you for doing so. If I were you, I would start adding those people to my "junk mail" list. If they are in your group on Facebook?... delete, block. The ones complaining about things "not being free" are NOT your customers! The ones that PAY you for time & talents are! I own every single one of your books (all personally signed by you), have done 4 mysteries, have paid to be in several workshops when you are within 50 miles of my city and 3 speaking engagements. And now, I can proudly say, I am going to visit your blog MULTIPLE times a day to play whack-a-mole! Cater to your paying customers Bonnie and your true friendships. Everything else should be white-noise. Kinda like that "no shirt, no shoes, no service" mantra. Just.... different. :) I am proud to be a Bonniac!!
I am delighted by all these messages of support and appreciation. Cannot help but be extremely grateful to Quiltcam as well. Can you imagine what we would all do without it? It helps us with our Quiltville fix without having you spread yourself so thin. Thank you and my best to sweet Sadie.
You know, it's okay to take a break. Give yourself a vacation to do as you please. Take 3 months, then extend to 6 or a year. Repost some blogs--I'm sure many would love to read them again. See what you miss, then add that back in. What you do is not a 9-5 job. I have not spent the night way from home since 2001, by choice--we have critters to care for. I never want to be away for long. So, it's easy for me to feel badly for those who need to be away. Consider the scale to balance it all out. Are you happy? Do you need to be away so much? You've earned a break. You're the boss. Take one. :-)
Bonnie, I often wonder how you do so much, it seems like all your time is dedicated to us. I appreciate what you do very much. Please take care of yourself, don't take the comments personally, and schedule some BONNIE TIME before you burn out. Hugs to you and Sadie.
Dear Bonnie,
So sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed right now. I hope you can feel all the love and support so many are sending you. I just wanted to add my thanks for ALL that you do for me and all your fans. What ever decision you make will be the right one for you. And then, if it turns out not to be the right one, tomorrow is another day. Take care of yourself.
Bonnie,
Puppies, that's what I call all dogs no matter how young or old they are, are as much your family as your husband and kids.
My husband use to tell our son and me: "You Just Gotta Do What You Gotta Do"
Sure it might not be right for some of the people in your life but it has to be RIGHT for YOU and your family.
Take time and look at what is BEST for you and those that continue to follow SUPER for them. Those that decide to no longer follow....THEIR LOSS.
This is the second time today I have said to someone please please take care of yourself. We love you and all you do for all of us. I want to tell you how much your blogs and quilt cam did for me while I was in bed sick from chemotherapy. They are so much fun and you have such an uplifting and funny way about you that made me smile when I didn't Feel like it. I love how you are so happy to see all the texts and pictures. Please don't let a few unhappy people make you feel so bad. Some people are always unhappy and quick to complain but if you ask them to do the job oh no I don't have the time. Take care please.
Roberta
Bonnie, I don't even know if you will read this as I'm so far down on the list. I am a business owner and I know what it is like to hit the wall. You have a loved one at home who needs you and you would rather be with her than in Oklahoma or wherever you are. I have often wondered how you do it and I knew that there would be a time when it all was too much. You need to think about Sadie, your family and your health. As quilters we should understand. I have been fortunate enough to attend one of your retreats. But if you need to slow down, slow down. Maybe it is time to hire some clones or just do what you can and not push yourself. God bless and I'll be thinking of you.
Bonnie, I know so many have already posted, but I thank you for your gift that the good Lord blessed you with. Allowing a world to learn new things and enjoy friendship via the web & all your classes. I pray a blessing for those with barbed tongues, that use words to hurt without thinking. The majority of us, your Quiltville fans respect and love you for all you do. May the peace of God comfort you in your time away from your special family, Sadie. May you continue to get the rest you need, and the joy from sharing with us all whether is in a retreat, class, Quilt-cam, or the blogs. Take time for you and your family when you need it Bonnie. Prayers being lifted your way.
Take a deep breath, get a good night's sleep and tomorrow will be better. When you love what you do it is so easy to overdo...and then feel that nothing is right. Think of all of your wonderful accomplishments - each one brings joy and comfort to someone. When it no longer brings joy and comfort to you it's time to change. Just don't change because of someone else's negativity. Life is too short to live for anyone other than those you love.
Perfectly said, 99% of us will totally agree with you. Forget about the other 1%.
I will tell you the same thing I tell my friends and my family....at the end of your life you will have to answer, Was I Happy? And your answer should be yes because you took responsibility to make sure you were. I know some days it is hard especially if you are a giving person. I really do get that. You seem to be so happy and I bet you really are but you need more what I call "my time" ... own it and offer no excuses because it IS all about you just as it should be. You are a remarkable person and the essence of your spirit comes through in everything you do. We are all cheering for you ... whatever you decide. I've been Bonnieized and you will stay with me forever and I thank you for your generosity and kind spirit. But mostly I wish you peace.
Oh Bonnie, I am so sorry that the negative Nellie's have been making you feel bad. I think that with all the traveling you have been doing and then with Sadie needing surgery, you were in a vulnerable state. What you do and all that you give just amazes me. I hope you know how much the majority of us appreciate it and also admire what you do.
Please take care of yourself and if you need to take some time -- take it! You deserve it. We will sit here quietly and quilt until you come back. I am so glad that Sadie is going to be ok.
Thank you for all you do. I know that you are an inspiration to me.
Ginny Bambino
Thank you thank you for all that you have done for all of us! The free patterns, quilt cam, and the wonderful blog. Like many of us I look so forward to come home at night to read your blog. I am so sorry that there are some out there that think it is all about them! It is like the more you give the more they want!
Bonnie please take care of yourself and what ever path that you take we will all understand. I hope that Sadie will get stronger every day! Have a wonderful holiday with your family!
Thanks again for everything that you have shared with us!
Robin
Bonnie, Please don't listen to those people. You give so much and I don't know how you do it. I know I could never do what you do. You need to take time for yourself. I enjoy your Blog and will continue to read it. Please take care of yourself and I hope Sadie is ok.
You are one incredible woman, Bonnie and I shall be praying that you can find your place in all of this. Please do take care of yourself and do what is best for you and your family. God bless you, dear Friend.
Thanks for trusting us with your feelings. Do what you need to do for you, your family and Sadie. Take a few deep breaths and remember, this too shall pass. Rest up Bonnie Hunter, knowing you are loved by so many! Hope Sadie is feeling better too!
That post I mentioned earlier, is gone. But I loved reading all the support and love in these posts. Thank you Quiltville community. Just shows we are all in this together and love our community, and we will do anything to keep it safe for it's members - hugs to each and every one of you!
Bonnie, Though there are always a few bad apples in the barrel, know that there are so many more that love what you do for all of us in the quilting world. In fact, I just picked up two tumbler quilts from the long-arm quilter that you inspired me to make, along with the free pattern from your website. I for one certainly appreciate how generous you are to all the quilters out there. xoxo's to dear Sadie as she recuperates from her surgery and her Mom too.
Dear Bonnie, As someone about to turn 65, I have learned that we only have so much time on this earth. You should be doing what you want to do. If it is not fun any more (and if you don't have to do it), you should quit. Stay home and enjoy your family and your mountain. As much as I love all that you do and all the free "stuff," you are the only one who can decide what is right for you. That is what you should do. At a minimum, maybe you could cut back on travel. Years ago, I made two baby quilts by request...took nine months of my life after working full-time and being a wife and mother. I made a decision at that time, that I would never do that again because it stole my joy. Social media has made people meaner--very easy to say rude/hateful things when you are anonymous. So, take care of yourself...you have a huge fan base, but not one of us knows what you need or should do! Thanks for being YOU!!
Bonnie, you are a wonderful hardworking and talented person, You so deserve a rest and recreation break. We will still be here when you return, there are hundreds of posts and quiltcams to go back to read and Learn from. Love yourself and family first, recharge your batteries and have a party return quiltcam. Hugs to Sadie whose eyes are so full of love for Mama.
I too think you need to take care of you! Don't let us dictate what is good for you.
Take care of yourself and Sadie, and don't worry about the nay-sayers. My mom used to say to me, just picture a 15 on their forehead, because there's about 15% of the population you will never be able to please.
I love what you do, and because of a similar post you did a long time ago, I don't use ad-blockers so that you will get the revenue to keep your blog going. I've even bought a thing or two thanks to the ads!
I may have a chance to see you in Washington State next year! Crossing my fingers!
Bonnie, follow your heart. No one ever died from missing a quilting workshop. You do more before breakfast than some do all day (self included).
I appreciate all you have shared over the years.
My best to Sadie.
Your post really touched me. I am hoping that Sadie will be on the road to a speedy recovery and I can fully understand your love and caring for her. It just shows that you are a kind person. Thanks for ALL that you do for all of us 'out here' You have already given way more than anyone should have been asked to give. So please choose whatever path you think is best and know that we will always be thankful that you are and have been in our quilting lives. A grateful quilting fan! ~Sandy
Bonnie,
So glad to hear Sadie Girl is doing well and is home where the guys can take turns fussing over her. She will be so glad to see you.
It never ceases to amaze me what thoughtless people think it is ok to say to others. It's like the bullies on the playground or maybe the proverbial nagging, judgement MIL. Either way, take the ugly comments with a grain salt and try not to let them claim any more time or energy then they must.
Your thoughtfulness and generosity are inspiring. Your love and passion of all things scrappy quilting have energized my quilting, thank you. I will never look at neutrals the same!
Please search your heart and decide what is best for you and yours. What will enable you to be at peace.
Take care.
Suzanne
My heart is aching for you tonight, Bonnie. People can be so insensitive to others. I have had to change my life since my heart attack on Feb. 11 this year. I have people that don't understand why I have to say no or why I can't do certain things. Comment is you look good, if you just put your mind to it you can do more. WHAT!!!??? And these are those who are "close" to me. Yes it hurts that they don't or won't understand. Again it's selfishness in their part. I have always been one that burns the candle at both ends. I never could say no. Well, it caught up with me. Now I don't put others ahead if myself. God is first, then myself and my family. Then if time allows, and my health will let me, I will do for others. Looking back I wish I would have slowed down and taken better care of myself long ago. But now I've been given a second chance and things have changed. Life now is so much less stressful, and the peace that fills each day is wonderful. Starting my day by placing it in God's capable hands and following His lead, makes the day worth every glorious minute.
Hugs to you, your family and Sadie. May you find sweet, refreshing rest tonight. And may His loving arms surround you and give you the strength and wisdom to make whatever decisions lay ahead. Know you are loved and appreciated!
Dear Bonnie,
I've enjoyed your blog post for several years now. I also enjoyed making the Celtic Solstice quilt. You are very generous with your time and your freebies.
Follow your heart and all will be right for you in your life.
I can feel your pain being away from Sadie. I once passed on a weekend away to stay home because my cat, Lucy, was not well.
I wanted to stay home with her, it was important for both of us. She died after only ten years with us and I truly think it was the saddest day of my life.
Be well, be happy, be yourself. Take time to enjoy the things that are most meaningful to you, life is so short and I've never heard of anyone saying at the end that they wished they had worked more. I'm sure your friends and family would love to have more of you, be generous to yourself and spend more time with them.
You've already given us a lifetime of inspiration and ideas, I especially love your books, thanks for it all!
JoAnn B. scrap quilter
Bonnie, I can't think of anything original to say to you that the 309 comments before mine haven't said. I just want to add my voice to those who want you to take care of YOU and your family first. Then, if there's time, and you have the desire, offer us some of your knowledge and expertise. I appreciate all that I've reaped from your website in the years I've been following you. THANK YOU !!
This is an emotional time for you, wanting to be with Sadie... I'd be nuts, myself, in that situation.
I get it that you have to travel a lot to make a living, but you don't have to do so much of the free stuff. Writing the blog could be done every other day rather than every day. Your followers would still be there. Post less pictures-- less editing! To be totally honest each day looks somewhat the same with the classrooms of quilters all holding up their tools or strings of piecings. Maybe combine and show less of that every other day or so. Unless your attendees just HAVE to see themselves on your blog after a workshop, I'm sure they would understand.
My favorite pictures you post are the sights to be seen in the towns you go to, the stuff at the antique malls you visit, and #1-- Sadie and Emmylou. All the pics of quilters at workshops are way down on the list for me. Honestly I just skip over them.
I hope you can reevaluate and cull some of the stuff that takes up time but doesn't do much to support you and your future. Hope you can find the right balance that makes you happy.
So glad Sadie did well. Hope she's getting lots of love and boy will she be happy to see you!
Oh Bonnie, Hugs! It sounds like in your heart you know you need to make some changes heading in to 2019. You do what is right for you! We have been blogging together since the beginning...your boys all grown and my baby turning 13 last week! So much life has happened and continues. It is good to have some down time to just enjoy. You have gotten so many encouraging e-mails, I hope it gives you some comfort during this difficult time. I am glad to hear your sweet doggie is home and being looked after. Hugs!
Dear Bonnie,
I read some of your posting but not always all the time. I love your mountain cabin but I tell you--you are one busy lady.
Please take time to smell the roses,take care of your baby girl at home. I know you are headed on a trip-- you should have people come to you for awhile find a place closer to home and do retreats there.
You know--some people will complain no matter what. Not all quilters are nice too!!!!!
Maybe lil Sadie is making you more vulnerable tooo
Bless Bonnie--you are a god person
Wendy d.
I'm so glad so many other people have posted comments that echo my feelings, which are basically: good grief, some people are so rude!! No one has the right to judge you for how you prioritise your time. And putting yourself and your family first is crucial if you're ever going to have the energy and interest to help others. Rude people don't deserve your time or energy. Don't let them drag you down. There are a hundred others out there who understand and appreciate your situation and respect your right to guide your own life. (Unfortunately the nice people are usually quieter than the rude people so you may not hear from them as often or as forcefully!) Best wishes for a speedy recovery for your pup.
Dear Bonnie, please take care of yourself and your family. Don't feel guilty or bad about what you must do for yourself. You are creating every day and interacting with tons of people every day. You deserve breathing, creating, nurturing space. I repeatedly marvel at everything you do, and do, and do. Please take care of yourself, take care of Sadie. I hope you come back refreshed and enjoying whatever you chose to do.
Oh no sometimes the turkeys really get you down. I hope it helps to know the VAST majority of people who follow you love you so much and are so grateful for your diligence in our behalf. Maybe you could start taking a sabbath rest, one day a week off the blog. Your love for Sadie comes through so clearly. It must be awful not to be there and then to get another whammy from some ungrateful folk sucks. I don't think you should be afraid to take a break. You've been sounding a little crispy around the edges every now and then, and you certainly could write daily in a journal so you don't get out of the habit. I would hate to see you burn out and become bitter. You deserve to be refreshed and renewed!
Honestly Bonnie, I don't know how you do what you do!!! Reading about what you get done when you are home makes me tired, let alone all the travel and time away from home. It's obvious you are a high energy person, but that doesn't mean being hard on yourself or your family time. You are so talented, you could find ways to make your income without being gone so much and being better to yourself!! Hugs to you and God Bless!!! BTW...Sadie is not just a dog...she's your super baby girl.
I write from Austria, I read daily for 8 years your blog, I sew your quilts, I love your mysteries. You have my life so enriched, I thank you for it! I'd miss you very much! All love you, your family and the sweet Sadie! Elisabeth
It sounds like a rough patch, for which I'm sorry. I hope that by the time you read this message, Miss Sadie will be well on the mend, which should make many things better (because she matters more than the complaints of people who don't love you as she does, right?). I hope you are able to get some good rest, have some sweet dreams, and take good care of yourself and those you love. Thanks for all you do.
Bonnie - how can some people be so self-centred and thoughtless as to write to you the way these ones did. I, for one (and probably of thousands!), constantly wonder how you are still alive and kicking. Your schedule is unbelievable and you give so much of yourself to other people that I don't know how you have any left for yourself. Although we would all be devastated to lose you, maybe the time has come to cut down on your schedule and keep at least a BIT of time for Bonnie!! At the moment it always looks as if you have NONE left for you! Please don't feel that we don't appreciate you because 99% of us do.
Bonnie, I want to thank you for all of the inspiration that you provide for me. I travel several times a year for work and understand how demanding and tiring it can be on you mentally and physically.
Quilting is my down time and I love your blogs. I will read them during my hectic day for a little breather. I enjoy the pictures that you post of the mountains because we have a cabin in eastern Tennessee but live in Florida. Your pictures make me smile.
I am so glad that Sadie will be fine. Our four legged family members are just that "family members"! They are not "just a dog or cat". I know because I lost my sweet Lexington to cancer over a year ago and my heart is still broken.
I am sending you ((hugs)) from someone that has come to think of you as a role model. Please take care of yourself and remember that there are so many people who admire you because you are walking your own path!
Bless your heart! You are a precious, talented, and amazingly generous soul! Get some good rest, enjoy your trip and you will be home to love on Sadie before you know it!!! People's behavior really is mind boggling. One of the last quilt classes I taught a lady complained that I taught her more than the course description. I had to apologize. You are greatly appreciated and remember crazy people always have too much time on their hands!
Hello Bonnie
Don't let the turkeys get you down. You can't please all people, so please yourself and all is well. Love you heaps
xx Sue
(((((Hugs, Bonnie))))) Bless your heart, I am so sorry for what you are going through this day, and I know you so want to be home with little Sadie to comfort her, but thank the Lord she is recuperating wonderfully. You have so many people who love you, as you are seeing from all the posts today, so hold that in your heart and know that we all want what is best for you, whatever that may be. As for the unkind remarks from the guild member, I'm sure she has incurred the indignation of many in her guild for her comments. When people are rude or unkind, I always remember that old saying about the farmer, who, when the mule kicked him, considered the source and let it go. 'Nuff said! I pray the dawn of the new day will rekindle your good spirits and the joy in your heart.
Bonnie you must at all cost protect your health! If you don't you will eventually be unable to do any part of the quilt life you enjoy. I was a go go and go some more gal, until my health upset my entire life. I can no longer do what I so enjoyed and planned to do in my retirement years. I am left with a huge amount of guilt for making purchases for the future, that I can no longer use. Have been selling on Facebook group pages, as I do not want to leave this for my family to deal with. Even doing this task is hard to do. I have major back issues along with Fibromyalgia and arthritis. So please take care of you first and your family needs. I still enjoy reading about quilting most days. Decide what's best for you and use the delete button as often as you need to in all areas of your life. Someone said they had just thought to themselves that Bonnie is doing to much......you really do need to slow your life down and you do not owe any of us "free" anything. You already have given us your heart!!!
So glad Sadie will be ok. It is hard to be away when something like that is going on with a beloved pet.
For 12 years my daughter was part of the local ballet group. For several years there were slightly more than 200 moms (families) involved. The office manager told me that 2 of the moms were always complaining about something and the teachers and her were always spending time on their complaints, trying to keep everyone happy. They finally realized that the 2 complaining moms were less than 1 percent of the families that they dealt with and to give up trying to always please everyone. I'm self-employed and keep that in mind when I deal with whiners in my business. It helps me keep life in perspective and to not take the problems home with me at the end of the day.
I want to say THANK YOU for all you do for the quilting community. I have followed you since your beginning. You are a blessing to many. I'm amazed by your energy and the amount you travel. You seem to really love your life/job. You're an inspiration! Take care of you. Keep positive. Ignore the negative. Think of the song/lyrics to Garden Party by Ricky Nelson and be true to yourself. Take time to enjoy your family!!!
Lisa
Bonnie,
Thank you for your honesty, your openness, your generosity, your sharing, caring heart. I share so much of what you post with my husband and friends. Your posts are a joy that I look forward to every day. I treasure the ones when you get to spend time at home or in your cabin, the walks on trails. I thoroughly enjoy your visits to antique shops when you travel. I enjoy your company and creative community of quilt cam. I have been able to meet you at two quilt guild meetings (different guilds and years apart). I enjoyed both and marvel at your energetic and outgoing personality. So encouraging and uplifting.
If you have to stop giving so much of you to care for you and your family, much happiness and blessings to you. I think you need to rest and care for Sadie. Rest dear lady, we will be here when and if you are able to return. Now let me go click some ads 😀
Shelly
OMG! Can you feel the love Bonnie? The general quilting community has reached out and embraced you and what you do! Be true to yourself and everything else should fall into place. Know that you are loved and respected. Please be well!
First off I do pray for Sadie's speedy healing. Bonñie, I know somewhat of traveling for a living and how much fun it can be, but how bone wearying, too! I didnt get ti choose my schedule...it was my JOB! I am trying not to be mean or offenside in what's going on hers, i understand something others maybe haven't seen in al! Of this. This is the JOB you've chisen rather than a straight 9 to 5 er. You make money to do this, it helps afford you many of the things you enjoy in life, too. And you chose this life sort of when you became avquilt 'celebrity'. How many of us had or have the opportunity to do that with our jobs? We get up, feed the kidz, go to work, come home, cook dinner etc and get up and do it again for the next 35 years. What i am saying is you are blessed to be able to make a good living with quilting. Its like a baseball player complaining bout how much he makes to pkay a GAME, something he has always LOVED to do and would have done for free. It's a JOB! YOU can controll your schedule....you book your life, which is fortunate. Slow down, so you don't go to Italy or Matchu Pichu this year, or wherever....stay home with Sadie - get her well, and you well. You can CHOOSE that, many of us can't or couldn't. I think it's awesome and wonderful to make a living QUILTING. I never said it was any easier than what some of us do, or did for a living. It all part of life choices. I am not a hater - I am a syncopate like everyone else, you ROCK in my book too! And I DO appreciate what you give and at what personalcost, too. We all burnout of our job at certain points in our lives, but then we get up, get dressed, and keep on keeping on.....just saying
Bonnie,
Writing does not come easily for me, so I have been a lurker, as they used to say on another group I follow. I have been so worried about Sadie and am glad she will be okay. I have learned, smiled, laughed, traveled, enjoyed, worried about you, and looked forward to your posts for a long time. I am sure lots of love goes into preparing them for us. Ignore the cranky people who never learned to say thank you and realize that most of us appreciate everything you do. I don't want to be one who doesn't say thank you, so,
Thank you for...
Sharing your love of quilting,
Teaching me so many new things,
Taking me on new adventures,
Making all your students feel special by sharing their adventures with you,
Your wonderful books and the free patterns (I drool over them deciding what to do next),
Teaching me to love old sewing machines,
Sharing your antiques shop adventures,
Letting me know that I am not the only one who loves old cemeteries,
The beautiful mountain pictures,
Sharing your joys and sorrows of family life,
All the beautiful quilts you share, yours and others,
Smiling in all those pictures as you have a great smile,
And for all those other things I didn't think of at the moment .
You are the BEST! Take care of yourself and your family. We love you!
Susan Yee
Most of us feel your pain and frustration. As a working person it's hard to meet all the demands that life makes of you. And the fact that your fur baby is ill makes it all the harder. Just know you have the support of your loyal followers and we know that any decisions you make are for the best interest of all. Hugs
Bonnie, you are an amazing woman. I have commented multiple times to my husband that I don't know how you do it all. Maybe you do need to make changes in your schedule, your life -- we all do from time to time. You're in charge, and it's too bad those who have made you feel bad don't walk a mile in your shoes. Love your family, sweet Sadie and yourself.
I am continually amazed at how people can just say whatever they want without consideration for the person they say it to. I recently posted on FB in my status that I felt that far too many post insults there directed at friends and family and emarked that those kinds of post should be made in a personal message to the party it is intended for. Boy did I get beat up!! Don't I know that social media and the internet is the only place that people feel free to voice their opinion?
I suspect that the comments you spoke of come from narcissistic people that only think of themselves. I can't imagine the time it takes to maintain this blog and your FB page and other social media outlets. I can't imagine being away from your family so much. I can't imagine being in a position to receive this kind of comment and not be able to respond as you probably want to.
You are appreciated. You are generous to share your time and skill both here and in your classes. I think you can be reassured of that by the comments listed above mine.
I'm so glad that Sadie is recuperating and in the care of your Hubs. I know, as I am a huge lover of pets, that it's been hard for you to be away from her and your family. I love it that your sons are friends. I see that in my grandsons and it always fills my heart when I see them together.
xx, Carol
There are a whole lot of people who just don't understand. They need to find somewhere else to get their information. Most of us get the whole ad thing. I doubt the complainers are maintaining a blog with the kind of content you provide, and are doing it all for free. I hope those noisy ones don't make you feel like you have to change things. You are not obligated to make sacrifices, financial or otherwise, for any of us. That you sacrifice your time and creative energy to keep up this blog is very much appreciated by most of us. We can handle a few ads.
Bonnie.... First of all, there is no such thing as "just a dog"... Sadie is, indeed a well loved member if your family... I'm dirty I did not realize she was having surgery.....so I am doubly glad to hear she is OK.... I am a widow...living alone...and I truthfully don't know what I would do without my two small dogs... Finny and Spencer...
Honestly, it's hard to believe how insensitive and selfish some people can be.... Ignore those ungrateful, self-centered people.... Live your life in whatever way will give you satisfaction.... You give so much to others... And believe me, you are both loved and appreciated... By many, many people... You are an amazing, giving person...
When you get home, give Sadie extra hugs and kisses from her adoring fans!
Like most everyone else commenting, I love reading your blog and appreciate the time and effort involved. I'm so sorry that such negative people feel the need to try to knock you down. You have a huge following of people who love everything you do for the quilting community. You need to take care of yourself and your family (and Sadie is family). I hope all the positive comments you read today boost your spirits and surround you with peace.
Thank you again!
Sandy N
explabgirl(at)yahoo(dot)com
Am sending big"cyber" hug to you and Sadie. I hope you realize how much we appreciate all you do for us- your loyal fans. Wish we could all send the snarky emailers our opinion of them but some people just feel entitled! Get some fresh air and rest. We love you! Margie
Bonnie
WOW! Just seeing how many people who responded to your post should let you know
that the few who complained are not to be given any further thought. You let them know that you don't give them permission to treat you the way they probably treat others.
You are an inspiration and I love reading your blog everyday. I appreciate all the free patterns you have on your site, the quilt cams, and the mysteries. You can see through your blog, your passion for quilting. Thank you for sharing it with other quilters who have the same passion. Thank you for all the time you spend preparing the blog.
Don't let these few bring you down. You are loved.
Please give Sadie a hug. I'm glad her surgery went well.
She is not just a dog. She is a family member.
Looking forward to updates on her recovery.
Do something nice for yourself when you get home.
You deserve it!
Cindy Toole
I've had to leave my 8 year old son to go care for others. His sisters were abandoned by me in the same fashion, although the illnesses were not as serious. Unfortunately we have to live by a monetary standard. I'm one that appreciates every little thing I receive free. I wouldn't sew at all otherwise. Even my fabrics are purchased at deep discounts, from thrift stores or 'free' from the side of the road if I spot something. Every single day has been a struggle for me since I was 16. I'm 56 now. My son is 11. My kids have done without me for a pittance of a wage to keep them in food and shelter. Thank you Bonnie for helping to cover them in their sleep. Your input is very much appreciated.
Bonnie,
I am floored that anyone would write such a rude comment to you! As an elementary school principal I have to deal with rude, hateful, demanding individuals on a weekly basis and I have come to the realization that I can't let their attitude affect me or ruin my day. It's amazing how demanding people can sometimes be with your time, always self-centered and taking it personal when I ask them to schedule an appointment. I used to run myself ragged trying to meet the needs of everyone and I finally decided to stop the crazy merry-go-round and set a schedule to meets the needs of my students, teachers and myself to keep me healthy and sane. And, did it upset parents and sales people? Yes, but I stand firm and keeping with a schedule that works best because I was like you, ready to walk away from this job. I pray that you realize there are 1,000 people who support you to one selfish individual that doesn't! I believe the majority of us are grateful for all that you do, all the blog posts that we enjoy reading every morning with our coffee, grateful for the mystery quilt along that is totally free, grateful for the free patterns on your site, grateful for the time you take to write the books with all of the wonderful patterns. I for one would like to say once again THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO! We love you!
I have always wondered how you have done it all and for so long. I'm a sufferer of burnout myself, when you give and give and give, feeling the joy of sharing only to be complained to and about is difficult. I just remember that those complaints are their issues and not mine. They are the ones operating without grace. Then I reevaluate and make the choices I need to make for myself. In short you have been amazingly generous and I am in awe that you have been so for such a long time. Thank you for your inspiration and always laid back style.
"Don't sweat the small stuff", that includes people who are narrow minded in thinking they are the only ones who exist and everyone else should drop everything to make things happen for them.
Breaks my heart when I read comments such as you posted, but then the world is made up of so many of those people who are unforgiving of another person wanting to live their own life as they see fit..
Thank you for all you do and all the free things you give everyone!
Do what is right for you ... I'll still be following
Good morning and God bless. I am a store manager of the big box retailer. I spend about 12 hours a day trying to meet the demands of 300 associates and thousands of customers. When I get home I enter into your world and dream of what it would be like spending my time with the craft that I love. Traveling teaching sewing it sounds like a wonderful life We forget that you are in fact working and like all jobs there there checks and balances give and take. My brother started a small online bass fishing lure business because of his passion for the sport. I have watched him grow this business into one of the largest on line shops out there. I have also watched him sell his boat because he had no more time to be on the water Watching him struggle thru his work life balance has given me pause about taking my crafting to the next level. I don't want the craft that I love so much to become WORK. It is very easy sitting on the couch with a cup of coffee watching you trip around the world without thinking about the work you do to make it happen. You make it look so easy. Thank you for your time your efforts and your passion for sharing. May you have a peace filled day.
I hear you. It caused me to feel very sad. You are the most giving person I have ever known. Always smiling. At some point you have to say enough! People can be cruel and not realize their words hurt. They have no clue of the energy it takes just to prepare and hold these workshops. You need time for yourself and your family. It's OK to want and need this, otherwise you will burn out. You have inspired me through your blog so much so my husband and I took a trip to your beautiful mountains. To make a long story short we are going to move to mountains. We fell in love. Right now we are looking into the Boone, and West Jefferson area. Maybe someday I will see you. Take care.
Sending lots of thoughts for Sadie's speedy recovery. I understand you feeling bad about not being there for her surgery. She's a big part of your family and you love her.
As to the negative comments from people, unfortunately it will happen. When I read the complaints yesterday about the pop-ups, I was astounded. How do they think the site gets paid for? There are yearly and monthly fees associated with a website. Do they think you will just pay them out of the goodness of your heart so they can have all of the free patterns and knowledge you share? Unfortunately, I've come to the conclusion that many people just don't think. If someone wants to see just how difficult what you do is, try writing a post each and every day. Add lots of pictures that you have to edit. Do it everyday; for years! The anonymity that the Internet allows makes some people forget their manners.
I am truly grateful for all you do and share. I look forward to reading your posts each morning. Thank you.
Hi Bonnie, as a pet mommy of 4 dogs, I understand where you're coming from when you talk about Sadie. She's so special and she gives back love unconditionally. I appreciate you and the dedicated time you share with your quilting friends. Keep in mind that what you have is a job and everyone deserves (and needs) time for themselves, friends and family outside of the job. You are lucky that the job you have is one you love! I know that you carve out a little time wherever you are to have time for the important things in your life, but its often not enough. Know that you are loved and appreciated by your quilting friends that understand what is important and try not to take the negative comments directly as an affront to your heart. Try to let those comments roll off of your back like water. I know that things that a few people say might hurt you, but know that for every one of those people, there are 1000's more that DON'T feel like that. Sending you some ZEN moments…thanks Bonnie! Lily in Sault Ste. Marie
Dear Bonnie, we all have moments where insensitive people interfere with our happiness. I hope you can feel the outpouring of love we are sending you. Also, keep in mind that you are entitled to retire, too. If you feel you need to cut back on your traveling, do it! Maybe restrict engagements to the southeast and near where your family and dearest friends live. You reach the public through your social media and blogpots and we very much appreciate all the free content you share. We try to reward you by purchasing your books directly. Now I will begin clicking your blog ads so I can send you a few more pennies with my little effort. Hugs from PA!
First, I Hope Sadie is doing well this morning.
Second, your blog reminds me of those who criticize businesses for charging certain prices and they know nothing of what it takes to run a business.
Third, we love and support you, even if some of us follow your (quilt) lead down this road called life.
Take a deep breath, now exhale, repeat!
Good for you! People need to be reminded to be grateful. Do what is best for you and your family. It is interesting to hear about your day as Watching from the outside I have envied your life. Just because you are doing for work what I do for fun does not mean it is easy or fun all the time. I think that people forget that our public face is not the whole story. Be well and be happy doing what you want and need to do. - Holly
You are right Bonnie. You don't have to do everything you do unless you want to. When you are burnt out, you really aren't any good to anyone. People with hectic schedules like yours need down time, time to refresh and reflect. I think that not being with Sadie at this time has let the negative statements be more bothersome than they might otherwise have been. However, in a way that has been good because you are now rethinking choices you have made and what you really want to do from here on out.
If you enjoy blogging, maybe you don't have to do it everyday. If you still want to teach, maybe you don't have to say yes to everyone that asks. You are not answerable to anyone but yourself for the decisions you make. It is YOUR life and you will never be able to please everyone no matter how hard you try. Please those most important to you including yourself and do the things that are most important to you.
You and Sadie will be in my thoughts and prayers. I appreciate all I have learned from you on this website and in you published works.
I've thought many times that its time for you to slow down some. I'm not telling you what to do, you have to figure it out for yourself. I have a different personality than you and I like it quieter and more easy going. I have a friend just like you, always doing her Mary Kay work as a director and it's great for her, I would hate it. I think if you stop all the traveling, you would still be a writer and a teacher when you wanted to do it and you could still do your blog. Good luck Bonnie.
Glad to hear that Sadie came through the surgery and is now on the mend. I haven't read all the comments but everyone loves and appreciates you ( well almost ). You have mentioned recently about having a place to hold retreats, maybe that should be a road to peek down. NC is such a beautiful state, I for one would come to a retreat there. Just a thought - you could slow down, be close to family and do it in your impeccable way! Hugs to you and yours.
You have not chosen a thought of the day yet. How about "WHINE ON"
Bonnie, add you can see by the above comments we as a majority are very happy with what you can and do give us. I'm so sorry there are unhappy people in the works that only worry about themselves and bring others down with them. Do what you need to do for you. Always. <3 and hugs.
I know it is upsetting to receive negative comments, but , there are tons of positive comments coming your way. You need to enjoy your life and if it means adjusting your schedule, you should do it. We don't want you to suffer burn out, we'd miss you.!
Hugs
Like many, I never comment. I'm so happy to see so many beautiful, supportive comments. The silent majority loves you and totally supports you in taking care of yourself and your family first. I want to thank you for being in my inbox daily. I hope Sadie is 100% soon. Your little walking buddy is family. Thanks for all you do
Sweet Sadie in the biggest cone I have ever seen! Remember to breathe and take care of yourself!
Thank you Bonnie for sharing your life and work with us. It helps us feel connected to you even when you have no idea who we are. Sorry for the downer day but may the sunshine help and you receive the smiles you deserve. I pray you find the path that is right for you! Cindy at cwienstroer@amuniversal.com
Bonnie. I appreciate all that you do for us with awe and more thanks than I can adequately express. Your eye for color, pattern, and techniques for putting them all together have given a whole new zip to my step as I walk/run to the sewing machine. And of course there are the new (to me) ways that neutrals liven up a quilt. I've made the last 5 of your mysteries and learned new methods with each one. Your schedule is amazing and I don't know how you do it, I'd miss you dreadfully if you decided to pull back, but I'd understand with a tear in my eye. Please know that the vast majority of us support and appreciate what you do for us, and I'm sorry that a few have demanded too much. Best wishes for Sadie's full recovery, and thanks again, for everything.
The first thing I'd like to say, Bonnie, is how very much I enjoy, anticipate and appreciate your posts, pictures and advice. I can only imagine the work involved in posting all these items. Heck, it takes me forever just to get one picture from my camera to my pc to facebook or wherever else I'm posting it.
The world is so full of entitled people who would have a fit if what they demanded of you was expected of them. Being away from your oh-so-comfortable-looking home AND your poor little ailing poochie doesn't help t'all, Im sure.
Certainly those negative emails get you down, but just rememver you are truly loved and appreciated by so, so many others. Just put those naysayers in the recycle bin and don't give them another though. Dwell instead on the wonderful job you did raising your sons to love and respect each other as brothers AND friends. Well done!!
I would hate to see you stop....unless you needed to, of course. I hope you know what joy you bring so many.
Take a breath, be strong, and rest easy. You are loved and appreciated.
Loretta McGinn
tlkids65ll@aol.com
I am an avid reader of your blog and love your generosity not only in the giveaways but your advice so freely given. I am in the UK so will probably never meet you face to face but be reassured that you are one lovely lady. I feel saddened that people can be so negative and not appreciate the positives.
Ignore these comments you are human and there is only one of you so be uplifted by those who truly appreciate your input to the quilting community. Most of all look to your family they are your biggest supporters and will be there when other people are not stay strong for them.
Be kind to yourself and remember work to live not live to work.
I'm way at the bottom of this list, and you may not read this post, but I have thought for some time that you were burning out. I am so appreciative of everything you do and who you are and what you stand for. I would strongly suggest that you clear your calendar for a year and take a break, then only do so many guilds a year after that. You can still write, create, inspire, from the blog. I have learned so much from you with the mystery quilts and from your blog. Maybe you don't have to go out "in person" so much. My uncle used to say "life is short and then we die." What I'm seeing in your posts is that you do not feel that you are savoring your life force at its fullest. Sadie's illness just pushed all the feelings over the edge. And you have to be bone tired with all the traveling. Step back. Reevaluate. You are not going to lose us.
Bonnie,
I am amazed by all you do! And I know you blog takes tons of time I read it every day.
I appreciate all the time you give us, you are an amazing women & quilter.
So glad Sadie's surgery was a success.
Blessings, Laura
Bonnie, you are a very caring and giving person. It's easier said than done but Ignore those "ignorant people who spend time criticizing you. They obviously have nothing else to do in their lives. You give so much of yourself everyday to us. I'm sure a larger majority of us realize how much is going in in your life each day. Personally, I marvel as to how you manage. You need time to yourself and family just as much as anyone.
You live your life your way and we will still appreciate your talents!!! I've never met you personally but I feel the love and warmth you radiate through your blogs.
Please don't stop being yourself!
May God continue to Bless you!
Your stunning work ethic and willingness to share is nothing but amazing. I read your blog often and have for many years--and I always wonder when you might finally get yourself an acolyte to run all those errands and handle mail duties so you can gain back some hours to your private life, which you surely deserve.
Dear Bonnie
I just read a lot of comments and I can only add; do what is right for YOU! As hard as we try, we can't please every one! Us women are natural givers, but we need to take care of "US" first so we can help others. So don't let the one bad apple ruin your work, and yes it is work/business that you do. I do Thank You for your giving, you put a lot of yourself in what you do, so again I say Thank You! I'm also glad to hear that Sadie is going to be OK. God bless and give you peace.
I am so sorry that people are so thoughtless and cause you pain. Perhaps their complaints about schedule changes reflects your popularity and the value of your teaching methods. Or maybe just their selfishness. Thank you for sharing your life and your work, as well as inspiring we quilters to explore, improve and enjoy.
Hugs to you and to Sadie too. Please, please, please consider what percentage of your total fan club those few negative comments amount to. Very little I believe. Be true to yourself. Most of us are thrilled with all the content you provide, ads or no ads. Personally I don't even "see" the ads, so what's the big deal? I always have trouble figuring out how you do so much and when you ever have time to sleep. Don't quit doing what you love because of a few idiots. Only quit or cut back if that is what will make you happy. And there is no such thing as "only a dog."
You are an amazing woman. I don't know how you do all you do. Please don't let the haters sap your spirit and energy..they aren't worth it. For every complainer, there are thousands who support all you do for us. Thanks again for teaching our guild in Newnan. Signed, the gal with a name like a crop failure
Hi Bonnie,
I love reading your post. And sometimes things and being away from the place you would like to be are just harder.
Most of what I want to say has already been said, so I will focus on me and what your website and blog are for me. I missed the free mystery and decided afterwards that I really want to do it and bought the pattern. I finished the blocks sometime last week and ironed them yesterday with the rest of my ironing. I was not in the mood of piecing the setting triangles and wanted to use a border print instead. I had a piece leftover from another project. But I needed a filler background and a darker border to finish the quilt, so I decided to go to the quilt store. The lady so didn't get what I wanted to do. She commented that I had too many prints, that it went from batiks to modern prints...
The quilt store I went to has a good selection of reproduction prints and my border print was a floral in muted colors, so I thought this would work. The print she suggested was a kind of modern take on french Provencal... Not at all what I had in mind. I was shocked. To me she didn't understand the whole aestetics of scrap quilts. She was into selling whole matching sets. I don't like to know that someone else can make the same quilt. I want to rebel and use the idea and add different fabrics.
A big part of how I think about using scraps is your doing. I am happy about my journey and think you can take credit for this.
I did send you the pictures of the half assembled quilt top.
If you were to take a vacation from blogging. I would be sad. But absence makes the heart grow fonder... Maybe those who complain just don't realize how much they would miss the absence of your voice in their day.
Take care, Andrea
I wanted to say I appreciate what you do and understand your dilemma and the need to use ads to pay for the blog. Whatever you do don't let others run your life. Especially when they have no idea what it takes.
I haven't read through all the comments but I'm hoping they have been supportive and encouraging and full of love for you. I don't know how you do it ... always sharing your life and it's true, we have no idea what your behind the scenes looks like! Missing out on family time, rarely being home, always having another deadline to meet and then churning out daily, weekly, monthly content as well.
I am amazed how society seems to be spiraling into this place where it is acceptable to tear down and criticize others. It makes me tremendously sad.
Healing thoughts and prayers going to Sadie - fur babies fill a special place in our hearts for sure!
Please take care of yourself. Please do what is right for YOU! And know that there is a huge community of people out here cheering for you!!!
There are always people who think they know it all & that their needs come 1st. Shut those people out. No matter what you do they will find a way to complain.
If you are loosing your joy in this then stop & rethink what you want & need to keep you & your family happy. If you need a break or to retire then do that. Just please don't make rash decisions & think it through with your family & always pray for God's loving guidance. Maybe He's leading you to better things!
It's a busy couple of months & your heart is worried about Sadie. It's sad that you can't enjoy the wonderful job you have...
No matter how hard you try, you will never please all the people all the time. Don't be afraid to say, "No" and mean it without regrets. Your family and your health need to be your number one priority. Period. No one has to apologize for turning something down that just doesn't work for you. You are the most energetic, giving person I know. Don't let guilt about not doing enough bring you down. No one can ever say that you haven't tried your hardest to make the quilting world a better place. You must do what you know in your heart is best for you. If you turn someone down, they will find a way, even tho they might have to work a little harder at it. It's not your problem--just let it go. I hope the sun will come out for you today and that things will look more positive tomorrow.
Love and hugs even this amount of comments may feel oppressive; you care for all of us now it's your turn. GET ON THE NEXT PLANE HOME; your quilting family love you and will be disappointed You can't do the venues but they'll have to get over it! sometimes you have to put yourself first and that time for you is now xSylvie
So happy to see a picture of Sadie that she made iT.
Bonnie your heart must be hurting that you can't be with Sadie.
Please know we all love you very much and most of THE time you have a spoiler who thinks she can tell you what to do. Ignore that person i do not understand why she is so angry. Ungrateful person trying to tell you what you should do. Please ignore you are so loved by so many people. You have a heart if cold and you are amazing. Please take care of yourself. Hugs and love to you and Kiss Sadie from me please.
You are a real blessing to THE quilters please remember that always!!!!!
Love, Yoka Bazilewich
Bonnie - very well said!
As for your dear fur baby, may you have her for many years to come.
There's umpteen million pet owners in this country and we understand you completely.
The comments from rude people who can't see outside of their own little world tells you exactly how those people are, they only care of themselves and think of others as their servants.
You're a very nice and thoughtful person, Bonnie. I'm not sure I could have rescheduled them at all after hearing those remarks.
I cannot believe how cruel some people can be. Obviously they are very unhappy people to be so critical. I have wondered how you find the time to do all that you do. You amaze me. I love your blogs. The first think I do every morning is log on to your blog. The worst part of my day would be not finding a blog from you. Try and ignore the mean girls out there. They were that way when they were in school and have just grownup to mean women. They are not worth your time.
Thinking of Sadie. What a sweet girl. When our animals hurt we hurt. Wishing her a speedy recovery.
I've been so busy that I have not been able to stay on top of reading your blog Bonnie until now. It's crossed my mind often, how you are able to do all that you do, travel, writing, teaching, without an assistant, at the very least. It's easy to let the negative overshadow all that you do and all that you give and do for quilters. Let it go (easier said than done) but you are so much to so many!! That quilt guild will get over it and the person who complained about the Ads will either stop reading or learn to live with it. You made a comment some time ago as to why you do your mystery in November when it's the busiest time for many people. Only you would have thought it's the perfect time for those that don't have anyone to celebrate with or are just too distraught for many different reasons. Until you told us the reason I for one never thought about the people who have a hard time during the holidays. And maybe your mystery helps them through it. It is things like that Bonnie that make you very special!!! Please take time out for yourself, of course, but please don't let the negativity be the reason you leave. And if you decide to leave, would you take us with you :) Sorry for the late response and/or for revisiting this topic. I just felt that you need to know how special you are to many people who you may not have met (yet) or remember. Take care and hope today is just a bit better! Sincerely, Carmela Cataudella-Sanzone
Bonnie I'm sure by now you've read some of your notes from a lot of your fans. We are here for you and we stand strong for you. The people that complain are in the minority. Do what makes you happy! You have given us so much joy I can't tell you how much. Thank you for everything! God bless you and your giving spirit! Got your family in my prayers
Bonnie: I am so sorry you are having to go thru this. People are so thoughtless and think the world revolves around them. Do what works for you and to H*LL with the others who are ungrateful. I ran a dog rescue for awhile and finally quit for the similar attitudes. Everybody stood on the sidelines and had an opinion on how I should be doing it. they couldn't lift a finger to help but boy do they have an opinion. Also had a successful commercial embroidery business, and worked by tushy off meeting everybody's production demands. Oh I'm going on vacation and the job is due in 10 days and I forgot to leave the digitized disk with you but that's OK, you'll have the weekend to run my 1000 shirts. And while I would really miss you if you "go dark" I certainly understand and I say do what works for you and don't look back. Keep your chin up my friend. thanks for what you do and who you are. P.S. Give Sadie a hug for me and I'm glad she is doing good.
Bonnie, sending you a big quilty hug! Do what you can and don't let the naysayers get you down. They are ALWAYS with us but do no let them get to you, no matter what.
You are amazing and 99.9% of us are cheering you along and loving all that you do. Concentrate on that, not them.
Hoping all is well with Sadie and that you have your smile on your face again.
Alice
Hope you know that there is a vast majority of us who seldom comment and would never criticize you, and have used your patterns and shared your site and instructions over and over. I happened to read this today, she shared similar frustrations.
Maybe it was just a bad day for the trolls to come out from under the bridge.
http://blog.maryquilts.com/2016/06/30/my-website-2/
Take time for you, and God bless you for all you do and everything you share with us.
Kathy
Bonnie, you amaze me with all of your talent! I can't thank you enough for all you do! Piecefully, Gretchen McClain
I am so computer UN-savvy. I thought the pop-up ads were caused by my computer. Now that I know, I gladly click the X saying THIS ONE'S FOR BONNIE and THIS ONE'S FOR BONNIE as I go. You are a great inspiration for me on my journey through life and quilting. I wish you the best in all you do.
Toni Stanek (tacitaddress@gmail.com)
Hi Bonnie, I know I am late to comment on this but I hope you can see how much love is out there for you as a person. I lose sight of how good people really are because it seems to be easier to rant than to thank. Whatever decision you make, make it for you, your inner joy and not for anyone of us. If we get to share in your life, then we are blessed with your decision to give us a gift. Be well . . . Toni
Fair enough to everything you said. You need to put YOUR life first. Although I enjoy reading your blog each morning, it does AMAZE me that you've actually written it each and every day, and it makes me exhausted to think of all the travel you do. You are only one person, you can only be in one place at a time. Lovely as it is that you are popular - give yourself a break, and stay at home when you wish to. Hope your dog heals well, I know what that is like, our dog has had four surgeries in the past 18 months. She thinks a cone is just part of "getting dressed" now!
My solution? Block anyone who TELLS you what to do or complains. Period. Your blog is a gift to every reader. Poor behavior should have consequences.
A fellow Boise quilter.
To all the nay Sayers Go take a jump in the coldest lake and then mind your own business. Most people love to read the everyday happenings of the wonderful Bonnie and if you don't like it go somewhere else. You are not wanted and definitely not welcome.
Another thing Sadie is not just a dog she is part of their family who happens to be a wonderful animal.
Dear Bonnie,
I just want to say thank you.
I appreciate and enjoy your blog posts.
When I first started reading your blog many years ago, I shared with my husband how you were scheduled out three years in advanced. His comment was, "She isn't charging enough." Perhaps something to consider. I don't know how you keep up with your schedule. You are a wonder woman. Hope you dog recovers quickly.
I'm adding "ditto" to all previous comments. We are all your "virtual" friends. Out of the blue a left hook caught you squarely,knocked you into next week and we are all wondering: "what can they possibly be thinking. Don't they know her at all?" You can't wrap your head around it because you aren't that kind of person and your aren't hard wired to think like that. I believe the writers of those comments don't have a clue. I'm thankful you are who you are! It is my privilege to have met you and been given the opportunity to be in your "virtual world". Thank you. Whatever choice you make,I'm still 100% "all in" with you.
Hi Bonnie,
I am so sorry you are feeling this way, I can hear the pain you are feeling in your heart and just know that for every 1 complaint there are sooooooo many more people that appreciate you and all that you do so just continue to do what things you can and want to do and know they are appreciated. I am one of those who appreciate the things you do and don't expect anything from you that you don't want to or can't do and I am sure most of us who follow you feel the same. <3
Bonnie, You are generous with your time your teaching and sharing all things from the heart. So it would seem that a change in your schedule way ahead of the event would be understood. I know this took considerable consideration on your part.
It sounds like the woman who reacted so badly had a lot going on in her life that was depending on that specific event. For her it might have been the last straw of disappointments she had to face. I hope she has realized the effects of her actions. It is good to express her disappointment but I think the flip side of that is protecting others from our wrath.
Time to move on.
I hope I can again take one of your classes in the future. It has to be fun for the instructor and the student.
Peace to you.
Bonnie Hunter "YOU DO YOU!!!"
I'm going back to working on my Blue Ridge Beauty :)
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