Yesterday, I posted about love.
I opened my heart about how it feels to be living in North Carolina where the KKK is marching. And how Nazi salutes caused fitful sleep. No matter “which side” you are on, these are real events and they disturb me. It is NOT a political statement.
I simply expressed how I felt and that we need to reach out with love to those who are different than us. Love conquers fear. And that quilting joins us together.
NOTHING I said was political. If you don’t believe me you can read yesterday’s post.
But today I am hurt, and really have no words for the kinds of ugly comments….DIATRIBES paragraphs long - bashing me for political views that I NEVER EXPRESSED.
I never expected this from you, my readers.
These comments have been deleted. Those who have found their comments deleted? I would appreciate it if you would never leave another comment on this blog. I didn’t deserve this, and I am done.
You can find somewhere else to go, because the views you expressed – the way you lashed out at me, or tried to tell me what I can or can’t do with my blog? That was as if I had invited you into my home, into my life –and you shouted those things to my face.
Some said “there is no place for this on a quilting blog.” This is NOT a quilting blog. Quilting is part of my life, but it is not all of my life. I share EVERYTHING here, it is my journal. You are here as my guest.
And if I am concerned about something, I will write about it.
And I will turn OFF the commenting.
While you were busy slamming me --
I was doing this.
Box #16 is out the door.
I am headed to Florida late this afternoon where I will be spending Thanksgiving.
There may or may not be a blog post.
I’ve lost my faith in people’s ability to chose kindness. To chose respect for others’ opinions. To hold their own views silent while they allow someone else to express a different opinion.
I’m asking myself WHY I’ve been doing this day in and day out for years and years and offering all I do for free ---when this is how I am treated for simply stating that we need to see each other as individuals and love each other.
This isn’t worth it to me anymore.
Quiltville Quote of the Day.
Hi this election has helped to bring out the worst in people. when personal attacks are used instead of discussing the issues. this is a change but not for the good of our country. But remember there are so so many good people that get up each morning and work hard and are kind to their neighbors, and try to make this a better world. Sometimes it may seem a very small thing. your blog and you have share your love of not only quilting but also your faith in people, there is lots of goodness in the world, sometimes it seems hard to find
ReplyDeleteBonnie, so sorry this happened to such a genuinely kind person. Please continue to share your common sense and love with us (along with those wonderful quilting skills), it is very much appreciated. I have never commented before but this broke my heart to know that you were hurt so badly by hurtful people. Have a blessed and happy Thanksgiving!
ReplyDeleteThis seems to happen so often on blogs. It is frightening but I think it is the anonymity of the web. Our worst instincts, moods. Whatever are given free reign. I know it is hurtful - five years later I still remember one negative comment from my blog - but that is why I do not blog anymore. Please don't take this to heart, maintain your enthusiasm for quilting and life!
ReplyDeleteBonnie, I'm a sometimes reader of your blog, but I did catch yesterday's post. My impression was that you were simply expressing your feelings. I'd be sorry to see your blog end. When I've had a lousy day, coming to Quiltville for your warmth and kindness has always made me feel better. Plus I love seeing what you can do with scraps. You do the most stunning scrap quilts. Enjoy your visit to my part of the country. Our weather is balmy and sunny--just like your online personality.
ReplyDeleteWhat you were subjected to is the result of the last 2 generations not teaching their children the meaning of respect for people. We have a lot of folks that think nothing of being rude, pushy, arrogant, entitled, self-serving and demanding. individually I think most people are kind, but I've found social media to be a license for unloading hateful comments to undeserved individuals. They probably wouldn't do that face to face. People are angry in our country and they feel helpless so I think they spew hate instead of realizing they can take control of their life. The problem there is they might have to leave their comfort zone and redefine their lifestyle. Many people live way above their means, buying whatever to keep up with the masses. No one saves money anymore. Instead of making do, purchase anything on credit. Now we have a nation that is so stressed from finance problems they work 2 jobs. This has caused the home life to suffer. Moms are too tired to cook, Dad's still at work, no accountability around a dining table. Kids stayed on track because they had to face their parents at meals. Not anymore. Our national fabric has been unwoven and until family unity finds its way back, it will get scarier. I fear marshal law if all this protesting doesn't stop. Our quilting community has remained untouched until now and we have to stand firm insisting people play nice or move on. There has to be sanctuaries like Bonnie's blog for us to escape the madness. I've known Bonnie since she lived in East Texas starting her long arm business and there never has been a mean bone in her body. Not only does she not deserve to be treated hatefully, but we must weed out negative people that ruin everyone's day. Delete them and block them. We heal our communities one kind word at a time. Hold a door, say thank you, buy someone a coffee, show kindness, and restore our families. We can turn it around one smile, one hug, and forgiveness. But first we pray for direction to heal our land. Things like this deeply hurt kind people that live selfless lives. It should never happen.
ReplyDeleteHilary
I'm so very sad these days. Sending you hugs.
ReplyDeleteI read yesterday's blog (I almost always look at your blog). It didn't seem political to me, just sad about some things that are happening. I should have posted a comment agreeing with what you said. I enjoy reading your blog, hope it keeps going just like it is.
ReplyDeleteHave a fabulous Thanksgiving. I love reading your blog. I appreciate all that you do and quilting has added so much to my life. There will always be a few hateful people. Just don't read posts that are negative.
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You don't do this for free . You have ads, lots of them.
It promotes your books, rulers, etc.
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WhAt you are referring to.
Believe what you want-
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Love to you and your family !!! I am so sorry that someone took the time to be so hurtful. It is such a crazy world that we are currently living in. Please don't let them get you down as you are such an inspiration to sooooo many more. I love to read your blog every day to start out my day, please please never stop :) !!
ReplyDeleteBonnie, I am sooo sorry for what was said to you. You did NOT deserve to be treated so basely.
ReplyDeleteI owe you so much. Your work ethic inspires me to keep plugging away when life overwhelms me. Your cheerful nature (No Whining!) lifts my spirits everytime I visit your blog. Your beautiful quilts, diverse color schemes, and use of neutrals have lured me back into quilting. THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO!
Bonnie, there are always going to be haters! Ignore them. You are such an inspiration to multitudes of people and we so admire, love and appreciate all that you do! You show the goo in the world and give so freely of yourself. Know that there are many here that support and appreciate you! Happy and peaceful Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteAw Bonnie, I am so sorry for hateful comments. I would have thought here, if nowhere else, people wouldn't do that. This is the time we need to show kindness more than ever. Glad you deleted the comments, because the meanness everywhere is really depressing me. Please don't let it get you down. I look forward to your posts & the quilt picture every day. There's more love than hate in this world, unfortunately we are seeing more of the hate right now.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry the comments caused you so much stress. You are so generous in sharing your many gifts. Enjoy your holiday weekend. Peace & Blessings & Love.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry this happened to you. The world is an unsettling place right now. Keep on blogging whatever you want!! I for one love to read ALL of your posts.
ReplyDeleteBonnie, my heart is breaking for you, it feels like someone punched me in the stomach, that those comments were made, I read them and I couldn't believe what I was reading.l Hope you don't stop blogging, I read them everyday, They are inspiring to me, and I feel like you deserve so much better than that. Hugs to you. Your Kitty is so pretty, she's kind of like the one I have! I got my notice yesterday about my ruler being sent, thank you so much! Now onto Friday, I can hardly wait! I will always follow you, to the moon and back, you are an inspiration to me and have helped me "get back into quilting." Love to you and your family for Thanksgiving, heal and rest, and I support whatever you do!
ReplyDeleteDo not let hate stop you from being you! Sending you cyberhugs. I love your blog and your quilts. That pumpkin one is really cute! Enjoy your holiday in Florida. Hope your husband loves his snorkeling trip as much as I did when I was down there a few years ago. Wishing you and your family, including your fur babies, a very Happy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh Bonnie..I didn't see yesterday post or comments but I am so sorry to hear that people are treating you this way. I live in Canada so don't really know a whole lot of what is happening in the US since the election, and I stay away from anything to do with politics when ever I can. In fact I just dealve into quilting sites when there are never ending political posts on facebook, both in Canada and US.
ReplyDeleteI am so thankfull for what you do and I enjoy learning new things from you all the time and I do hope things get better in both Canada and the US, so just know that not everyone is rude and over the top political, there are still some kind and decent people in this world and hopefully things will turn around for the better. I do love your quote for the day, and I hope you can enjoy your Thanksgiving and have a safe trip.
GwenH
Oh, I'm so, so sorry for what you had to go through. The things you wrote about are frightening for all of us - and so is the reaction you received.
ReplyDeleteJust a suggestion, but you might want to consider reporting the incident to the anti-defamation league. They take a dim view of cyberbullying. Here's a link that might help
http://www.adl.org/combating-hate/cyber-safety/c/cyber-safety-action-guide.html
I appreciate all that you do. Please take good care of yourself.
I have another blogger that I follow, and he experienced the same thing. He calls these people 'Nasty Nellies'. Do you remember her, from 'Little House on the Prairie'? She was the town's spoiled bully, thought she was better than everyone else, because of her mother, who ran the town's mercantile, and she used that influence upon the other children in the town and surrounding area. Well, we all have people like that in our lives. Just ignore their nastiness, because the ones that you affect, positively, far outweigh those that are 'Nasty Nellies'! You did the right thing in deleting their comments. Ask God to forgive them for their trespasses against you, and you forgive them... it is the first step to letting go of the hurt they inflicted upon you. It's not you, it's them.
ReplyDeleteI am truly sorry that people can be so negative. I read your blog but I don't always read the comments. Sending love, hugs and a wish for a Happy Thanksgiving with your family. Positive thoughts and prayers for everyone. I am Thankful that you are in our lives and I have learned so much from you. Thank you for the beautiful patterns, quilt cams,classes and all you do.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry you were the target of such nastiness. I love your blog and always get excited when you talk about your vintage machines as I also love them. Rest, relax and enjoy your weekend and take care.
ReplyDeleteHappy Thanksgiving, Bonnie and family. Ignore those internet trolls...they do not speak for the rest of us. We appreciate you and all you do to invigorate the quilting community. Love Trumps Hate! Lisa in Corvallis Oregon!
ReplyDeleteBonnie, my heart aches. I am so sad that you've experienced ugliness for simply talking about acceptance. Please, please don't change or let this situation get you down. You're right. We do need to listen to each other carefully. I, too, was slammed for a similar comment that I posted on Facebook about acceptance. It hurts, but I won't let it stop me from expressing this opinion again.
ReplyDeleteI am a new follower. I just wanted to mention that I am thankful for your generosity and kindness. You share a lot of ideas and methods for free and I very much appreciate it. It makes me sad that there were negative comments after your last post. It's sad how this election has opened up some very ugly realities. However, there are still so many people who show their love to others everyday. It's all we have. It's what we are called to do. Don't listen to the negative words. You're doing the right thing. Your statements were not political. They were morally correct and it will continue to be important for us to stand up for what we know is the right thing in the face of adversity. Be strong. Happy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteDear Bonnie, I hope that you have felt the love and support from all these readers who have had the pleasure of reading about you and all the facets of your life. Do not let those who cannot see or hear change who you are and how you continue to give of yourself. Do not let them win in this not so silent war of intolerance. We all have the right to think as we choose, but that right does not extend to the invasion of ones home with hatefilled words. We all need to remember that this blog, well most blogs, are an extension of the writers home and behave as guests. As you must see by now that you are respected and loved by the majority whose comments reflect yourself back to you. Observation of the changing world that we live in, and how it effects our lives is not a political statement. Those of us the readers who feel the need to express political pros and cons, well there are multitudes of blogs out there where your opinions would be welcomed. It is my personal wish that you and your family have a joyful Thanksgiving and that you go with a heart warmed with the love and good wishes from us your readers.
ReplyDeleteI'm sending you rainy, Pacific NW hugs! Kind words are a lot like scrap quilts, All by themselves, they are nice. Make a quilt out of them, and you really have something fantastic! My Grammy was fond of saying "this too, shall pass". I hope you find a smile today that will warm you through the holidays!
ReplyDeleteGreeting from a old lady of Ohio. Many of us don't stand in picket lines, We don't hate, object or ridicule our neighbors for their fences nor religion...it is called RESPECT. I think that families have have forgotten about how to respect each other. I am sorry that some have upset you...but they are just a few with opinions that have stepped up and out of the closet by the recent world events. Stand proud and keep up the great blog...cause we love what you say and do for us. Happiest Thanksgiving in the warm weather of Fla!
ReplyDeleteI think you just received lots more positive comments than bad so let those outweigh the negative. I totally agreed with that post and sometimes lately I find myself just wanting to get buried in my quilting space and lock out the outside world til they settle down...like a child throwing a tantrum. I like to think that love always wins in the end!
ReplyDeleteWell said Bonnie - don't let them get you down. Your blog, your life, your way! Be happy.
ReplyDeleteSafe travels Bonnie for you and your family. May you have a Happy Thankgiving and be surrounded with lots of family love. Hope Sadie and the cat gets some Thanksgiving treats too.
ReplyDeleteCheers & Blessings to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteSad there are some that just will never get all your most amazing energies.
Thank you for your lectures, books amazing free patterns and all you have done to inspire me!
handcoziejoanne
Thank you for your beautiful blog, I have my browser opening directly to it!! Remember, those of us who found your comments totally acceptable and true did not feel the need to comment! I a constantly amazed at your energy and productivity, and am daily inspired!!
ReplyDeleteBonnie, your kind, gentle, focussed and astute comments over the past two weeks have helped me enormously in gaining perspective and even a kind of optimism. You are one wise woman. Thank you for sharing yourself, your thoughts and your love.
ReplyDeleteCheers to you Bonnie! Just wanted to add my voice to the growing numbers in the support column! Yours is the only blog I follow, I would be so sad to see you change anything about it.
ReplyDeleteHugs from Canada
More hugs your way. Enjoy the holiday with your family and know there are folks out there who appreciate everything you do; people you touch positively every day, and people who you have helped through a really bad day.
ReplyDeleteHi Bonnie, I want you to know I love you blog not just for quilting but for everything you do. Your blog and my other favorite both touch on quilting but cover your daily lives. I love connecting with others and seeing how they spend their time. Please have a wonderful thanksgiving. As my mom would say half of the world will like you so ignore the other half. It is hard but true.
ReplyDeleteEven here in the Netherlands we heart of those neonazis and KKK. Of course you are concerned, so are we hete in Europe, and so am I. It is your blog where you may express your concerns, ofcourse. It is so awkward that some people don't understand the real meaning of freedom of speech. I made a kopy of your loveley yesterdays quote, lets spread love, not hate. Bonnie I hope you will pick up the joy of blogging again, but maybe need a understandeble break first. Wish you all the best, Conny
ReplyDeleteI felt your comments were lovely and I interpreted them absolutely non political. I am thankful for all you give us and teach us. Happy Thanksgiving to you and your family. Enjoy a much deserved time away in Florida. Safe travels!
ReplyDeleteMy go to quote... “Do not let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”
ReplyDelete― Dalai Lama XIV
Peace and Happy Thanksgiving!
Atta, girl! Way to stand up for yourself. And you did it so eloquently, without malice. Good for you! Just hope you know that so many of us love you and appreciate what you do for us.
ReplyDeleteDear Bonnie I read you post yesterday and agree 100 percent it is a scary world out there! Bless you for giving so much to others! And tho a few don't appreciate all you do there are thousands others who do! Have a blessed and restful thanksgiving and I will see you in the blog ready to start En Provence on Friday! Enjoy the beach your hubs and your brief break! Hugs from Iowa
ReplyDeleteYou choose love, choose hope and faith as well.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you, love each other! You said it so well yesterday. I was surprised to hear that people had commented so horribly on that post.
ReplyDeleteI know you are loved and appreciated for all you do on this blog, by so many people. Try not to let a few bad apples spoil your mood!
Wishing you a peaceful, safe and Happy Thanksgiving!
You send love, genorosity, laughter, lessons and much of yourself around the world, 99.5% comes straight back to you in appreciation, let the dud 5% drop into the sea as unwanted rubbish. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving among family and friends
ReplyDeleteKlan got ya nervous? Nazi salute make you squirm? Stand your ground,sis. People of conscience on both sides find these acts reprehensible. You will know them by their actions. People object to your First Amendment rights (it is YOUR blog)? Stand your ground, sis. I wish you all the best whatever you decide, but being who you are and speaking your truth (even if your voice shakes) is far more important than the din of the rabble. Always speak truth to power! Good for you!
ReplyDeleteYou are dearly loved by this group of ladies. Spreading the love and kindness that you do on a daily bases is uplifting to me and I know other people. God expects us to show love to all people and we should expect the same in return. Please know that I respect you and your blog and what you have done and doing for this group of wonderful ladies. The others are not worth your time or energy. God knows the truth and your heart, let that prevail through this and the love that He gives us on a daily basis.
ReplyDeleteDear Bonnie, I too am sorry you were exposed to hateful comments for no reason. Please do not stop blogging, there are so many of us who reach out to you each day. Take a break while you are in Florida on vacation, enjoy your Thanksgiving with your husband and forget about all of us for a while. We love you and would miss you very much. In the end you do what you need to do for your own peace of mind. Take care
ReplyDeleteBonnie, First have yourself a wonderful Thanksgiving. Second if you are in Orlando, look me up. We could make it a great weekend and you would go home smiling. These are trying times and a lot of us are hurt on both sides of this divide. I am refusing to change as others have done. I am too old to start over so my friends are stuck with me as I am. Blog on!
ReplyDeleteBonnie , I am deeply sorry to hear that there were those who felt they had the right to bash you for things you have said , you were in my opinion just telling people we need to love one another that the fighting must stop. I guess it is unfortunate but there are those who don't think before they speak , not realizing what they say they can't take back and those words can deeply hurt someone . We always taught our boys to think of it like a tube of toothpaste, once you squeeze it out there is no putting it back . It is the same with words . God Bless you and have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your family. I for one appreciate all you share with each of us . Hugs Sheila
ReplyDeleteBonnie
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that others have chosen to use words of hurt and shame. I have always listed you on my gratitude list because your generous spirit lifts me during hard times. Today before I turned on my computer I actually was putting the borders on Celtic Solstice and two days ago finished the binding on last year's mystery. I have my colors pulled for this year's mystery and I am so happy to be part of the loving gift you are poised to share. My little sister adopted two children out of foster care and now faces LGBT challenges with one. She has been hurt on social media sites and we spoke yesterday about the pain others enjoy inflicting on innocents. Thank you for the years of quilting happiness I have found on your blog.
Oh Bonnie, so sad that people feel the need to lash out at you. Take this time with your hubby to rest and relax, most of us that follow you appreciate all the time and talent you share with us.
ReplyDeleteDEAR BONNIE
ReplyDeletePLEASE PLEASE do not stop what you do , you are loved and appreciated by so many , so many of us live through you vicariously , on your travels your lifes journey , your are so much more than a quilting teacher, blog, friend even though we may never meet, you bring joy to so many, across oceans, around the world and through this worn country, you patch us together, just as a quilt.. YOU ARE appreciated and LOVED
Sincerely
Cheris Fabrix N More
@ The Spot in Matagorda Texas
I sincerely hope that the hundreds of comments pouring in here and on Facebook help to lift your spirits and restore your faith that the vast majority of your followers truly appreciate everything you do. It's unfortunate that otherwise rational people have become increasingly mean-spirited in recent months and seem to have lost their sense of decorum. I hope that you can enjoy a deep breath of salty air and sunshine in Florida and put the ugly sentiments behind you. Thank you for all that you do and Happy Thanksgiving!
ReplyDeleteHappy Thanksgiving! Love reading WHATEVER you post!
ReplyDeleteBonnie, thank you for your service to those of us in the quilting community. Whether quilters or admirers you serve us well. Happy Thanksgiving!!
ReplyDeleteI love your tender heart so much. Wish I could give you a big hug in person right now. I hope that some time away heals some of the hurt. And kudos to you for setting firm limits to what you'll allow in your "house" here on your blog.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sad to read your blog today, so sad that people have made you feel this way. What you have said about your blog being you is absolutely right. Nobody is obliged to read what you say. But I like to read what you write and so often you bring me a little cheer with your wonderful optimism. Please don't let the dark side get to you. Have a wonderful, relaxed Thanksgiving weekend with your family.
ReplyDeleteBonnie......I wish I could just hug you. After what you went through, a hug (or 3) would be great. So I will send a "virtual hug" and hope, after all these positive comments, that you can see the majority of people who love you send a virtual hug as well. Being used badly hurt really bad, but please let all these well-wishers and lovers of your giving, gentle heart, heal you. Thanksgiving is a time of giving thanks, and I think we ALL give thanks for you and all you do! Bless your heart, Bonnie!
ReplyDeleteHave a good Thanksgiving and get rested. I don't know how you do all that you do. Thank you for deleting inappropriate comments to save the rest of your followers from having to see them. This type of comment seems to happen sometimes (any of them happening is too many, I know). Remember that likely 99.99 % of your followers will not do this. Don't let the .01 % ruin blogging for you. You are the most generous designer I know. I also know it takes a lot of positive responses to overcome a bad one.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for the people that were so mean. it takes a lot of years to learn to keep your mouth shut, some people never learn. God Bless you & your family during this holiday season. Love all you do, Bonnie
ReplyDeleteBlessings on you and your family. May you find comfort and peace during this Thanksgiving time.
ReplyDeleteBonnie, my first comment on your blog. I had to write it because speaking out against hate is something any right-thinking person should do in general, but especially now with the situation in our country. It is truly frightening. Thank you for speaking out and even more for calling out all the secret fascists who wrap themselves in the American flag. They are horrifying. I'm reminded of a famous quote.
ReplyDeleteFirst they came for the Jews
and I did not speak out
because I was not a Jew.
Then they came for the Communists
and I did not speak out
because I was not a Communist.
Then they came for the trade unionists
and I did not speak out
because I was not a trade unionist.
Then they came for me
and there was no one left
to speak out for me.
---Pastor Martin Niemoller
Never forget that we love you Bonnie. You give more of yourself than anyone I know. Enjoy your Thanksgiving in Florida. This is our first since we moved to Florida. Very much looking forward to your mystery. Thank you for all you do for us.
ReplyDeleteHugs!!
Bonnie, you are sweet and loving person. You share so much of yourself and your care for others is seen here everyday. I'm wishing you a wonderful thanksgiving with your family. Thank you for all you share with us!
ReplyDeleteHappy Thanksgiving to you Bonnie and your family. Sage travels, enjoy your time with family and friends.
ReplyDeleteThank you Bonnie for all you do for us fellow quilters. You are a blessing. You have a wonderful passion for quilting and teaching. Also thank you for sharing so many free quilt patterns and teaching us to use all those scraps that seem to multiply over night.
Thank you so very much for being you. ♡
So many of us appreciate your gentle and generous heart, and we're appalled that some would use your blog to attack you and defend the wickedness that is racism. I'm so proud of you for calling it out, for standing up for goodness. May your soul find healing and strength in this Thansgiving season!
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure that I can say anything different from the other statements from today, but I do want to assure you that there still are kind, loving, courteous people in this world. I can only imagine your hurt and frustration at remarks made by those that don't match my description above. Please don't let those feelings linger too long as many of us look forward to reading your blog posts just the way they are. Thank you for your honesty and willingness to mentor soooo many of us.
ReplyDeleteWow I am loving the comments, this is the place to come read "nice words" if ever you need them. I follow you so because I enjoy what you do and have to say and I am guilty of not telling you that.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy your away Thanksgiving it surely will be different and hoping it will be a good enjoyable different
Oh Bonnie, I wish I could wrap my arms around you and give big you a heartfelt quilty hug!! I love reading about your life, all that you share with us on your blog. As you said it is like you are inviting us into your home as your guest. There is a protocol for how you behave as a guest and when they do not abide by the rules the rest of the world follow then they should be removed and not invited back.
ReplyDeleteYou are such a kind, caring, giving, talented quilter, mother, wife, friend. Unfortunately it is the hurtful comments that are like daggers to our hearts, there was nothing political in anything you said. I am not a political person however I fail to comprehend how people can be so hateful, to strike out and be so mean to you. I definitely don't get how they can take that hate to violence as a group towards total strangers because of something they cannot control.
Enjoy your long weekend in Florida. Relax, do what brings you joy, eat and drink what you enjoy with people you care about. Thank you for all your being to the quilting community and all you share of your life with us.
oh Bonnie dear, my life wouldn't be the same without you!! Please know you have a loving loyal following. I can't wait to get started on your next mystery, I've done them all! Love,
ReplyDeleteBeryl in Utah
Too bad these people don't know about your no whining rules! I had to do this on my "30 days of thanks post that was also in no way political. Keep doing what you are doing because the rest of us realize it's your space you can do whatever you want with it!
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry some of the uglies of the world chose to spray you with their venom. You do so much, for so many people, that you don't deserve that. Please know that there are many quilters who love you and appreciate that you share your quilting and your life on your blog. Bless you for your kindness and may you find healing from undeserved hatefulness.
ReplyDeleteI'm horrified that anyone would feel like they have the right to slam you for anything you say on your blog. I'm not quite sure when it became acceptable to people to spew their opinions and hate to anyone and everyone while hiding behind a keyboard. Your blog is the first one I check every day. I appreciate your views and quotes of inspiration. The horrible things that were said to you are uncalled for and are just one more thing that makes me horrified at the world we live in. I hope that you are able to shrug off the hatred and view those people for the horrible trolls they are. You are a very loved member of my world even though I've never had the opportunity to know you in person. I hope you have a safe and happy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteHugs!
Sandy Narayan
Pfffttt...stupid people. Or as the son of one of friends would say...Poo Poo Heads! Your house is your house, you can say and do anything you want. People should respect that, however respect is a word foreign to many people now adays. I am blessed to have your blog, your mystery, your vast knowledge of all things quilting and the truly amazing majority of women who are a part of this journey. The haters should take their hate somewhere else! BTW....I have changed my mind soooo many times about my fabrics for they mystery that the island in the kitchen is overflowing with fabric! How am I going to make Thanksgiving around the mess I've made??? Ahhh...solution...go out!!! Lol
ReplyDeletePfffttt...stupid people. Or as the son of one of friends would say...Poo Poo Heads! Your house is your house, you can say and do anything you want. People should respect that, however respect is a word foreign to many people now adays. I am blessed to have your blog, your mystery, your vast knowledge of all things quilting and the truly amazing majority of women who are a part of this journey. The haters should take their hate somewhere else! BTW....I have changed my mind soooo many times about my fabrics for they mystery that the island in the kitchen is overflowing with fabric! How am I going to make Thanksgiving around the mess I've made??? Ahhh...solution...go out!!! Lol
ReplyDeleteIt is so hard to get past hurtful words and deeds. I hope you realize you do way more good for peoples lives than you know. The number of comments on your Blog testify to that. You bring so much excitement to people with your Mystery Quilts, books and sharing of your patterns.
ReplyDeleteHave a wonderful get-a-way and remember there are more supporters than the one or two who try to bring you down.
I am so sorry that people slammed you for what I considered a perfect statement to show kindness. May your Thanksgiving fill your heart with peace.
ReplyDeleteThank you for speaking up and taking a stand against hatred. If we ignore things like the KKK marches they become normalized and accepted. We must never let that happen. Have a peaceful Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteDearest Bonnie, you choose love over hate. Apparently (I didn't see the comments but can imagine) some choose hate over love. Please do not let hate win out and silence your love. Some of us appreciate all that you have given so freely. I've only been with you a year but I have enjoyed the encouragement you and your readers have given to myself and others. I reread what you said about your concerns and you are right, they were not political. Please put this out of your mind and enjoy your thanksgiving and know that some of us are thankful for your blog.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry you were subjected to such hatefulness in such a public way. Most of these uglies stay in the shadows but unfortunately more and more they are making themselves visible. To me they have hidden agendas that are reminiscent of Germany. Please do not let them win with their hateful words and change who you are. They thrive on disorder and empty words. They deserve to be "deleted" so delete away. Being a third generation American of Hispanic heritage, I have been subjected to similar trash since forever and I will never let them win. So sorry they are in the quilting world - shame on them. A faithful and forever fan.
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Bonnie, I am new to your blog, but wanted to express my support to you and yours. Thank you for continuing to post about ALL of your life, including the quilting. Thank you for being stern with those that took an opportunity to lambast you in your home. I am grateful for you and am sending hugs!
ReplyDeleteSorry Bonnie I feel your hurt. I hope your Thanksgiving is wonderful. Looking forward to Clue 1. Sandi
ReplyDeleteHappy Thanksgiving, Bonnie!! Hugs to you for all you do for us! I honestly don't know how you keep the schedule you keep and still manage to do what you do...at no cost to us!! Yes, this is your blog and you can say what you want...those who don't like it or don't agree with it can keep scrolling. A quilter should know better! Most of us wouldn't be where we are in our quilting journey if it weren't for you....I certainly know I wouldn't. This is my first mystery and I'm looking so forward to the first clue!!! We love you!!!
ReplyDeleteBonnie,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry to hear and read about the responses of small minded and essentially hateful people to your wonderful message. The lack of common courtesy and respect for others is truly distressing. You are a wonderful, caring, kind and compassionate member of the human race and deserve to be treated as such. I truly do not understand the motivation of those that perceive everything as an attack on them personally. Please enjoy your Holidays and please keep posting, the world needs as many points of light as it can get and you, dear lady, are one of the brightest.
With deepest respect and warmest regard,
Tom
After our Brexit vote in the UK things got ugly for a while. They probably still are in some places. There is no accounting for peoples bigotry or their need to voice their opinions. It hasn't been on the news here (that I have seen) about the marches in the US. Sad times in the world. All the rest of us can do is hold our balanced perspective and unite. Hugs xxx
ReplyDeleteoh, darlin'... Breathe... just breathe... I wish you had blocked those who challenged you and your words... please don't allow these nay-sayers to change who you are and what you do!!! The large percentage of us are grateful to you and for your contribution to our lives... concentrate on us and just LOOK at all the comments! You do not deserve to be treated poorly, really none of us deserve vitriol, and bashing... I got my notice that my order had shipped today... doing the snoopy happy dance... I've already got my ruler and your latest book! I just hadda have more, so orderd 3 more to build my library... as if just the abundance you post on your many sites isn't enough... hugs and thanks... focus on we who adore you and pour our love into your bruised psyche... no need to pay attention (why DO we?) to the negatives... Love, from the MomCat
ReplyDeleteSo Sorry to read what happened! I re-read yesterday's post, as I didn't remember reading anyting offensive or political. There isn't anything!!! You shared your feelings, period! Many more people in this world love and appreciate what you do and your blog is an important part of my reading on the internet. God bless you and your's on Thanksgiving! and thanks for all you do!
ReplyDeleteBonnie, first I want to thank you for all you do, and give and give and GIVE to so many people you don't even know! Please don't let the small-minded turkeys get you down, you are much loved and appreciated. Have a great Thanksgiving, and above all don't stop "doing you."
ReplyDeleteHi Bonnie!
ReplyDeleteI very rarely comment on your blog, but today I felt I needed to. Just to add another voice saying that you are appreciated. I am very thankful for your blog, that you have chosen to share your writing and quilting and joy of life with us.
I hope you can bring yourself to continue. As you said, we need more love, respect, and acceptance in the world, not less. And the hateful people would very much like us to be quiet. To not be quiet is the best thing we can do, I think. Many small voices together making a big statement of love.
I don't know anything about what happened but I believe the good outweigh the bad... hoping you stay and praying for you. You are like me and take things personal (to heart). Some people don't know when to keep "quiet". God bless you, a friend that's a quilter, too. Diane
ReplyDeleteThis Thanksgiving, I am especially thankful for YOU and your ability to blog and share your thoughts and talents. You are the bright spot in my day!
ReplyDeleteThank you Bonnie!
Just want to add my voice and say I'm sorry you were attacked in this way. Hope you (and all of us) can have a peaceful Thanksgiving, whether it's with family or not. Hope we can all celebrate and appreciate the many good things in our country and emerge on Friday morning ready to be vigilant in opposing those who would inject hate and ugliness into our country.
ReplyDeleteI, like others have re read the blog and went-"what?" I didn't see anything political in it either. Just for us to stop the hate. Which we need to do. I am thankful for the FB group where no one is allowed to post any of that. I think we all get enough of it already, and have for the last year and a half! Just think, if these people are like this here, what their friends and relatives have to hear all the time. But just know that there are more of us out here that appreciate your opinions and good thoughts and all the things you do and only a few odd balls that have to wreck it for everyone, which is always the case...always. Because of the few, is why we have rules, and laws, because we cannot govern ourselves. Your circus, and most of us are your monkeys! Love what you do, and you should be able to say anything you want on YOUR blog.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that others chose to hijack your blog to spread their own messages of hate. Shame on them. Everything you said was EXACTLY what I would say -- we DO need to look at the good in others, and be positive, uplifting and kind to each other. I am sure I speak for many others who would say what you share is appreciated and is shared with kindness and love. Our world can be a cruel and hateful place sometimes, and we DO need to speak out about it or we are condoning it. God bless you for your loving kindnesses to all of us, and I am sorry others chose to lash out at you for nothing other than being the positive, loving and supportive person you are. Deb E
ReplyDeleteSo sorry to hear about the response to your post yesterday. I am always so grateful for all you do. Take care
ReplyDeleteSo sorry. A wise lady once told me never get into a battle of the wits with a unarmed person. Unfortunately for all of those hate filled people no amount of kindness and love will ever fill them up. It doesn't mean the rest of us don't need and appreciate what you have to offer.
ReplyDeleteSafe travels and happy Thanksgiving. Enjoy yourself and refuse to let those with evil intent bring you down. Use the delete key as your power tool. Can't wait for Friday!
ReplyDeleteI have never posted here before but your post made me sad for the world we live in. I wish you peace this holiday,although it is not easy to find and want you to know that your gifts are appreciated by many. Ellen
ReplyDeleteBlessings for a Peaceful Thanksgiving Holiday! Turn off the World for a Day, it's fine. There are MORE people who Love you for who you are. I'm grateful to be one of them!
ReplyDeleteHave a blessed Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteAnd don't give those who are haters power over
you......you will love and give as you always do
no matter how others behave.That is how I lead my life no matter
how I am treated, you can't turn me into a hater, I am
at peace with myself and try to be generous in all ways that I can.
Hugs and a peaceful holiday season.
Dearest Bonnie,
ReplyDeleteDo not allow those choosing ugliness to harm your giving kind spirit. You are loved, appreciated and an inspiration to thousands. Scrappiness is now beauty in my eyes because of you; I am working on Wanderlust right now. My family is blessed with beautiful quilts because of you.
I missed yesterday but I'm so sorry people were awful. There's a whole lot of us who are praying for kindness to prevail. You're a light in my little world and you're appreciated. Happy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that people were rude and hurt you. I almost never comment but I couldn't let this one slide. You have a wonderful blog, I never miss it. You have made me a MUCH better quilter and I am honored to be let into your life every day. Please don't stop blogging. You can't stop the haters (which is what you were hoping to do) you just have to carry on and be the best person you can be. That is what all of us need to do - be the best we can be every day. Sadly, some people's best just falls way short.
ReplyDeleteIt's early Thursday morning here in Sydney Australia and, as usual, I have just read your blog while having my breakfast. I was gobsmacked when I read today's post and had to re-read yesterday's entry to see what caused all the furore. Yes, there it was, nothing was changed - a message of love. Nothing political. I am so sorry that you have been treated so badly and am stunned that the perpetrators are quilters. Like you, I never make political statements on social media, although at times I have been sorely tempted! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and wipe all that nastiness from your memory banks - these people are not worth the time of day.
ReplyDeleteI am always amazed at the ugliness I see online, sometimes from people I know to be good people, like some of my relatives on Facebook! I swearthere is something about computers that drive people to be their worst. I delete them and move on, but have found it not worth the effort to acknowledge them. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. peace, love and aloha. ( aloha means more than hello and goodbye)
ReplyDeleteJust want you to know that your life, blog and all that you give freely means so much to me! It has all been said in the previous comments. Hugs, prayers and good wishes to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteBeing a blogger is an act of bravery. You put yourself out there and hope people will appreciate what you write/create. If people don't like a quilt design, you wouldn't expect them to send you rude remarks. Yet, they feel OK to do that with what you write. It makes no sense. Keep doing what you're doing. Light always defeats darkness. Your creations are part of your life and people need to respect that. Your art brings beauty and joy to the world.
ReplyDeleteJust want you to know that your life, blog and all that you give freely means so much to me! It has all been said in the previous comments. Hugs, prayers and good wishes to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteJust want you to know that your life, blog and all that you give freely means so much to me! It has all been said in the previous comments. Hugs, prayers and good wishes to you and your family.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry for the mean comments. It wasn't political, and, even if it had been, you, and everyone else has a right to their opinions, and, shouldn't be slammed for them. My mother taught me that 'if you can't say something nice, don't say anything.' I try to stick with that, and don't comment when someone says something I don't like. You have real fears, and commented on them. Your fears (and everyone else's) should be respected, not condemned. Hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving. I'm praying for everyone in our country to learn how to get along with each other, despite differing opinions.
ReplyDeleteOh Bonnie! Sounds like I missed the drama, fortunately. I read your blog from yesterday looking for some sort of fire starter and didn't see one. I can't imagine what some folks must have read into it that wasn't there. Please let it roll off because it appears that some folks may just be looking for a fight. I and 1000's others love what you do and they way you share it. God's Blessings and Happy Thanksgiving Miss Bonnie.
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ReplyDeleteDear Bonnie, I am deeply saddened that people attacked you on your own blog. My heart is breaking for you. I certainly can't say it as eloquently as others have but please know that what weighs heavy on your mind/heart is weighing heavily on mine as well. These events you referred to need to be acknowledged, talked about and fought against. You bring so much joy to so many of us in the quilting world. Looking forward to the joyous time surrounding the annual mystery quilt. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
ReplyDeleteBonnie---
ReplyDeleteYou are a light. Your love of life and mankind and with your love of quilting mixed in. We are in a war on every level in our world today and as painful or hurtful we can not let the darkness of those individuals stop our light of love stop shining. You are in control of your blog and what you allow said use the button and keep the darkness out of your joy. If you give up even the tiniest piece of your light they win and won't stop there. Let your light shine through. Thank you for you.
Bonnie, I am rather new to the group. Don't let a few bad apples spoil the group for everyone else. I read that post and there were no political views in it. The types of people who left their rude comments are sad, pathetic people looking for someone to bash.
ReplyDeletePlease know that you are a better person than they will ever be. You have a successful blog with many followers and they probably have few friends. God bless you and your family this Thanksgiving season. Enjoy your time in FL and soak up the SON from above.
Sorry to hear you being shouted down too. I read yesterday post and you didn't deserve what you received in return. When I saw this post I thought what did I miss so I went back to the post and I hadn't missed anything. Enjoy Florida and Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteBonnie, I am so sorry that this has happened to you. It is so important that good people throughout the world continue to spread the message of unity, love and respect for all and, as you say, we quilters have the perfect medium to be able to do that. I so enjoy your blog and your wonderful smile. Please continue to be who you are and do what you do. There are so many of us who are very grateful! From New Zealand
ReplyDeleteBonnie, I am so sorry that this has happened to you. It is so important that good people throughout the world continue to spread the message of unity, love and respect for all and, as you say, we quilters have the perfect medium to be able to do that. I so enjoy your blog and your wonderful smile. Please continue to be who you are and do what you do. There are so many of us who are very grateful! From New Zealand
ReplyDeleteThere's a whole lot of hate that has bubbled up out there in the real world, it doesn't belong anywhere, but most of all not on your blog. I'm so sorry to hear this happened to you. We're all just people, black, white, Muslim or purple - we all just need to get along. Enjoy your Thanksgiving - eat lots of turkey and too much pie! Lois
ReplyDeleteThank you Bonnie for all that you do. Like you said you don't just share quilting, you share you and that is brave. I don't like that a few bad apples ruin the bunch. Bonnie does so much in the quilting world. Shares and creates for us and for herself. From people that think it's ok to ignore copyright and those that just want to complain is enough to make her want to give all this up. This isn't the first time Bonnie has expressed those feelings. I too want to design but the blatant copyright violations is enough to cause me to rethink sharing my creativity with the quilting world. Like our parents told us and we tell our kids, if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say it.
ReplyDeleteFacing similar issues on my own blog. If you stop blogging your thoughts, they win. Let your peace be stronger. And write for me to enjoy. Because I feel like I know you from your words.
ReplyDeleteBonnie, you probably won't see this because there are so many comments already. But I just wanted to say that I have always liked your blog just the way it is. Please don't change.
ReplyDeleteNo, you did not say anything at all political, but even if you had, this is YOUR blog and is the place to express YOUR thoughts and feelings.
I don't know what gets into people, but I wonder if it isn't a feeling of entitled consumerism. Maybe they think that personal blogs are a product or service that only exists for their consumption. And like a customer of other products, they feel entitled to complain when things don't suit them perfectly. The thing is, your blog is not a product. It's a generous sharing of your life and your love of quilting.
So as tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day, I just want to say thank you for everything you do for us. I hope you'll have a very good weekend.
When I woke to read your blog this morning I couldn't believe there were 315 comments, then I read your blog I was astounded that you were 'attacked' for your previous post. It is bewildering and frightening how people can misinterpret what you said. It is evident Bonnie that you are loved across the world. Although at times like this it is, 'easier said than done' try and forget the hurtful comments and focus on the love and virtual cuddles you have received from your global family. X
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry some people felt it necessary to slam you for sharing your feelings about some of the things going on in our country today. I read a few of the comments before you got to them and I was just shaking my head over what some think they NEED to say.
ReplyDeleteAll I can say is forget about the nasty people and enjoy your Thanksgiving with the hubby in Florida.
Thank you for all you share with us. I've saved a bunch of your free patterns to make "someday" and have made several of your wonderful mystery patterns.....though by the time I get around to them they are no longer mysteries. :)
Bonnie, living in Australia means I miss so much Facebook drama, but when I saw that comments had been turned off, my heart sank a little knowing that there must have been strong cause. So much of the responses through my non-quilting blog and Facebook feeds have been exactly where you are - in times like this, we need more love and kindness. Not less.
ReplyDeleteYou have been on this track overtly all year, using quotes that encourage best selves in daily blog posts.
But I also want to say (and not just because I strongly believe the personal is political), this is your blog, your space, your voice. It is your choice what you say, and if you ever do want to be political, you don't need permission or forgiveness from any one of us who choose to be here in your space.
Enjoy your thanksgiving. Having visited USA a couple times, and having a daughter who has spent quite some time in the states, you guys really know how to 'do' holidays. I hope you also feel the love and respect emanating from all these comments and they help cushion the hurt, and strengthen your resolve even further.
Bonnie, I just wanted to reach out in love and solidarity. What is going on around us is appalling amd vicious. I support you I keeping a hate-free policy. It is only humane. One of my spiritual teachers in about to do a class on "owning your power in powerless times" (I am a first time commenter and your work is so soothing and kind--thank you)
ReplyDelete"Dark times lie ahead of us and there will be a time when we must choose between what is easy and what is right."
-Albus Dumbledore
Bonnie, with all the comments above me, I do not expect you to read mine. My stomach hurts because of what I read in this post. How dare anyone treat you like that???? You are one of the most wonderful, giving, loving, fun and beautiful people in this world. And kindness?? Uh, not being kind just is what you do!!! You should not have to think about it! Example for you: My daugher just had her 25th birthday the other day, and on the way to work, she bought her team coffee and donuts and got to the meeting with her treats and said (love this!! - people do not know how to take it!!!) "It's my BIRTHDAY!!!! Look what I got you!!!!) - and then laughed when they all look stunned and explained to her that it is HER birthday, she is supposed to be getting gifts, not giving them!!! But, this is the fun of being kind - it makes everyone laugh and spreads joy, and lady, YOU SPREAD JOY!!!!!!! I love how you talk, your patterns (I have made a house block with a snowman looking out the window waiting for the snow to come back as he is living in the air conditioned house..... makes me laugh everytime I see him. Yes, I made him this summer!!) and it is all because of you. You stand tall and talk your truth. Bonnie, I live in Canada and what you wrote about would scare me too. I have lived very sheltered life and even hearing about the violence that is happening here more often then before really bothers me. But, this is not the time for more sad/bad/negative talk!!! WE are moving on and making magic - you are going to have a fantastic trip, enjoy your big meal and not worry about anything but loving your family and friends that are surrounding you. And just know, you are loved by many others who you have not even met before - but loved non the less!!!! huge hugs. And keep your needles sharp! XO
ReplyDeleteI love you Bonnie and all you bring to us! I love your mystery's that you share with all of us during the holiday season. I have had a hard time with the holidays but now I look forward to them and have found the spirit again. This year is even better my mom will be joining in on the mystery and that will bring us closer together and things to share. We live in different states and she is also a quilter. I wish you and your family and very Happy Thanksgiving!
ReplyDeleteI found you quiet by accident a couple years ago. I love your blog. We are the same age, yet you are so well traveled. I enjoy reading and learning from you. I appreciate how much you share, and how much we have in common. I have found that bypassing the negative makes me feel better. I wish there was a way to filter out those who bring us down. Don't stop sharing. Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours.
ReplyDeleteBonnie I think we are just alike. Well, except you are taller, younger, more fit, more active, more productive, more organized, more talented, more social, and more generous. I read both yesterday’s and today’s posts and I agree with you and feel you were wise and heartfelt. I know I was very angry on your behave. Today, I have retreated to my sewing room, telling myself not to engage in anyone else’s negativity. Take heart in all the positive comments. Know that you have done so much you have already earned a place in quilt history books.
ReplyDeleteDear Bonnie it is Thanksgiving here in Australia. I was raised in Worcester Ma. With the history of founding fathers and tollerence for all. I was horrified to read today's post. Please know that the vast majority of us respect and love you for your generosity and joy you inspire us with ALL THE TIME.
ReplyDeleteStitch till your soul is content.
The day after the election you wrote a wonderful post that started me on the path to peace of mind. It was kind and loving and NEUTRAL!
ReplyDeleteI absolutely support you in your belief that you are in charge of your own life and will not be dictated to. Please don't let a few bad apples change your sweet and loving nature and your opinion of the vast majority of us who accept you just as you are.
Bonnie: so sorry for the hateful comments and the hurt you are feeling. I hope you know that these are not "your people" and certainly not the majority of quilters and other readers who enjoy and appreciate all you give to the quilting world. It's tough putting yourself out there on social media and sometimes people can be cruel. I try not to take it personally and just delete those types of comments, but they can hurt. Just keep your head up, ignore and get rid of the negative and keep on sharing your knowledge and humour. We all appreciate you. ❤️
ReplyDeleteSo sorry that you were treated like that. I never thought what you said was political. Everyone is alound their opinion. You are a very special person and I hope you don't change for what a few posted. I hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving and enjoy your get away with hubby. Thank you for all you do for all of us.
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ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that you got slammed for expressing views of love vs. hate. We should always choose love but in these troubled times we do need to be vigilant and not let hate take over our country. Keep on quilting. I love your sense of humor and the beautiful quilts you share with us.
Bonnie, thank YOU for all you do ... which answers your question of Why do I continue to do this? You do this because it is coming straight from your heart, your huge heart, for those of us that get such inspiration from you. The sad part, especially for me, is that those who are inspired do not always show it or flaunt it loudly to you!!! I am so grateful for you and I vow today to make sure that I tell those that make a difference in my life just how much I appreciate them. I APPRECIATE YOU, YOUR HUGE HEART AND YOUR INSPIRATION TO ME!!! Have a restful, thankful Thanksgiving!!! I look forward to your next blog!!!!
ReplyDelete(((((Hugs))))) Bonnie from across the pond. Sadly it seems that 2016 has brought the vileness that was simmering under the surface to the open air on both sides of the Atlantic and indeed further away. All we can do is continue to share love, kindness, respect and compassion with an aim to outnumbering the nastiness xxxx
ReplyDeleteSo sad to hear that there continue to be small-minded people who believe that their opinions are more important than than yours - or those of anyone else. And that they think they need to express them on a public platform rather than privately, which would be bad enough. No one's opinion is more valid than that of anyone else. My Mom said that if you can't say anything nice, then don't say anything at all. I wish everyone could live by this philosophy. You have the power to ignore those who who try to read things into what you say that simply aren't there. Your heart is good and your soul is pure. I always enjoy reading about what's happening in your life and appreciate your willingness to share the fun that you're having along the way. Keep up the great work!!
ReplyDeleteLove your blog Bonnie. Ignore the others they have their views however they are not your or mine. Happy Thanksgiving
ReplyDeleteBtw what's your kitty called?
Bonnie Hunter I truly appreciate your generosity as a teacher, and your commitment to the common ground and community building that quilting, by its very nature, provides. I appreciate your positive attitude and commitment to spreading love rather than fear, and hope that that is your big take away from your blog today and always - that you are appreciated by lots and lots of people.
ReplyDeleteDavid J. Pollay's saying helps me - if I can remember to remember it! "Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they look for a place to dump it. And if you let them, they’ll dump it on you. So when someone wants to dump on you, don’t take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Believe me. You’ll be happier. ~ David J. Pollay
Hugs and Happy Thanksgiving!
ReplyDeleteI missed yesterday and I'm so sorry anything you said would be met with such a reaction. Please enjoy yourself with your family and, I hope, most of us are wishing everyone a Happy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteJust to add my name to the well-wishers. Please don't stop doing what you do because then hate wins. Enjoy your Thanksgiving holiday. Take some time to regroup, and then come back to us renewed and refreshed. We love you.
ReplyDeleteMy goodness Bonnie, what is going on in your country? I am British, horrified at the thought of Donald Trump and even mor horrified at the powers of darkness he seems to have unleashed. Please continue to be YOU, quilting, sharing your patterns, Quilt cams, your photos of Workshops and the insight into your life. God help those people who upset you with their vitriolic comments. Delete them from your heart as well as your blog! God bless.
ReplyDeleteBonnie, I will give you a piece of my heart to mend your broken one š.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry you received such hate. I did not see the comments that were hateful but I a, still sorry. You are a blessing sor so many all over the world. I only discovered you and your wonderful journal that you share so freely a year ago. In that year I have discovered wonderful quilt patterns and more importantly I've connected with some wonderful people from all over the world' I could not have done that without you. I am truly sorry someone/people have made you loose faith in your followers. May the time away in FL recharge you and perhaps the outpouring of love I've seen here and on Face Book will restore your faith. Happy Thanksgiving dear.
ReplyDeleteHugs Bonnie. And thank you for all that you do. š
ReplyDeleteDear Bonnie, I am so sorry about what happened! Don't let it get you down!
ReplyDeleteWe love you! You know!
We are a community of gracefull and loving quilters from all over the globe.We don't bow for terrorisme, hate or discrimination!
We will always support eachother!
Please, have a great weekend! Enjoy your family and friends (and our loving comments.... <3 ...)
And please... leave these people behind you; they are not worth it!
Love from this side of the globe! So looking forward to Friday!!
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Bonnie, I am so sorry that you had to deal with that ugliness. This is your platform and if people don't like it, then they need to move on. I had to deal with that kind of thing on my facebook page before the election, just for posting a different opinion or just something else to ponder. I never realized that the people who I considered my friends and who I had worked with for years could be so judgemental and just ugly. People seem to feel emboldened to say anything at all while hiding behind a computer screen. They never would have the nerve to say it to your face. Respect and positivity seem to be gone. You keep being you! And I love this site, your thoughts and your help. I am still new to quilting and am so glad that I found you!
ReplyDeletePrayers for you Bonnie that you will remain strong in your commitment to share your kindness and love with others and for others. Prayers that you will be able to shed the hurtful comments that were directed to you. I don't read all your blogs as I simply don't have time. That being said, I felt I must reply and be supportive of you. Be well and carry on Bonnie. You are loved by many.
ReplyDeleteOh Bonnie, unfortunately there are some people that just have to speak, and don't think about the impact their words have. You have many supporters and a wonderful family. Take some days to enjoy time with the hubster. I know the hurt you are feeling. We love you. Happy Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteI know how you feel. This recently happened to me on another platform. People are cowards when it comes to posting because they wouldn't dare say mean things to our faces. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.
ReplyDeleteBonnie, I am so sorry for the rude comments you received. I read your post and there was nothing political about it. Know that you are much loved and appreciated by most of the folks who read your blog. I think the problem is that so many people are just plain scared and instead of just saying nothing are lashing out. Prayers for you and your family. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving. Looking forward to Friday!
ReplyDeleteIt's not just you my friend - I choose love as well. Many many are terminating friendships and relationships after political opinions come to the forefront. People unfollowing and unfriending each other because a nerve has been suddenly struck. Deleting the comments was the right thing to do. I can't imagine after what I've seen on social media. Please give thought to those of us that are looking forward to your mystery just to get away from it all. The quiet ones are the ones that love and pray for you most. Blessings for you!
ReplyDeleteI am sorry that people have treated you like this Bonnie. There is absolutely no excuse for their behavior. I hope you and your husband have a safe trip to Florida and have a wonderful Thanksgiving. I so appreciate all that you do and I'm loving the scrappy quilts I'm making after your visit to my guild in Colorado Springs. Rest and enjoy your weekend and know that the majority of us love you!! <3
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry that happened to you and I was also very shocked that it happened at all! I see you as a gentle loving soul Bonnie who very generously shares herself, her love, passion and life openly with family, friends and appreciative strangers around the world. I for one feel very blessed to have found you. Like many others here, please know I too am wrapping you in lots of love and hugs for a speedy recovery so you can return to your joyful nature very quickly and enjoy your time away in a beautiful place with your handsome husband. You are loved more than you know.
ReplyDeleteBonnie I'm sorry that you have to endure this kind of hateful words when you only give love. We are not all like this enjoy yourself with hubby get some sun relax and enjoy the peace. praying for you and your family. Pauline Lentsment
ReplyDeleteSo sorry that there are rude and ugly people in this world that chose to take your harmless words and read something into them that was not there. Please do not be upset at what they say, they are the ones with a problem. I am relatively new here but already know what a good person you are and have enjoyed and appreciated this blog and all the free stuff you provide. Don't let a few spoil it for everyone. Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with Family.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry that there are rude and ugly people in this world that chose to take your harmless words and read something into them that was not there. Please do not be upset at what they say, they are the ones with a problem. I am relatively new here but already know what a good person you are and have enjoyed and appreciated this blog and all the free stuff you provide. Don't let a few spoil it for everyone. Hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with Family.
ReplyDeleteIt has amazed me the things people are saying to one another!
ReplyDeleteI kind of missed yesterday's post sewing and all. I read it and was so excited to share my excitement for The Crown also. For me it has ended and I can't wait to see more...I hope there is more! I am looking forward to Friday this is the first year I will be home. You do so much for all in the quilting community. I am sorry that ingratitude is so rampant and that we just simply can not be kind to one another. Hope your Thanksgiving is fun and enjoyable!
Bonnie say this out loud as many times as it takes! Not my circus, not my monkeys. Those naysayers are not the whole of this group. So sorry you had to endure this. Those real followers are with you to share the love. Have a wonderful holiday and I hope you and your family enjoy yourself! Hugs from Texas!
ReplyDeleteThe majority of us who read your blog are here because we love you and love sharing your life with you. As a child, I was taught to treat people as I expected to be treated. Apparently, that isn't taught anymore. The new "rule" seems to be "Think of yourself first, since you are right and THEY are wrong." I am sending a virtual hug to someone who has become an important part of my life. I look forward to reading your blog each day, hoping some of your "scrapiness" will rub off on me. Looking forward to starting the mystery with you.
ReplyDeleteI hope you don't stop. I look forward to your posts. i Hope a few don't spoil it for all of us.
ReplyDeleteBest wishes to you
ReplyDeleteI must have missed all that while traveling....thank goodness! Hope you have a blessed and peaceful Thanksgiving, and days to come.....full of love for one another!
ReplyDeleteThe quality and intention of yesterday's message warmed my heart. You take the lead in communicating fairness, learning, sharing, and a safe place to visit in this internet world. My thanks for all you do and your giving yourself to all of us all these years. Whatever the outcome you will always have had an impact as a shining example of humanity in my life.
ReplyDeleteSincerely,
Li
I'm one of the many "Debbies" posting here :) - there are different ways of spelling our name which just shows that we are all individuals but have a sewing bond through quilting! :) Our individul differences make us unique and we should be respectful of each other and especially of you as this is your venue!! Just as many others have mentioned I totally agree with you. Thank you Bonnie for all of your terrific creative energy and promoting our fantastic passion with your blog, your books, your heartfelt comments and your knowledge!! Have a restful holiday and enjoy your time! Do take care and recharge!
ReplyDeleteKia Kaha Bonnie (Maori meaning "Stay Strong"). Happy Thanksgiving from Christchurch - New Zealand xx
ReplyDeleteI guess the only "good" side of this ugliness is that at least we know who the haters are now.They have come out of the shadows and sidelines and revealed their true selves. Small comfort, I know.
ReplyDeleteMay you spend your holiday surrounded by loving family and friends. May you find the peace and comfort that you so deserve from them.
ReplyDeleteHugs from the west coast, Bonnie. I'm so sorry that you had such hateful comments directed your way. Count me in with the thousands of people who love you, your thoughtfulness, your generosity, your blog, and your quilts!
ReplyDeleteBonnie, Please remember that the majority of us love you and really appreciate all of the heart, soul and sweat that you put into everything that you do. Please don't be disheartened
ReplyDeleteby the opinions of the very few. Hug your family and have a Wonderful Thanksgiving!
I'm really shocked to read you had bad comments at your blog. I really appreciate all your work and the great patterns you give out to make people happy and to share your passions. It is so so time consuming to post EVERY DAY and I can't name a blog that I'm so waiting for and feel so motivated to go on with all my unperfectness, like your blog does to me! Hope you keep your had up and don't let others smash mud on you. Thanks for all you do. Waiting for friday to come.
ReplyDelete*bighug* from Tunisia
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Just try to remember that people are people and that the majority of us feel the same way you do. There is no excuse for rudeness which is what you apparently experienced on, of all things, YOUR blog. Please continue your kindness & quilty energy as most of us appreciate it so much. You are such an inspiration to us!!! I hope you have a peaceful, wonderful Thanksgiving!!!
ReplyDeleteMy Prayers go out to you Bonnie. Please know that I support all the wonderful things you do for all of us out of your very generous and kind heart. You have taught me so much! Not just in quilting but so much more. You are someone who makes me feel like we have known each other for years even though I have only met you in person on one delightful occasion. I hope to change that soon by attending any one of your wonderful workshops when my work schedule allows me time off. Please know that myself and so many others enjoy reading your blog and seeing what makes you happy, your family, your pets and what struggles you deal with. That is what friendship is all about! Please keep doing what you do as I for one enjoy reading and learning of your day. Have a wonderful Thankgiving! God Bless!
ReplyDeleteAs you can see you are widely followed and admired. I enjoy reading your posts everyday. Good, bad, happy and sad. They are your thoughts and feelings. Others don't have to read it and for that matter they don't have to be unkind, rude and nasty. You don't need them and please continue what you do best. Make yourself happy.... take care.
ReplyDeleteBonnnie I hope you can feel the warm hugs that are surrounding you right now, it is sad that people can be so nasty today when all you do is spread love and happiness.. I hope you and your Hubster have a great Thanksgiving and return home with a renewed faith in people. Please don't let other influence what you do. You give so much of yourself and from the bottom of the world it is appreciated immensely.
ReplyDeleteBonnie, so sorry some people are so cruel. The world would be a much better place if more people were as caring and generous as you. Happy Thanksgiving. Thanks for all you do for us. Elaine
ReplyDeleteIsn't it sad that the minority choose to be most vocal! The problem is with them, not YOU! You are the best and the good people need to be more vocal about the best people. Hugs, I'm thankful for YOU.
ReplyDeletepox on these nasty people i say....forget them and enjoy your holiday....life is too short to let them rob you of serenity...
ReplyDeleteI am thankful for you Bonnie. Keep writing what you want when you want; I am appalled that you have suffered such rude comments! I read the post when you wrote it and I agree with you that we all need to love one another more in this world. I love reading your blog and have learned so much from you, I have tried several of your recipes (my hubster loves the soup made from leftover roasted chicken, in my recipe file I titled it Quiltville Soup). Enjoy a peaceful weekend with your hubster. Maybe you should put the "NO WHINING" sign on the header of the blog ;)
ReplyDeleteBonnie, I am so sorry for the ugly comments you recieved. You have a right to put on YOUR BLOG anything you want....and I read you faithfully every day....you have put NOTHING POLITICAL ON YOUR BLOG!!! I appreciate you and all you do for your fellow quilters. Please, never stop being you!
ReplyDeleteHi, I am a long time quilter who enjoys reading your blog and hearing how much joy you get from quilting. As to people attacking you for being upset with the rise of Neo-Nazism, I would think this is an emotion that almost everyone should share. The only way to counteract this is sharing kindness and acceptance of people. It is clear that you do this everyday. Kudos to you and thanks.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry this happened. People today... you have the right to say what you want on your blog. I review books and if they shed light on a personal understanding or belief I'll bring it out. Have a wonderful love filled holiday and let go of the turkeys ...
ReplyDeleteThank you for your blog. There are always those who can only feel good by making others feel bad. I think a lot of criticism is envyx
ReplyDeleteI am sorry for the hatred you received. I have always appreciated all your posts. I hope you can ignore the bad and take in the love being sent by me. Happy Thanksgiving
ReplyDeleteWow! You expressed your feeling, on your blog, in your time. You are right, it is like inviting us into your home, which is a privilege. Shame on those that would betray that privilege. Have a wonderful time away with that hubster. Have a Happy Thanksgiving from your Canadian friends. I am sooooo looking forward to Friday morning and sharing with 'civil' quilters around the world the gift that you have prepared for us.
ReplyDeleteOh Bonnie, my heart goes out to you. But----don't lose faith in all of us. I still think the majority of us feel the same way you do. I agree that the Internet makes it easy to be nasty and hateful but it also brings us wonderful things such as your blog! I know it is easy for me to say "hang in there', but know that most of your followers love you and your blog. I wish you and your family a peaceful and blessed Thanksgiving. I agree with another commenter that the mystery is slo-o-o-w in coming.lol oh by the way I rarely comment on any of "my" blogs but had to this time. I am very sorry that others were mean.
ReplyDeleteGiant hugs to you little lady,,,,u are so ,soooo loved by manyyyyyy,,,,,happy thanksgiving to you and your family,,,from me and my family
ReplyDeleteThank you for all you do, Bonnie. It is indeed a sad state of affairs where posting a plea for kindness and love is controversial. I have to believe that there are a lot more people out there who agree with your statements. I constantly pray for more kindness and love in our country and our world. I hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving with your loved ones!
ReplyDeleteI can't begin to imagine how violated you must feel. You put your heart and soul out in the public arena, because that's the kind of person you are - thoughtful, caring, decent, honest, trusting. Generous, friendly. (I think I could go on and on with the adjectives, and I've never even met you). Of course, the number of people who support you and are disgusted by the slams you took yesterday, far outweigh those who are bullying you. You are very important in the quilting community, so please try to put this incident behind you, and try not to be too troubled by it. Along with so many others, I truly enjoy your wise words, and look forward to seeing your Instagram posting each day.
ReplyDeleteOh dear, well I am sorry to read about all this. But hopefully these 383 supportive comments, plus mine, will put you back in a Thanksgiving frame of mind.
ReplyDeleteSo En Provence is hot off the longarm, if you are still sewing binding. Can't wait! What ever happened to those little blue & white churn dash blocks that you were sewing last winter? They're not the mystery colours. Did I miss that reveal? Anyway, happy turkey day!
Bonnie,
ReplyDeleteSo Sorry! to hear of this nastiness! This is your blog, your life, your feelings, your opinions, your thoughts, your space and your record of all things creative & quilty! You GRACIOUSLY share all of those things with us. Shame on those who chose to be rude in this place! NOTHING gives you the right to go off on Bonnie's blog. Don't like it here? Go write your own blog and take your political diatribes with you.
Dear Bonnie, unfortunately the Internet that allows us to share wonderful things and knowledge such as you do, also allows people to to hide in the shadows and spews garbage and hateful things they would not have the courage to do face to face. The same connectivity creates a horrible disconnect from our humanity, ethics, morals and accountability. The ability to ' hide' and isolate themselves fuels the negativity in their personalities and souls. I am so sorry for the things you have experienced; you are an amazingly open, caring and giving person who certainly does not deserve such treatment. Wishing you and yours a Happy Thanksgiving and a loving and peaceful Christmas season. Thank you for who you are. Sincerely, Diana G.
ReplyDeleteHugs to you, Bonnie, and have wonderful and peaceful Thanksgiving. Some people cannot see past their own small minds and have respect for others. Most people know that there was nothing "political" in your blog -- just a heart-felt wish for peace in our world. I applaud your writings and look forward to them every day :)
ReplyDeleteHI Bonnie, Shame on them! I know you have a thick skin and mostly you can let the comments the haters and ignorant people post, slide off your shoulders, but sometimes it just hurts and you can't ignore the meanness. But please know they represent such a small portion of the THOUSANDS of people that support you and wish you well. Your online presence means so much to so many people, I'm not sure you have any idea! Most of us will never get to take a class from you or meet you in person, yet you still are a large part of our daily lives. Take the time you need to recover from the assault of the online negative comments (from people who would never be brave enough to repeat those same comments to your face, i might add). Best wishes for a healing, relaxing and loving holiday in Florida. You matter! Best, Sue in SoCal
ReplyDeleteOh! I am so sorry! I can't believe how anyone could say anything negative about you. You are a breath of fresh air. I look forward to all your writings. You are never without a smile. You give so much. And you work so hard! I cannot imagine how you get as much done as you do. I know there are many that feel as I do, even if they don't take the time to comment. People, be KIND! You are my hero Bonnie. So, warm hugs, love as you are loved.
ReplyDeleteShame on haters. They are miserable and try to take others down that evil road.
ReplyDeleteI also hope they never comment again. I am glad I missed all the drama.
Tell hubby to breathe deep and watch for sharks.
Happy Thanksgiving my dear friend.
XOXOXO
Subee
Hi,
ReplyDeleteI have never commented here before, I always just read, enjoy and smile. I hope that the actions and words of some don't ruin you for the rest of us. There is always a bad apple in a group it never fails. As an american I can say it is great that they can say those things if they wish with our freedoms that most countries do not have. I also have to say as an american I have the right to not listen or fight back. I usually choose to not listen and walk away feeling sorry for them, as they have to be so negative in their lives and never know true peace. Bonnie remember that you know what peace is and don't let their negativity make you forget that. Thank you so much for what you have done for us quilters and for what you will do in the future for us.
Angela